Am I ready to see him?

[teacher]

HI... well, my ex and I have been broken up for 6 months... He broke up with me, I was totally crushed, took a long time for me to start feeling better- and I am finally feeling good about myself again-- so here is the problem

 

The night before thanksgiving is a HUGE party night in my town-- we both grew up in the same small town, went to the same high school (we didn't date until way after college), and have some mutual friends. My problem is all of my friends go to the same bar that night-- the same bar where he and all of his friends will be. Question is, should I go this year? Is it going to bring back all the hurt I have worked so hard to get through? But on the other hand, does it look like he's controlling my actions? Since most of my close friends will be there and I won't?

 

I'm going to have to run into him at some point? should I just be brave and go? Or is it not worth the risk? Oh, and by the way, we will both be drinking and last thanksgiving eve was our first kiss-- we were dating for six month, althouh it was a short time, it was very intense and both said that we were falling in love with each other.

[bluechocolate]

I don't think you should go this year. It'll be the anniversary of your first kiss & there will be alcohol involved. I don't think it's about him controlling your actions - in this case I think it's just common sense. Yes, you'll probably have to run into him at sometime but if you can avoid doing that in such a highly charged atmosphere then you should.

 

Arrange something else with a few friends or have them stop in on their way - you can still have a fun night.

[Sukotto]

Well rather than avoid going couldn't you run into him prior to this party, like sometime before. If you see him for the first time then it will most likely be awkward.

 

The next alternative is to go but don't drink, maybe you could offer to be the designated driver. If your not drinking then you greatly reduce the chances of anything happening.