irc333 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I was out with some friends the other night, it was Meetup event, and one of the ladies brought 5 more rather attractive women to the group...most of the people in said group are spoken for or kind of older in years. So it was nice to see a series of fresh new faces to get to know. Well, turns out one of them was married, another engaged, and the rest had boyfriends. Buzzkill, but I still flirted regardless since, well, it was a "Girls Night Out" for them and well, if he ain't around what would the boyfriend know, right? I didn't flirt with the married or engaged one, but one with the boyfriends...well, boyfriends always come and go. But...anyhow, regardless, I sometimes wonder the desire to hit clubs and bars is really all that interesting to a woman that's already "taken" but, I wonder if said women get tired of being hit on by legitimately single guys and will just stay at home or find non-night club related activities to do. I even asked one of the said women to join me in a dance (the one that had a boyfriend), and she complied...so at least I got some fun out of it. LOL But it can be frustrating for guys regardless. They left early, and the rest of our regulars stayed around and I said to one o f them, "Man, I can't believe they all had boyfriends and crap". And he was like "Meh, they always do" lol
Treasa Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I think SOME women just want to get a lot of male attention. Maybe they just like the attention, maybe they're swingers, maybe they have low self-esteem. Meh, you're too good for them anyway. 1
sillyanswer Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Perhaps they like to have a drink and a dance with their friends? 28
Treasa Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Perhaps they like to have a drink and a dance with their friends? ....Actually, that's probably it. I lack reading comprehension today. Silly's right. 1
veggirl Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Where would you suggest taken women have girls night out if bars/clubs are off limits? I have been to many bars with girlfriends when in a relationship, I mean that is truly NOT a strange thing to do. We went to socialize and drink. I mean....what's confusing about this? Where should we have gone? We could go to a restaurant but typically they aren't cool with you sticking around for 3 hours after you eat. also, as far as it being a Meetup event, unless it is a singles group I'm not sure why coupled up folks would be frowned upon attending. 8
truth_seeker Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Perhaps they like to have a drink and a dance with their friends? This, and they want male attention. All women who get dolled up and go out want attention. If they didn't, they would just throw on sweats and not put on any makeup. 3
fanine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 It's not like the only reason people ever go to clubs is to score with the opposite sex. I don't think there's a sign at the door saying that is what you have to do yes sure some people do, but mainly clubs are places where people can let their hair down a bit and sometimes it might be the only place to get a drink late at night. Just a bit more exciting than a pub or bar. 2
fanine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 This, and they want male attention. All women who get dolled up and go out want attention. If they didn't, they would just throw on sweats and not put on any makeup. That's assuming the only reason women make themselves look good is for the benefit of men? Hardly. Plenty of women will get 'dolled up' because sometimes it's nice to get out of those sweats. Not for anyone else's benefit but for themselves. 9
Treasa Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I think there's going to be a mix of reasons. Some girls just want to go out. Sometimes I'll dress cutely just for myself, and not even go anywhere. I misread the OP as the taken girls flirting with him, not the other way around. My bad.
