jcaines Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Sent my ex a happy birthday email. We have been broken up two years. Unbelievably they replied "Hi. Thanks. I still think about you". If they still think about me then why have they not contacted me in the past? How can I exploit this opportunity to regain my ex?
Author jcaines Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Well this could be our second chance together?! No?!
patience-patience Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 If you still want her back, write back to her and keep it slow/relaxed ...I don't see why you should let go! The two factors that seem important for a sucessful second chance are (1) NC, and (2) restarting after more than 3-6 months after the breakup... so you are in a good position! Try to see if she is interested in meeting you
beyond Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Sent my ex a happy birthday email. We have been broken up two years. Unbelievably they replied "Hi. Thanks. I still think about you". If they still think about me then why have they not contacted me in the past? How can I exploit this opportunity to regain my ex? Whoa there! Two years of silence and then when they reply politely to an email with a seven word message you think it means you have a chance of getting back together??? I still 'think about' my ex's - doesn't mean I want to get back together with them. If the message had said they missed you and regretted splitting up every day and had been in a coma for the last two years which was why they couldn't contact you, then I'd maybe give it a chance.......but this is nothing. 2
Author jcaines Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Well why would they say it otherwise? Surely a "thank you" or no reply would be more indicative of an ex not wanting to rekindle the feelings than an ex who said they thought about me. I think surely you would have to either be pretty stupid or pretty cruel to tell an ex "I think about you" and not have nay intentions or feelings that may incline you to start up contact with them and see how things go?!
patience-patience Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Just write back and see where it goes. You have nothing to lose. It is of course too early to say it's a second chance, but if you write back, you should be fixed quickly. If she doesn't answer --> she was just being polite. 1
StyleOnEm Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 A lot of times people on this forum give the same advice over and over, to move on, to forget about your ex, etc. That's simply not the case. There have been plenty of times that old ex's ended up back together and had a stronger relationship because they both grew and matured over time. My advice to you is keep it light and casual, and after a few e-mails if you feel she's asking you questions about your life and is interested, offer to meet up for coffee/dinner to catch up. Only then will you be able to see what head space she's in, and if there's a chance for reconciliation. 2
Simon Phoenix Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Well this could be our second chance together?! No?! You are skipping a ton of steps here. It was an OK response, but pump the damn brakes dude. Not only are you putting the cart before the horse, you haven't even built the cart yet.
BC1980 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I would maybe email back something asking if she wants to meet up. Keep it casual. My cousin actually split from her now husband for 4 years before reconciling. So it does happen, but take is slow. I would even suggest a simple phone call first. You can't jump back where you left off.
hotpotato Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 In the grand scheme of things, 2 years isn't that long of a time. No one knows at this point if your ex wants you back, but light conversation won't hurt.
Spiritofmetal Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Whoa there! Two years of silence and then when they reply politely to an email with a seven word message you think it means you have a chance of getting back together??? I still 'think about' my ex's - doesn't mean I want to get back together with them. If the message had said they missed you and regretted splitting up every day and had been in a coma for the last two years which was why they couldn't contact you, then I'd maybe give it a chance.......but this is nothing. Lol Been in a coma XD i died at that. Maybe 2 years later the nurse was playing justin beiber's song But Yeah i think you should contact her, not thinking you still have a chance, just start from scratch be friends.
lylat333 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I know they've been here longer but I think these boards can be a bit harsh... admittedly there often isn't much hope when it comes to second chances, but this is one of those cases where it seems like a promising glimmer of light. Call me crazy, but I think responding with, "I still think of you" to an ex after 2 years is a pretty clear sign of something. imo that's a pretty gutsy thing to say to an ex. jcaines, I think it's OK to proceed and contact but hold back any expectations. It is possible you may have hit your ex in a moment of weakness and they said something that may not reflect where they really are.
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