They say everything happens for a reason

[hopefulfaerie]

I also hear the things we experience are lessons that we need to learn.

 

I was thinking in my case anyway, that maybe my lesson in this nightmare was for me to learn from the men here. Or more about them.

 

Now this is NOT man bashing! I love men! I love the way a man smells after a shower and then applies aftershave, I love their big protective hands, I love how they look when they hold a baby, I love the way their jaw clenches when they are in serious thought, I love their deep voices and I really love how they have such strength and yet can be so gentle.

Ha Ha! Anyway....getting to the point.

 

I honestly NEVER in my 41 years knew the depth of a man's love for a woman until I started reading these posts about 3 months ago.

 

I guess I always thought being the "fairer" and more "emotional" sex that a man couldn't possibly love near as deeply as I do. That he could never daydream about romantic gestures from me or even long to hear my voice. Come to find out (thankfully) that's just BS!

A man's love for a woman is just as intense, passionate, and all consuming as any woman's.

 

I guess I always just assumed (wrongly) that men didn't care near as much as women because of my father. (I LOVE MY DAD) and wouldn't want to have any other....now...that being said....he is very unemotional and very scientific. I call him "SPOCK". He believes everything we do goes back to the caveman days for our survival and that "LOVE" is just a trick that Mother Nature plays on us to reproduce. Real romantic huh?

He also believes that relationships are MUCH more important to a woman because we "NEED" them for food, shelter etc. He is not a chauvinist pig... he just thinks its embedded in our DNA from thousands possibly millions of years.

There may be some truth to that, maybe not. Whatever.

So I guess I always thought I loved the man more than he loved me because he doesn't "NEED" me.

 

After reading these posts from a lot of men I finally realized DAD IS WRONG!!! ha ha!

I have read some of the most beautiful and romantic posts here by MEN!

You guys really DO love us just as deeply as we love you.

I know in my next relationship I will remember all the sentiments the men on here said. I will NEVER AGAIN doubt the depth of a man's love!

 

I have to say one more time.....I love my dad!!! ha ha! He is and always will be the greatest man in my life. He is the best dad any girl could have and taught me a lot of valuable lessons.

 

NOW THIS IS FOR THE MEN HERE!!!!

I am so sorry I didn't give you guys enough credit!

WE LOVE YOU!!!

 

and I LOVE YOU!!!!! (Here's to the MEN) Cheers!!!!!

If I had never been so hurt and heartbroken, I would have never come here and learned so much from you (MWAH!)

[BrokenHeartedSavior]

Thank You Ma'am!

 

As a 46 y/o guy I can assure you that you are correct! Lots of us guys are thought of as "machines" Clinical, mechanical, cold.

 

Nothing could be further from the truth. As you can see, there are A LOT of us on this forum who are not that way, we are loving, caring, EMOTIONAL, broken human beings who have been dumped.

 

Yep, we're out here.

 

Again, thank you for recognizing it.

[JDPT]

This post definitely made me feel good.

Coming from a 31 year old male I can certainly resonate with many of the things you stated. There is perhaps this ubiquitous misconception that men do not feel, oh we feel just as much as women do. We may at times be terrible at showing it and very talented at disguising our feelings.

To me personally there is nothing like female companionship. I quiet honestly prefer to have female friends as opposed to male friends.

I deeply appreciate your post as we learn from each other in this life long journey.

[hopefulfaerie]

You are welcome!!! And thank you!

[Ireallydontknow]

I'm not sure what to think of this haha. I was with a feminist for 5 years...yeah...

[hopefulfaerie]

I'm not sure what to think of this haha. I was with a feminist for 5 years...yeah...

I'm a feminist myself. ha ha! I mean, I know I don't NEED a man for survival or anything. I have always been very independent (again, Thank you dad!)

BUT I sure do love them!!!! And life can be soooooo wonderful with the right man!!!!

 

I read your story and my heart goes out to you! Hope you are getting stronger every day!

I just woke up and had dreams we were back together.....GRRRRRRRR!!!!!

I HATE that!

[Brown-Eyez]

I also hear the things we experience are lessons that we need to learn.

 

I love men! I love the way a man smells after a shower and then applies aftershave, I love their big protective hands, I love how they look when they hold a baby, I love the way their jaw clenches when they are in serious thought, I love their deep voices and I really love how they have such strength and yet can be so gentle.

Ha Ha! Anyway....getting to the point.

 

 

Very well said, I feel exactly the same way (sigh)..it sucks to be without him.

[hopefulfaerie]

Very well said, I feel exactly the same way (sigh)..it sucks to be without him.

It really sucks!!!

No way around that one!

[Brown-Eyez]

I also hear the things we experience are lessons that we need to learn.

 

I was thinking in my case anyway, that maybe my lesson in this nightmare was for me to learn from the men here. Or more about them.

 

 

I guess I always just assumed (wrongly) that men didn't care near as much as women because of my father. (I LOVE MY DAD) and wouldn't want to have any other....now...that being said....he is very unemotional and very scientific. I call him "SPOCK". He believes everything we do goes back to the caveman days for our survival and that "LOVE" is just a trick that Mother Nature plays on us to reproduce. Real romantic huh?

He also believes that relationships are MUCH more important to a woman because we "NEED" them for food, shelter etc. He is not a chauvinist pig... he just thinks its embedded in our DNA from thousands possibly millions of years.

There may be some truth to that, maybe not. Whatever.

So I guess I always thought I loved the man more than he loved me because he doesn't "NEED" me.

 

After reading these posts from a lot of men I finally realized DAD IS WRONG!!! ha ha!

I have read some of the most beautiful and romantic posts here by MEN!

You guys really DO love us just as deeply as we love you.

I know in my next relationship I will remember all the sentiments the men on here said. I will NEVER AGAIN doubt the depth of a man's love!

 

I have to say one more time.....I love my dad!!! ha ha! He is and always will be the greatest man in my life. He is the best dad any girl could have and taught me a lot of valuable lessons.

 

 

 

I just read a great book by Pia Mellody called the Intimacy Factor which you might find helpful during your time of healing..

[hopefulfaerie]

I just read a great book by Pia Mellody called the Intimacy Factor which you might find helpful during your time of healing..

I will definitely check that one out! Thanks!!