mario_C Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 This, plus when you approach and they're not interested, they say they're in a relationship. 1
bentleychic Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I go to clubs to 1)enjoy the music 2)enjoy the companionship with friends 3)enjoy the alcohol. 2
candie13 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 This, and they want male attention. All women who get dolled up and go out want attention. If they didn't, they would just throw on sweats and not put on any makeup. of course. And men in relationships hitting the bars should... not wash for two days and appear wearing their pyjamas, to prove they don't want any attention . Women will doll up when they go to clubs, it's part of the fun, the ritual, the pleasure of going out. Call it the social standard. Women in relationships - bf, fiance, husband - hitting the club with the gfs, having a drink, dancing, talking: acceptable, in my book. Women in relationships allowing other men to hit on them and interact with these other men: unacceptable. In a club, bar, grocery shop or bakery. 6
MrCastle Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 People in relationships should be forced to wear a scarlet R on all their clothing so we know who's who. 14
Mascara Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 This kind of confusion among the male populace is why me and my girls often just hit the gay clubs if what we want is a girls night out. 9
bentleychic Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 People in relationships should be forced to wear a scarlet R on all their clothing so we know who's who. Or a bag over their heads? That might work, too! I agree about gay clubs. THOSE are fun. LOL Probably the least self conscious I've EVER felt was partying at a guys club with friends. NOBODY was looking at us girls. LOL We had a blast. 3
Author irc333 Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 I go to clubs to 1)enjoy the music 2)enjoy the companionship with friends 3)enjoy the alcohol. 1. Isn't that what an Iphone/MP3 player is for? 2. Can you do that at other places like at each other's home (i.e - BBQ, Pool Party, etc or the movie theater? 3. You can drink alcohol no matter where you go.
MrCastle Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Or a bag over their heads? That might work, too! I agree about gay clubs. THOSE are fun. LOL Probably the least self conscious I've EVER felt was partying at a guys club with friends. NOBODY was looking at us girls. LOL We had a blast. I actually said this to a friend of mine. Women in college that are in relationships should be completely covered up head to toe. No sense looking all attractive for guys that don't have a chance with her. 2
bentleychic Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 1. Isn't that what an Iphone/MP3 player is for? 2. Can you do that at other places like at each other's home (i.e - BBQ, Pool Party, etc or the movie theater? 3. You can drink alcohol no matter where you go. So basically you're saying that people in relationships should no longer be allowed in general population? I love live music. LOVE. That's normally why I go to clubs. It doesn't matter for me, anyway. My friends say that I put off a "don't f with me" vibe when I'm not interested or in a relationship. LOL The only people that it doesn't seem to work with is old very inebriated men. 4
fanine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 1. Isn't that what an Iphone/MP3 player is for? 2. Can you do that at other places like at each other's home (i.e - BBQ, Pool Party, etc or the movie theater? 3. You can drink alcohol no matter where you go. So basically are you saying once in a relationship a person is not allowed to enjoy themselves outside of their or their friends homes? What if people live in little flats, like where I live in London. No pools here mate! And in a movie theatre I think the other people there would get upset if suddenly all the girls stated dancing down the aisles Sometimes it is nice to go out with a bunch of friends to a place where people will serve you drinks, where there is a DJ playing the tunes, where there is a dance floor and disco lighting. All it is is having a bit of fun... 1
xxoo Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I was out with some friends the other night, it was Meetup event, and one of the ladies brought 5 more rather attractive women to the group...most of the people in said group are spoken for or kind of older in years. Why are the "spoken for" members of your group there? 2
xxoo Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 1. Isn't that what an Iphone/MP3 player is for? 2. Can you do that at other places like at each other's home (i.e - BBQ, Pool Party, etc or the movie theater? 3. You can drink alcohol no matter where you go. We can have coffee at home, too, but sometimes we'd rather meet friends at Starbucks. Also, when you go out, no one has to entertain. Entertaining is work. 2
MrCastle Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 So basically you're saying that people in relationships should no longer be allowed in general population? . That would be ideal for me personally. Give them a designated island to live on.
bentleychic Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 hahaha Well, I'm old and have kids so I wouldn't be in your category, anyway so I think I should still be able to go out to clubs and concerts. 2
aussietigerwolf Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) That would be ideal for me personally. Give them a designated island to live on. does the island have WiFi/tv? What happens if you break up? Do you get kicked off the island? Edited August 31, 2013 by aussietigerwolf not enough coffee. 1
candie13 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 We can have coffee at home, too, but sometimes we'd rather meet friends at Starbucks. Also, when you go out, no one has to entertain. Entertaining is work. Not sure if some men understood that women like to be entertained . Certainly not those in "relationships". You may have just introduced a whole new concept in itself, there... 2
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