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I met this girl two weeks ago while we were waiting for the bus back and we started talking on the bus ride home and we had a spark straight away exchanged numbers before got off at our respective stops. She made the first move by texting me that same night and i followed suit by calling her first and we stayed on the phone for roughly 3 hrs and from there on in we talked every possible moment we could until last Thursday were i had reached the point were i had nothing to say and i was being a bit of a douche but not really listening to her that much anymore and then i said "Were moving too fast" then my mother came home. I fell asleep at that point and forgot to call her back which drove her crazy understandably. Before this fight we were arranging to meet up the next day since she was going to be in my area for the day and am 22 and she's 18 but she lives in another part of town. Now she says she's not ready for a relationship.

 

I have tried apologizing through sending her text messages and calling her which results in silent pause within conversation and her saying why don't i find other people that are much better than her and which i reply "I Like You" and since then she has been pushing me away and not always replying to my texts and most frequently returning my calls now. I Need HELP!!!

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Dude. You didnt call her back... that is all. Plus it seems, like she said, she doesnt want a r/s

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You gave her one signal you wanted to back off a bit (saying We're moving too fast) and then you didn't return her text so she was wondering what was going on. She took the second signal as confirmation you had backed of and didn't care any more. Now that you want to be in contact again, she's thinking you are untrustworthy and may well dump her unpredictably again so she won't take the risk. The experience turned her off.

 

It does sound like you were both moving too fast, maybe she was putting the pressure on a bit and you needed to step back. It's possible if you apologise profusely for hurting her and say that you'd like to get to know her, that she will relent but don't bank on it. If she does relent, you may find yourself back in the situation of feeling pressured again but hopefully you will both have learned how to balance things.

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thanks spidey that really helped but i have tried to apologize very profusely and she just ignore the majority of them until she replied with the same message of am a great guy and she isn't looking for a relationship even though i suggested taking things slowly and also respecting this break period but assured me she not looking for anyone else due to the fact she is very sensitive and rarely lets people outside of family in and i really hurt her when i said take a break which she did interpret as break-up which i reassured her wasn't the case and then i processed to ask her the same question a few days later and she declined that she wanted to end whatever this as so am stuck right now

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