truth_seeker Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I've been going through a hellacious episode and tried to be mature and understanding. All I got in return: I never liked you!I don't have feelings for you!You're not worth my time! I asked (which might not have been a good idea) can you tell me what's wrong? As from the responses it sounded very much like feelings were hurt. NOTE: never in a relationship with this person. I know she had a crush on me and we flirted and talked about dating each other. I suddenly backed off (I went no contact) when I got wind that she's a cheater. Just feeling bad that I hurt a girl who liked me more than I thought and got insulted because I backed off because of rumors about her.
RedRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I've been going through a hellacious episode and tried to be mature and understanding. All I got in return: I never liked you!I don't have feelings for you!You're not worth my time! I asked (which might not have been a good idea) can you tell me what's wrong? As from the responses it sounded very much like feelings were hurt. NOTE: never in a relationship with this person. I know she had a crush on me and we flirted and talked about dating each other. I suddenly backed off (I went no contact) when I got wind that she's a cheater. Just feeling bad that I hurt a girl who liked me more than I thought and got insulted because I backed off because of rumors about her. I think you owe it to people to hear their side of the story. Never put TOO much stock in what you hear about people... good or bad. Find out for yourself.
Leigh 87 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 If you did something that offended her, then even nice people can be mean. Some women are simply not very kind people. Not all women care about how their words or actions can impact others. Personally, I would never tell a guy that he was not worth my time. If a guy upset me or only wanted me for sex, I tell them: sorry, I want more than sex from a guy, we want different things and I am not interested in what you want. I wish you the best, goodbye" I never say " I never liked you" or " you're not worth my time".
hotpotato Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I'd be mad too, if you rejected me over something you heard through the grapevine...
almond Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 (edited) Your post doesn't make much sense. If I'm understanding this correctly: - You were flirting with each other and talking about dating - so things appear to have been going well - You hear rumors about her, and suddenly drop her based solely on hearsay - You then ask her why she's upset? Lol - She responds in a way that indicates that she is hurt and that is "All I got in return." What on Earth did you expect? You say you tried to be "mature and understanding," well, I suggest you try a hell of a lot harder next time. Also, the title of your thread is laughable in this instance. Your perception of what went on here appears to be very selfish and unbalanced. I cannot imagine why you feel that you have been wronged here? I'd say it's definitely the other way around, unless there's more to the story. Dropping someone immediately based on rumor is hardly mature or understanding. I can see why she is hurt. She could have perhaps responded a little more maturely, but emotion gets the best of people sometimes. Edited September 1, 2013 by almond
SpiralOut Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I don't blame her for feeling hurt. She probably felt like you led her on. Some people don't react very well to that - she is trying to save some face by rejecting you back. If I were in your position I would apologize to her, but not expect her to still want to date.
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