clairedunham Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 My ex contacted me out if the blue. I ran into his mom and apologized for all the trouble I made and she said she wanted to see me get better. I guess she told my ex and he called. He said he was sorry for disappearing that with his moms divorce and money problems and no job that he needed a break. Im still hurting and dont know whats going to happen but Im gonna take it one step at a time. I will also not get back together with him because Im still doubtful and thinking ahout MY life.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 My ex contacted me out if the blue. I ran into his mom and apologized for all the trouble I made and she said she wanted to see me get better. I guess she told my ex and he called. He said he was sorry for disappearing that with his moms divorce and money problems and no job that he needed a break. Im still hurting and dont know whats going to happen but Im gonna take it one step at a time. I will also not get back together with him because Im still doubtful and thinking ahout MY life. I was concerned when I saw this post and who wrote it, but I LOVE how you ended it. You've moved leaps and bounds in just a little bit. Its not done though.... That phone call sounded pretty led on by his mom. It probably was a genuine apology in some aspect, but I doubt that call would have happened otherwise. The "sorry for disappearing" and whatever for reason a,b,c and THAT being the reason he wasn't talking to you sounds very lame. Either way, keep moving forward. Do NOT go backwards.
Author clairedunham Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 He told me he misses me. But Im still doubtful. He left me sick and literally ill. 1
BC1980 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Missing you does not mean he wants to get back together. Speaking from experience here. Also, loads of other people on this forum will tell you the same. 2
Author clairedunham Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 Missing you does not mean he wants to get back together. Speaking from experience here. Also, loads of other people on this forum will tell you the same. Agreed. But we are speaking a lot on the phone and I should play hard
Author clairedunham Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 If you're speaking on the phone a lot, you're not playing real hard... Thats what Im saying. I should play hard but he was telling me about his issues and he has always been there to listen to me. Now it is my time to listen
Author clairedunham Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 How about stop playing? Yea it is a childs game. More like respecting and make him work for it cause I did get needy and that pissed him off and he became a little jerk
robsa Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Definitely, him telling you that he misses you or even that he loves you does not mean he wants you back! They are normal feelings even for the dumper! 1
Author clairedunham Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 I cant rely on him. Things may happen as in he could find love somewhere else and I get to live a totally different life. Maybe it wont work and Ill find love somewhere else but I genuinely believe that Im not on this planet to get married and have babies. If it happens with him because I adore him than so be it but iff this doesnt work out Im so sure Im not gonna keep datin from here till 10 years
JDPT Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 No, it's not. He broke up with you. If he has issues, let him find a therapist. Absolutely, he is a big boy he can take care of himself. He doesn't need anyone to hold his hand through anything. It's time to be selfish and in this case that's perfectly fine. Focus on yourself and your issues and not so much on his. 1
Author clairedunham Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 We cant be together. I love him but we cant be together 1
Sparkle304 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 WOW! You're a strong woman. Now, don't lead him on. Tell him it's over. And no more contact.
Author clairedunham Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Back in 2009 I went through a horrible break up that tore me down cause in 2009 months before the break up I started to get depressed and all the issues emerged. I guess my mind is not letting me to go through it again 1
Author clairedunham Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 Last night me and my ex who contacted me spoke on the phone let out all his feelings and told me if I would consider going to couples counseling. I was shocked. Guy who became a jerk and was tugging me back and forth says he still loves me. I told him I should be single for a while and figure things out and he agreed. He says all he wants be to be is happy and wants me to get better. He is also dealing with his own issues in which he needs his space but he told me to meet up with him today. Maybe we will maybe we wont. Let's see what happens.
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