BF and i Broke up - I was Devastated - 2 weeks later I'm over it?

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Ok so two weeks ago me and my boyfriend broke up. I was devastated. He was mean to me one day the next he'd ask me to come over and talk. I cried every night. I thought the world was coming to an end. So i decided not to sit home and sulk anymore, so this weekend i lived it up and had the time of my life. Now yesterday he wanted to talk again. So we did and we kissed and i felt nothing!!! Absolutely nothing. I just didn't want to kiss him. It was all different. Could i have gotten over a 2.5 year relationship in 2 weeks? And i feel bad that I'm over this already. I DO want to be with him and i DO want to make things work out but how could i fall out of love so quickly? Can i get it back?

[Sealy]

im in pretty much the same situation... its been a month since my gf and i split, prolly about 2 weeks since she told me it was well and truely over (what can i say, im a slow learner ). i still miss her

 

NC helped stacks! she called me about a week ago and i told her i was busy with exams and she should give me a call on the weekend but no call so far... thank god. i dont wanna stir up feelings that took some real hard work to get over.

 

id say give it a couple of days... if you still feel the same then maybe those feelings really have gone. if both of you are serious about giving it another shot then you'll most likely get it back in some form or another, i mean it was only 2 weeks ago and you did love him for the majority of the 2.5 years...

 

to be honest ya gotta find out what he wants, if hes got no plans to try again then your not helping yourself by hanging on to that hope.

[morrigan]

Feelings change, and people's perspectives on another person will shift after a breakup. You think you should be devastated or heartbroken after a breakup, but sometimes you don't feel that way.

 

As far as wanting to get back with you boyfriend, if you don't feel an attraction towards him anymore, I would suggest not rushing to reconcile. Definitely take a breather from one another for several months--don't hang out together or contact eachother. Be cautious about your ex's hot and cold behavior towards you--what problems there were that caused the breakup could potentially occur again if you did get back with him.

[LexiB]

wow. I wish I coulda recovered that quickly (4mos and counting...)

 

Dont feel bad abt it, consider yourself lucky

[alphamale]

Maybe you are over him in two wks because THERE WASN"T MUCH TO GET OVER.

[DutyPaid]

Originally posted by alphamale

Maybe you are over him in two wks because THERE WASN"T MUCH TO GET OVER.

took the words out of my mouth

 

if you go back with him it will end again anyway

[DESI]

Like someone said before, consider yourself lucky. 6 months for me and I am still not over it.

[hurtingandconfused]

Could i have gotten over a 2.5 year relationship in 2 weeks?

No, you'll have your ups and downs.

[radioactive]

One of my friends is going through something, only they are having a long distance relationship.

 

I think- I don't know if I'm right, but I think- that maybe you are too hurt after the break up which is why you don't want to kiss him, and why you don't feel anything when you kiss him. you should really think about what you are feeling in relation to him- if you are angry or hurt or sad....if you want to continue without him or if you want him in your life. you might need time to recover before going out with him again, so don't rush into anything.

 

Try not to decide anything when you are emotional, because a lot depends on your decision and you don't deserve to suffer from a regrettable decision.

 

Just be careful not to get hurt. Your happiness comes first.

[Merin]

Perhaps you just gained a different perspective when you actually got out and had some fun..

 

I think that often when there has been a break up people begin to feel that they will never be happy again or find any joy in anything else.. then once they get out and find the world actually hasn't stopped it puts a different perspective on things..

 

That they are strong enough to go on and they can be happy again without the EX.

 

Who knows.. as hurtingandconfused suggested, this may be an "up moment" and Yay for real for those! but it's also possible still to have one of those "down moments" when maybe things aren't looking so great...

 

I'm going to keep my fingers crossed for you that this "YAY" moment last for you girl!