HappyLove Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 If you ask whats wrong with you why are you single, I'm immediately turned off. I leave out politics and religion. A lot of times the men drift into talking about work. I usually try to just let the conversation flow but was wondering if there is anything you should walk away knowing for sure on that first date. Is it too forward to ask things like what are you looking for in a relationship? I also don't like being asked about my past or last relationship. So what are some questions you like to ask or be asked on a first date?
2sure Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I like to talk about vacations. I like to travel, so that's important to me , but if someone doesn't I'd still like to know....camping? Resorts? Where? What someone does with their vacation time tells you a lot more than what they do in their free time. It tells you about their goals, means, plans, and dreams. It leads to stuff.
HokeyReligions Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Where did you go to school. Do you have a big family. Are you a dog or a cat person. Hobbies. As mentioned - travel. Movies, books TV show's, sports. It depends on where you are and what you're doing. I tried to look around and converse about the shared experience. "I love this song" "these are great seats" "I like sonso did you see his other movie..." if its a negative keep it to your self if possible on the first date. No "this place is too crowded" "we have to park way back here?" "His last movie bombed" I haven't dated in 30 years but I doubt it changed.
white Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I keep away from anything to do with material wealth, because people can hang themselves with that in my eyes if they then talk about it anyway. Their holidays, their car/s, homes etc. Instant desire to leave. I like to talk about family, because that's important to me. Pets. Work is good if they do something interesting or new to me, my works interesting too. What they like to watch - I can be put off fast by a litany of soaps, talent shows and **** movies. Interests - don't care what they are or if you don't have any, but I can smell bull***** with these and I'm more interested in whether you bull***** than whether you collect your own bellybutton fluff. Most recent book read - good for putting them on the spot. Something about their dress or accessories if possible - they don't wear their grandmas brooch or that wacky ass shirt for nothing. If you can evince anything about their childhoods with all this, probing into that is always good for meaningful discussion.
Author HappyLove Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 I keep away from anything to do with material wealth, because people can hang themselves with that in my eyes if they then talk about it anyway. Their holidays, their car/s, homes etc. Instant desire to leave. I like to talk about family, because that's important to me. Pets. Work is good if they do something interesting or new to me, my works interesting too. What they like to watch - I can be put off fast by a litany of soaps, talent shows and **** movies. Interests - don't care what they are or if you don't have any, but I can smell bull***** with these and I'm more interested in whether you bull***** than whether you collect your own bellybutton fluff. Most recent book read - good for putting them on the spot. Something about their dress or accessories if possible - they don't wear their grandmas brooch or that wacky ass shirt for nothing. If you can evince anything about their childhoods with all this, probing into that is always good for meaningful discussion. Childhood is a really great one! You learn a lot about a person that way. I too hate a bragging man. I had a guy start off first sentence bragging about buying a big house for his boat. Good for you! Didn't meet up with him. I just feel like secure people don't brag about material stuff. And people who are well off most times won't put it out there it's usually B.S.
HokeyReligions Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I keep away from anything to do with material wealth, because people can hang themselves with that in my eyes if they then talk about it anyway. Their holidays, their car/s, homes etc. Instant desire to leave. I like to talk about family, because that's important to me. Pets. Work is good if they do something interesting or new to me, my works interesting too. What they like to watch - I can be put off fast by a litany of soaps, talent shows and **** movies. Interests - don't care what they are or if you don't have any, but I can smell bull***** with these and I'm more interested in whether you bull***** than whether you collect your own bellybutton fluff. Most recent book read - good for putting them on the spot. Something about their dress or accessories if possible - they don't wear their grandmas brooch or that wacky ass shirt for nothing. If you can evince anything about their childhoods with all this, probing into that is always good for meaningful discussion. Why would you want to put someone on the spot? Especially if its a first date!
kazuma Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 (edited) decided to delete my comment and create a new thread about it. Edited September 1, 2013 by kazuma
white Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Why would you want to put someone on the spot? Especially if its a first date! Especially because it is a first date. I'm not holding a gun to their heads. It's pretty gentle spot-putting. If they can't come up with a book they read recently or their eyes dart around and they blurt "Crime and Punishment" or they say 50 Shades of Grey, that's a solid piece of negative character evidence. If they say something appallingly intellectual, you know you've got a poser on your hands. If they say something really weird or dorky or history buffish or the combat operators manual for the M1A1 Abrams tank, that's a fantastic conversation starter.
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