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me and my bf have been dating for 1 year and a half. on the YEAR AND 6th month anniversary i told him we have to talk because i seen that he been acting a little stressed. he picked me up that morning to get some food hung out then drop and picked me up from school.. whatever so we went to a bar and started talking he started putting everything out there

 

"i feel trapped..""i feel all that we are missing is marriage and kids..we moving too fast, you can get very clingy and i do way too much for you" he was drinking a little but i let him continue talking" you need friends to go out with and see what else is out there..( HE SAID HE DIDNT KNOW WHAT HE WAS TALKING ABOUT 4 DAYS AFTER THAT)

 

i go to school i work. he doesnt like to be on the phone or text much so the only thing we have is see each other. i have some friends but they all have busy lives so do i. i prefer being at home studying watching tv or being with him. the only thing he has been doing lately is just drop me off to work sometime BUT to him its alot. i do alot too. cooking cleaning shopping everything for him. my birthday was recent so i took a week off and spent it with him nothing new we usually sleep at each others houses.

we went to each others country met each others family. go out of town sometimes. be with his family.

before he met me he hasnt had a gf since like 8th grade he just turn 24, and before me he was talking to somebody for about 1-2 month and felt it was too serious and let it go. he just lost his business and his apartment he has to move in with his mom.. he still work but not making anything near owning a business type of money i still help in little ways i can.i just wanted to make sure you guys to get a background of this

 

SO HE BROKE UP WITH ME 4 DAYS AFTER THE BAR TALK BECAUSE he wants to be alone. he said he love me im the best he just wants to be alone fix his life and then he can think about who he want to be with. he claim he still wants to stay in touch i said no i dont want any contact.

at first i thought it was somebody else but knowing him its probably not he is a really great guy never had a serious problem. i asked if it was he repeat the same thing about being by himself and he doesnt have his eyes on anybody. he spoke about money issues and how he is getting paid for barely anything.

i broke down crying a few time. the first time he told me i got mad took all my stuff out of his car. i called him and said sorry i over react its just i didnt expect that we spoke over the phone he said the same thing about being alone but if i want to talk he will come get me from school and talk. we spoke for like 2 hours got everything out. i held his hands he said it feels good to hold my hands and then i said bye gave him hug and he pulled me back kiss me and hug me. i went inside... and we havent spoken for 4 days. i told him i would change my number he said he wouldnt call if i say not to dont change my number. he still had our picture on his screen. i told him you wasted my time he said it wasnt a waste he is probably going to regret it and sorry.and then last thing he spoke about his grandma about taking her out she is old and doesnt like going out and spend more time with her and going to his brother football games. but my thing is

 

its still very hard for me to not cry.. and im not ready for it to be over.. and i dont understand how he i cant be there while he is improving his life.. i asked how do i stop him from that.

 

THE THOUGHT OF THAT BEING IT FOR US IS REALLY SCARY. what should i do.

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As tough as it will be...let him figure himself out.

 

Im 4 days removed from mine after 5 years and she basically left me to be alone. She doesn't have many friends and never gets out.

 

Yet somehow, she didn't want to be with the one guy she loves and that did everything for her.

 

The best thing you can do is to go out and be yourself. The time spent with him now frees you up to do your own thing. Work on yourself...as hard as it will be...put one foot in front of the other and plow through it.

 

Trust me, you are not alone in your situation. Stay strong

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"SO HE BROKE UP WITH ME 4 DAYS AFTER THE BAR TALK BECAUSE he wants to be alone"

 

LISTEN TO WHAT HE IS TELLING YOU! Simple. The hard part is dealing with it. But the sooner you recognize what is being told, the faster you can head down that path of grieving and recovering. You can keep analyzing and trying to find answers, but the message was given to you. It's your choice if you want to believe the message now, or in 3 months, or one year.......harsh, I know, but that is the reality.

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yea i know.. its just hard.. i just hope that he changes his mind.. if he doesnt than oh well i guess

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