SJ69 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Hey guys! First I'd like to say I am in no way shape or form still in love with my ex or feel any emotional attachments to her, I'm just letting my curiosity get the best of me here. But, me and my ex broke up about 2-3 months ago, we go to different colleges and my life is really looking good so far! I was a mess after the breakup though. Anyway, my ex has completely changed, to the point where she is going down the wrong path. She is constantly talking to a new guy, drunk every night, partying, hanging out with people and doing things that she used to make fun of, it's kind of embarrassing and hurtful for me to see her this way. And she thinks she's so cool because of it. Everybody sees this change in her. When we were together, she was always making fun of people that did that and lost so much weight with me and seemed to be doing great. Well, she broke up with me, and I slowly saw the change in her happening two weeks prior, so it was expected, but what's wrong with her? She's acting like a fool. She wants these low-life's to like her and she's demeaning herself to fit their expectations. At a party recently she went out of her way to try and make me jealous, etc. She has no self-respect anymore and she used to be so beautiful.
flitzanu Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 that's the "her" that she wants to be right now. 2
Author SJ69 Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 I'm not concerned because she's making a fool of herself, but I know who she really is and it hurts me to see her do this to her image and herself. Is there any explanation as to why she's being this version of "her"? 1
hurts2death Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 due to gigs///// grass is greener syndrome
flitzanu Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I'm not concerned because she's making a fool of herself, but I know who she really is and it hurts me to see her do this to her image and herself. Is there any explanation as to why she's being this version of "her"? nothing that will make any sense to "you" since you're not her. plus a lot of it is perception. the things you perceive as being "so strange" may be perfectly normal to the people closest to her right now.
Author SJ69 Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Do you guys think at any time she will be broken of her ways right now? And how she's foolishly acting?
Author SJ69 Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 How is how she's acted related to gigs syndrome?
theonlyjuan Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 People act different, it just happens. You shouldn't really care tbh just let her get on with it.
Ireallydontknow Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 With all due respect, who cares? Let her be self destructive. I've lived the party life and it ain't that great. It's even worse for a woman. I've met some of the worst people in my life in those times. Just keep bettering yourself. Seriously though, how ever you are getting information about her, stop. 2
youngnlove89 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Sometimes people change and forget to tell one another.
flitzanu Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Do you guys think at any time she will be broken of her ways right now? And how she's foolishly acting? why is it relevant? her behavior has no bearing on your life or your behavior. people have the freedom to behave in whichever manner they choose. it doesn't matter if we find it abhorrent or unlike them, it is their choice.
Chi townD Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 You stated that she lost a lot of weight with you? Well, that could be a reason right there. She lost weight, feeling good about her new body and she's liking the attention from other guys.
forgetmenot75 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Well, don't feel hurt. She's having a good time, obviously, partying, getting drunk, meeting new people, sleeping around surely... I mean she's young, right? You should concentrate in your own life. If you wouldn't care, you shouldn't be observing what he does or not, I mean, you are losing time even posting here about her. I'm sure she's having fun right now. Go have some fun yourself, don't be so rigid .
Sugarkane Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I'm not surprised a lot of dumpers do this. Blame everything on you, then completely change as to justify their Behaviour. Luckily this is not your problem now if she wants to sleep around etc.
templeofmax Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 It is called 'coping'!!!! She started doing it before she left you! Its a defense mechanism to not feel pain, to show the outside world and themselves that everything is fine! Some people cope like this, others cope like my ex who is traveling, having fun, posting pictures looking really happy! It took me a while to get it as I could;t fathom how she could be soo happy. I knew her as someone different, who knew she was also causing me hurt as I was to her, so it was a schock to me. But nothing is what it seems and even if we want them back or not, I believe that the reality will hit hard down the line, but us being there, we are feeding their coping. Psychology is very fascinating indeed. I am guessing that is why some dumpers come back, cause there is a point where 'reality' hits them like a ton of bricks. The way your ex is acting not only is unhealthy both physically and emotionally, but also highly immature. 1
templeofmax Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Hahahahaa, man, I was talking to the original poster of this!!!! 1
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