dreameater Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Here is the original story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/420979-do-i-still-stand-chance At the beginning, my success is really high, but I think I watch too much dramas, so I thought doing the opposite way can get her back, but no... I read the 10 mistakes we should not do too late... She officially dumped me last 7 months (because I pushed her away). She dated with a guy in prison over the phone for 5 months! This guy manipulate her by asking her to pick up the phone whenever he call because he have to wait 45mins in order to talk on the phone. So, they have conversation at least 2 times a day while I only talk to her 1 time a week! My mistake not to take this seriously when she told me he is trying to date her! Then they officially date in person for 2 months till now after he is out! Since we broke up, I lost my confidence and everything. I even think about suicide! But I have my parents to take care, so I torture myself... Burn out at work everyday without letting people know! I then read books trying to get ex back and I progress... I go out, meet new friends, workout, enjoy my life and go into NC. Every time she has problems with that guy, she call me and I am too gentle, so I fall into the trap... 5 times... Because of this, it seems that her wound is cured and she is actually with him and enjoy her life! I hide my stats to EVERYONE even my brothers and best friends because they are still in contact with her and I don't want them disclose any of my status to her. I go out pretending to be happy and enjoy everything, but at least 1 min in my day, I stay there lonely and think about her... Pray for hope to get her back for my mistake... I meet new girls so I can cure myself too, but realize that all the good one that I want are taken! This is crazy! 5 months have passed and I am still under stress while she enjoy her life with that guy. Whenever I think about them kissing, having sex, it drives me crazy! I try not to think, but I cannot pass myself! In front of people, I act cool pretending I am looking for new girls, but when I am alone and drink, I keep thinking about her... A month ago, I block her number as I asked her to leave me alone and I went into NC again... 22 days passed... She contacted me as she beg me to be her friend because I am a really beta male (very good guy)! I don't want to stuck into the friend zone! Fail on phone, she tried on FB, then my work email, then call me again, then FB again by saying: "Allo! Anyway! I see that you do not want to know anything about this friend! I will not bother you anymore!!" What should I do now? Do I have to reply to her? How can I stop torturing myself if I don't have any opportunity to meet the one I want if all are taken? Why life is so miserable when talking about love?
melell Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Here is the original story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/420979-do-i-still-stand-chance At the beginning, my success is really high, but I think I watch too much dramas, so I thought doing the opposite way can get her back, but no... I read the 10 mistakes we should not do too late... She officially dumped me last 7 months (because I pushed her away). She dated with a guy in prison over the phone for 5 months! This guy manipulate her by asking her to pick up the phone whenever he call because he have to wait 45mins in order to talk on the phone. So, they have conversation at least 2 times a day while I only talk to her 1 time a week! My mistake not to take this seriously when she told me he is trying to date her! Then they officially date in person for 2 months till now after he is out! Since we broke up, I lost my confidence and everything. I even think about suicide! But I have my parents to take care, so I torture myself... Burn out at work everyday without letting people know! I then read books trying to get ex back and I progress... I go out, meet new friends, workout, enjoy my life and go into NC. Every time she has problems with that guy, she call me and I am too gentle, so I fall into the trap... 5 times... Because of this, it seems that her wound is cured and she is actually with him and enjoy her life! I hide my stats to EVERYONE even my brothers and best friends because they are still in contact with her and I don't want them disclose any of my status to her. I go out pretending to be happy and enjoy everything, but at least 1 min in my day, I stay there lonely and think about her... Pray for hope to get her back for my mistake... I meet new girls so I can cure myself too, but realize that all the good one that I want are taken! This is crazy! 5 months have passed and I am still under stress while she enjoy her life with that guy. Whenever I think about them kissing, having sex, it drives me crazy! I try not to think, but I cannot pass myself! In front of people, I act cool pretending I am looking for new girls, but when I am alone and drink, I keep thinking about her... A month ago, I block her number as I asked her to leave me alone and I went into NC again... 22 days passed... She contacted me as she beg me to be her friend because I am a really beta male (very good guy)! I don't want to stuck into the friend zone! Fail on phone, she tried on FB, then my work email, then call me again, then FB again by saying: "Allo! Anyway! I see that you do not want to know anything about this friend! I will not bother you anymore!!" What should I do now? Do I have to reply to her? How can I stop torturing myself if I don't have any opportunity to meet the one I want if all are taken? Why life is so miserable when talking about love? Forget love forget romance. Stop defining your life by your relationships with others. You are a person, an individual, you don't need love to be happy. Get that idea out of your head first of all. Don't go looking for anyone. Just be you until you are comfortable with just you. 1
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Her new IDIOT is in prison???? Go back to your original post and read my response! Get as far away from this woman as possible, as soon as you can!!!!
Author dreameater Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Her new IDIOT is in prison???? Go back to your original post and read my response! Get as far away from this woman as possible, as soon as you can!!!! I cannot! My brothers, best friends are still in contact with her and as I said, she is a good girl and they don't know what happen with us. So they are still in contact with her! My best friend has to split his time. Hanging with her without me, or with me without her. Before, we used to hangout all together... The only way is I move out, but I am stuck with my parents here! I cannot move... So, the NC will last what? 1 month then she will contact me again? Also, I am Asian, and Asian are weird! Whenever I go out, they are ALL in couple except me and I am the most handsome of all of them! All my uncle find that bizarre because how come the most handsome person is alone and not the rest? And they are embarrassing me! I tried to enjoy my life by going to a trip alone, but eating alone is weird... People find that bizarre. Last time, I comment on my friend FB page, she suddently comment ordering me not to be rude. WTH? She acts like she was my GF! Now, I am stuck and I have no idea what to do! I have to go back to work in 2 days and I will burn out again! This has been last for over 7 months!
melell Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Because you are focusing on romance and companionship as if it is the be all and end all. If you want to stop feeling this way you need to reevaluate what makes you happy in life. 1
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