llleonidus Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 So me and my gf broke up almost 2 weeks ago with no contact, i was doing so well and wasn't thinking about her as much, anyways last night i go out and get v drunk, my friend comes up to me and tells me my ex is in the club, i go to the bar get a drink turns about and she is standing right there, i say hello then walk off. The club ends and we're talking aside being civil, then her friend starts arguing with my friend so i try to stop them them and i end up walking off, i should of kept on walking instead i turn around and went back around 15 mins later she is on the phone to someone and looked shocked to see me again, she says 'ill phone you back now and hangs up, i stupidly ask who she is talking to and ask if it was another guy she tells me its none of my business so i stupidly try grabbing her phone, needless to say she go's completely mad, i then leave and go home. The thing is she basically went to the club to bumb into me and basically saod she wondered why i haven't contacted her and she was going to come back to my house at one point, im not trying to get her back and want to move on, just really mad at my self that i acted like that, it might of been a guy it might not of been, i used to get those drunken 2:30am calls. Maybe it worked out for the best, if she did come back things might of been a lot worse for me in the long run, i literally haven't contacted her once into 2 weeks and have shown her now that im still hung up about it, i have handed her all the power back, guess best thing to do is back to no contact.
theonlyjuan Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Next time just ignore her, say hi if you have to but no more. I can't be arsed with all the drama and probing questions from my ex, last time I saw her out I didn't even say hello. I felt kinda bad but it may have saved a lot of drama, I don't need all that crap. Just start your NC again.
Eddie007 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Hang in there. At least you know she is thinking of you. I haven't heard anything from my ex since she dumped me. I don't really expect to either. Go ack to NC as its for the best.
Author llleonidus Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 It kind of makes sense now why she hasn't been in contact and just kind of cut things off so quickly because she has had someone else to take her mind off it. I felt like i had been punched in the stomach last night when i heard she was in the club. Either way im treating it as if she is seeing someone new so that way i know there is no going back. Just wish she had the decency to tell me when i asked her, i should of turned around and never looked back, if she insists on being in my locals then i will avoid them from now on. I don't miss her so much now due her being so cold and callous towards me, she is constantly punishing me. And i no longer want any part of it nc is an awesome way of moving on and i need to stick to it.
LinkWorshiper Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I am going through literally the same thing, bro. My ex and I were actually starting to have a friendship again, and I was cool with that, even though I still hoped for more. He knew I did too, but he didn't have the decency to say from square one, 'Listen, let's be friends again, but I'm seeing someone new right now and I hope that's okay.' Instead, I had to pry it out of him, and his reasoning for not telling me was that it wasn't pertinent. Which made me feel like he was trying to run game, and I got upset with him for not regarding my feelings. Our argument was pretty emotionally brutal, and he said some pretty mean things, but at the end, we agreed to try and be more empathetic to each other and start over. But now I'm freaking out if he really meant that. I just miss even our fun conversations now, and I'm so depressed.
Ireallydontknow Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 We all screw up at a point in time. Live, learn, move on. My ex moved on with another guy while with me! It happens, some people are so weak and know they cannot be alone that that's what they do. I'm afraid to be alone but I would never of done such a cowardly thing. I'm now learning to now fear being alone, slowly that is...
candie13 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 don't beat yourself up. Learn from this. It may not sound very mature, but next time you see your ex, walk in the opposite direction. Fast. No hi or bye. Listen, everybody ****s up, be good to yourself and go fully NC. Two months from now you'll be a lot more relaxed about this situation. Time really does work wonders and NC is the only way out. Stop thinking, analyzing, making scenarios. Ideally, you would stop thinking about her completely. It will come with time, I am sure !!!! Just be very disciplined and NO CONTACT whatsoever. Block fb, delete her contact, play it by the book. on the side note, I'm celebrating two weeks of NC next Monday, hopefully it stays that way. just like you, I cringe bumping into him. oh well, you know what they say. "pueblo pequeno, infierno grande", haha!
Author llleonidus Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 Thanks for the replys, feel a bit better now, think i was beating myself up due to a severe hang over. My attitude towards her right this minute is one of anger and im leaning towards realising how incompatible we actually were which defo makes things easier. Let the other guy deal with her spoilt, childish, games playing ways. she has never had a relationship longer than 1 year now i know why. she will end up with some poor douche who is a total door matt, thats not me..
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