Sweeetie Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) I'm 23. I met a guy through friends a couple of months ago, we as a group of 6/7 friends have been hanging out a lot and in the past couple of months I've been getting the feeling that this guy might like me. There has been mild flirtation going on and he's always chatting to me on Facebook chat. I'm due to have a surgery next week which will keep me house-bound for a month and not really able to see people. This has actually catalysed things between us. When I told him about it, he was really eager to spend time with me before my 'leave'- last weekend he was like " Is this the last weekend I can see you before you go under the knife?" When I said it might be he said "Oh no! Then I must come visit you one last time. Plus it's a good chance for me to see where you live :)". He came to my apartment and we chatted and played guitar. We again decided to meet up one last time before my surgery. Whilst we were thinking about what to do for it on Facebook chat, like eating somewhere followed by drinks, he told me that he just heard from two of our mutual friends that they are going on a guided tour of a haunted house or something that evening and asked me if I'd like to join them. He said we could go eat after that. This made me feel as if it wasn't really a date we were planning, and I'm not really into haunted stuff anyway so I said to him I'll pass on it and I wished him a fun tour with the others. This turned things around because he replied "Noooo I'm not going on the tour then. I want to spend the time with you. To say goodbye." However- then he said "Should I persuade them to come say goodbye too?" Talk about mixed signals! I'm not that close with these two mutual friends anyway so I told him this and said it's fine. I felt bad though because he had sounded really excited about the tour so I told him to do whatever he was sure would make him happiest. He said "I'll be happiest when I'll be with you ;)" I replied, "Good to know :)". Our "date" went well; we went for dinner and then went clubbing and spent about 6 hours together. We each paid for our side of the dinner though so not really a clear-cut date. I wasn't sure if it was a date anyway due to the fact that he had initially suggested asking the others to come, however I noticed he had put on a special shirt for the occasion and there were signs during the night that he does like me. When we went to the club we were dancing together all night, our arms around each other and he tried to kiss me a few times. I never like a first kiss with a guy I like to be in a club when he's a little drunk so I didn't go in for a kiss but I did cuddle up to him when we were dancing. Whenever I wanted to get a drink from the bar (I could only have water because my surgery is soon and i can't drink), he stood behind me with his arms around my waist, i put my hand on his and he put a hand over mine. Towards the end of the night I was so sleepy (I had been up since 5am for work) that I rested my head on his shoulder and closed my eyes, my arms around his neck and his around my waist. He let me stay there for as long as I liked and he stroked my hair. When the night finished he even picked me up and carried me out of the club because I was so sleepy! We walked towards another street where we could each take a bus to go home, my arm in his, but we couldn't actually say goodbye properly because he had to run for his bus, it was waiting at the stop. He gave me a quick hug and said "I'll miss you!". I sent him a message later that night again saying "Kris I'll miss you :(" he replied saying "I'll miss you too. But it won't be for long". The next day I saw he 'liked' my facebook profile picture, it was one of just my face, which reinforced my belief that he likes me. Now this is where it gets very very confusing. The day after this, which was yesterday, at night he sent me a message asking if I'm around. I was just about to go to bed since I'd had a very tiring day but I asked him what's up, he asked if I'd like to go out for a bit- he said he wanted to introduce me to one of his friends "who I might like ;)". like what the hell? In all honesty I said to him I'm very tired and was about to go to sleep but I wished him a good night. What do you all think? Does it seem as if he likes me or is he just playing around with me? He's not someone who just picks up girls, in all the time I've known him, but he does like being surrounded by them I have also noticed. Just so confusing Edited August 31, 2013 by Sweeetie
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Are you sure he meant "you might like" in THAT way? This is very weird. If he is really trying to set you up with his friend...WTF.
Author Sweeetie Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) Are you sure he meant "you might like" in THAT way? This is very weird. If he is really trying to set you up with his friend...WTF. Yea. Even when he came to visit me in my apartment that day he got a text on his phone from this same friend of his and he was like "ah my friend from brazil wants to go party tomorrow. He's quite a tall guy, you'll like him ;)" He's not as tall as his friend but he is average height, not short anyway... So weird. With so many signals that this guy likes me my emotions are building up but I don't want that to happen if he's just playing around. Edited August 31, 2013 by Sweeetie
truth_seeker Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Yea. Even when he came to visit me in my apartment that day he got a text on his phone from this same friend of his and he was like "ah my friend from brazil wants to go party tomorrow. He's quite a tall guy, you'll like him ;)" He's not as tall as his friend but he is average height, not short anyway... So weird. With so many signals that this guy likes me my emotions are building up but I don't want that to happen if he's just playing around. Anytime there are mixed signals, mixed messages, everything is hazy, it means people have ulterior motives and can't be trusted. 1
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