kazuma Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Hi LoveShack! I had a question regarding letting someone you only recently met/date/talked to personal information about yourself that allows people to understand why you are the way you are and accept your differences? I have a series of experiences that truly shaped how I am as a person and I feel that people don't understand me and write me off due to the way I am, especially women that I'm interested in. I think they would be more understanding and accepting if they knew the facts about myself but I don't know when/if disclosing information is a valid option. I made this generic but if you need more information to understand then please let me know and I'll post the story.
white Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Depends on the severity of the information. The worse it is, the longer you'll want to hold off revealing it if you want it accepted. Certainly, something like childhood sexual abuse doesn't go down well at all. History of drug usage or disorders of the mind aren't great. Ongoing therapy is mildly troubling. A bad ex or very limited relationship experience is fairly lightweight. Etcetera. If you only recently met, the deeper personal issues should wait. They don't deserve that level of trust and nothing good will come of it.
Author kazuma Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Well, it's nothing THAT bad. Mainly growing up with poverty and in a bad neighborhood, with no friends/no one to socialize with since I picked on and it lasted until I started high school; which explains my poor social skills/awkwardness/quietness. Not only that I was raised by a single parent who I lost to cancer in the 8th grade and so I was moved to a foster home with a family that didn't care about me. I'm also inexperienced in dating and dealing with women in general. I've been through a lot so I've always been more mature and considerate of others. I'm now a somewhat middle class 30 year old and It just seems like most people I meet don't seem interested enough to really talk to me because of my poor social skills/quietness that is due to the lack of social interactions at an early age and for such a long time...
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