Amyjay Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Me and this guy had a class together three years ago and I was instantly attracted to him. We had actually gone to school together since kindergarten but were never friends. The first time I saw him in this class I felt something special and developed a crush on him. Nothing happened until a month after class ended and he messaged me and we talked and we started hanging out. He said that he had tried hitting on me during the class we had but I didn't seem into it. We started hooking up and it was great. I really liked him and he liked me. He would often ask me to spend the night and ask why I never hit him up on weekends or say we should go out and do something together and not just be in his room all the time. I never made any plans like that or gave any indication that I really wanted to and it just became a booty call. After awhile I got frustrated with the situation because I wanted more and started taking it out on him and being mean and starting fights. We fought a lot and always ended up seeing each other again. There was one point we didn't see each other for two months until he came back to me. Sometimes he would tell me he liked me, other times he would tell me he just wanted sex, other times he would tell me he is confused. Finally, last year it ended for good and I have not seen him since. He has a girlfriend and I was dating other people as well, but I am single now and still love him. Even when I was with other people I wondered if it was right. Nothing feels more right for my life than this guy, but that does not make any sense considering the dramatic relationship we had full of fights and mean words. I try to convince myself that he is not the one and that we are not going to be together because I do not want to believe something that isn't true, but I cannot seem to convince myself of that. Anyway, I got a text about two months ago from an unrecognized number saying "hi whats up" at about 11 pm. I texted back asking who it was and he responded with "whos this?" I found out it was him (he had changed his phone number) and texted him and told him I knew it was him and got no response. about a week ago I texted him saying I want to talk but got the same response, "whos this" I replied and told him I still cared and wanted to just talk and clear the air but it was fine if he didn't want to, I just wanted to give it a chance. I got no answer. I need some different perspective on this. What do you guys think of this situation? Am I wrong believing that I love this guy and I know it deep down, despite everything? If he asked me to marry him today I would say yes without a doubt. Why did we never work out? Why did he text me then pretend not to know my number? Why would he text me if he still has a girlfriend?
Mariposa10 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 If he does have a girlfriend, I would stay away from him.
BC1980 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 In the beginning of your post, you said that he wanted to hang out and do stuff outside of having sex, but you didn't. So you ave him a clear message that you just wanted to hook up. I think that would be the first problem. I think you probably burned your bridges for now if he has a girlfriend. The relationship didn't have a very solid start to begin with if it was just a hook up.
Author Amyjay Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 I guess you are right but why did he text me out of nowhere?
Mariposa10 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I guess you are right but why did he text me out of nowhere? Maybe he's having problems/second thoughts about her girlfriend? I would just stay away from this situation.
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