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It's been 8 days since we had the argment, it wasn't even an arguement because he went fishing so an arguement wouldn't happen and exactly a week since he said I don't think we can come back from this.

 

I don't wonder what he's doing, I know what he's doing because he's fishing this weekend, next weekend I was supposed to visit and the following he will be 20 minutes from here for a family party I was invited too.

 

I am curious to his thoughts. I wonder if it pains him as it does me. I wonder when he sees my sons art work on his walls, when he sees my toothbrush and make up bag or my clothes hung in his closet. Does he think of me. Or is it just meaningless stuff now.

 

I know I'll never know, that I'm certain of. He's stubborn and even if he knew he'd made a mistake and was dying inside he wouldn't say so.

 

I think I'm doing a pretty good job of faking it until I make it. But on nights I miss him. When I close my eyes I think of things we did, and how so happy we were at the time.

 

It's been 1 whole week now. And I still love him with every breath.

 

Maybe week 2 will be easier although I doubt it and I dread the weekend he's home as I have a horrible feeling I'll have a knock on the door and it'll be him returning my things. There won't be any reminders for him anymore

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stay postive stay up. LOVE OURSELFS.....

 

stay no contact...

 

we will make it.

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Wow you sound just like me. I know how you feel exactly, well minus the son part. When I left her home, I left EVERYTHING. I too wonder the same things. I wonder If I cross her mind, I wonder if that all of my belongings are still in her room, does she sit there and wonder?

 

I'm not sure why we think that, I guess because it is so prevalent to us. We can't imagine the other person not caring. Deep down we still want to be cared about them. Lately the more I learn about my ex the more I'm glad to be away from her, but you know, I still would like to know the last 5 years meant something more than a body to keep her not from being alone...

 

You shouldn't worry though! You are a very pretty girl! Just get through the muck and the way I like to think of it as, make the next one an upgrade.

 

Stay Strong!

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If and when that day happens (returns your things) I and many of us will be here for you! Stay strong!

Thinking of you!

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Hang in there! I know for me, the first 2 weeks I was doing pretty good. Why, because deep down I thought FOR SURE he would realize he made a mistake. That he would cool down and come back. That there was no way he would walk away over 1 fight. It wasnt even a fight. It was over 2 emails that I had sent that was not very nice. We only talked on the phone a few days later for about 10 minutes. He expressed his hurt over those emails and said that maybe we could try again one day.

 

Ever since then, as the days goes by, I am getting worse and worse. I keep thinking that I am becoming more and more nothing but a distant memory. A less and less chance that he will come back and get me. I know it gets better in time, but for me, it must be time that is way down the road. But I know I will get there.

 

Hang in there and keep posting!

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Hang in there! I know for me, the first 2 weeks I was doing pretty good. Why, because deep down I thought FOR SURE he would realize he made a mistake. That he would cool down and come back. That there was no way he would walk away over 1 fight. It wasnt even a fight. It was over 2 emails that I had sent that was not very nice. We only talked on the phone a few days later for about 10 minutes. He expressed his hurt over those emails and said that maybe we could try again one day.

 

Ever since then, as the days goes by, I am getting worse and worse. I keep thinking that I am becoming more and more nothing but a distant memory. A less and less chance that he will come back and get me. I know it gets better in time, but for me, it must be time that is way down the road. But I know I will get there.

 

Hang in there and keep posting!

Yep! I thought the same thing.....that there was NO WAY he could stay away from me.

It's been almost 3 months. I guess he can :(

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I sure hope I'm not secretly thinking that. I am pretty certain he's done. The thing I find funny is the only thing I am at fault for is being a women and not wanting to share him.

 

I'll share him with his kids (that's a given) I treated them as my own. But when I asked about his joint bank account he claimed she didn't use and had no control over (total lie as I saw that she had increased his over draft) he clearly stated I will close it when I get a chance. I will never understand why I will be held at fault for something that is wrong with him not me.

 

I'm getting on with my stuff. Although tomorrow I'm posting a couple of things i had bought for him. I bought them previously and now cannot send back. He may say thanks, he may not, he may throw out my things, he may keep them or bring them back.

 

Right now I'm unsure what he will do. But right now I miss the man I thought I knew. Funny how you think you know someone and you actually don't

 

Xx

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