My ex wants me back, I'm screwed...

[animalfriend]

I and my Ex started out under strange circumstances. I was looking for a roommate 2 years ago for a roommate (I’m a university student), she had graduated at that time but wanted to stay in town and after a really weird meeting we decided to move together. Later she told me that she liked me from the start and she agreed to move because she liked my shoes. We both are weirdoes by the way. So we were roommates for about a week, when she attacked and I responded in kind Although I was 28 at the time, I didn’t have much experience in relationships. She was the main moving stone to get us going, at that time I was afraid to have a serious relationship.

 

We lived together for two months but she ran out of money, couldn’t find a job and she had to go back to her town, I was thinking that we should split up at that time. After a bit of verbal and physical fights with her we decided to continue together, but our relationship now had a lot of physical distance. We would speak on the phone, and would see each other 2-3 times in month. I slowly fell deeper in love with her.

 

Somewhere around February I applied and got approved for Erasmus exchange program and chose to go in Spain. And after about 8 months of relationship in May, she called me one night to tell me she want us to break up. On the morning I went to her town to talk to her. She didn’t wanted to see me, still we met and talked, she told me that she loves me but does not wish us to continue together. For about a month I was traveling every week to try to convince her to return to a relationship. She was afraid that something might happen on that journey of mine, and I could meet someone she said.

 

In the end this is what happened but...

After a bit more talk and a small reunion which lasted a couple of weeks. Now at different places, she under stress because of terrible work conditions, I away due to financial, we communicated only on phone. She started insulting me, telling me I wasn’t there for her (And maybe I wasn’t) in the end we broke up in a quite ugly way on the phone. I was devastated. And month later in September I was to go to Spain… I wrote to her on several occasions but without response. Just before the trip she wanted to see me I told her that I don’t want to…

 

I left for Spain really broken up. She would haunt me night and day in my thoughts. I wrote to her a few times that I’m still in love with her, the last time she wrote me back, she said she has “warm feelings” towards me but she doesn’t love me. This was six months after our separation. I never bothered writing her again although for 7 or 8 months I was really obsessed by her…

 

In the faculty I met a polish girl who wanted to do hitchhiking in Spain. I knew her almost from the beginning of my stay in Madrid, we spoke on a few occasions but she want the type of person I would usually hang out with. Still we spoke that both want to hitchhike and maybe we should do it together. In May this trip became reality. Of course after the first trip, me being charming, with a sense of humor and all, a romance started and for a first time after a year I felt better. We started going out I hanged out with her friends, and started looking a lot brighter. The previous months of my stay were like the dark ages.

 

Still I couldn’t say that I am in love with this polish girl. Although generally I was having great time with her there, there was something missing or something wrong. Or something in her character that repels me… After the studies ended we hitchhiked to Portugal, and there on few occasions a sensed that I’m hitting a wall. After this trip I was to hitchhike to my country. Because of this or the things that happened in Portugal, I decided to break with girl. She is a student as well she has to finish her studies in her country. After what I was through I didn’t want another relationship with a physical distance.

 

After broke up and got back to my country the polish girl came to visit me. We had a month of hitchhiking in my country and other things as well. It was nice but still I can’t see myself with this girl. She doesn’t want to break up and after this visit of hers I feel her a bit closer but still something lacks. Now she is in Poland.

And the inevitable happened. My ex called me a few days ago if I would like to meet. I reluctantly agreed. We had a walk and a chat. We told ourselves for the first time our own views for our separation.

 

I thought that I would mad at her for dumping me but just seeing her smile put another one on my face. And although I saw something in her face. I told her that I will not contact her any more only on her birthday or Christmas. On parting she kissed me… not on the cheek…and returned for another. I felt really confused but responded. The next day she called me the times. On the third she proposed to get back together.

My head is going to burst…

 

I don’t see myself with the polish girl, and I have my doubts about my Ex.

Tried asking friends, almost all are against going back to the Ex, I should continue with the polish. Still I have my doubts and I don’t want to hurt the polish girl, had been left because of her Erasmus exchange, although her Ex has been a jerk.

 

I think I have something for the Ex and I’m not sure about both. I’m in my last year and this means a lot of trouble for me, because a bit emotional and tend to overthink the things.

Edited August 31, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Philosoraptor]

You fought both verbally and physically with your ex. And you're not satisified with this Polish girl.

 

I'd say not to be with either of them and to take some time working on yourself. There is no need to be with anyone, and if you fix your internal issues you're going to find it easier to find a satisfying healthy relationship in the future.

[NoLeafClover]

I and my Ex started out under strange circumstances. I was looking for a roommate 2 years ago for a roommate (I’m a university student), she had graduated at that time but wanted to stay in town and after a really weird meeting we decided to move together. Later she told me that she liked me from the start and she agreed to move because she liked my shoes. We both are weirdoes by the way. So we were roommates for about a week, when she attacked and I responded in kind Although I was 28 at the time, I didn’t have much experience in relationships. She was the main moving stone to get us going, at that time I was afraid to have a serious relationship.

 

We lived together for two months but she ran out of money, couldn’t find a job and she had to go back to her town, I was thinking that we should split up at that time. After a bit of verbal and physical fights with her we decided to continue together, but our relationship now had a lot of physical distance. We would speak on the phone, and would see each other 2-3 times in month. I slowly fell deeper in love with her.

 

Somewhere around February I applied and got approved for Erasmus exchange program and chose to go in Spain. And after about 8 months of relationship in May, she called me one night to tell me she want us to break up. On the morning I went to her town to talk to her. She didn’t wanted to see me, still we met and talked, she told me that she loves me but does not wish us to continue together. For about a month I was traveling every week to try to convince her to return to a relationship. She was afraid that something might happen on that journey of mine, and I could meet someone she said.

 

In the end this is what happened but...

After a bit more talk and a small reunion which lasted a couple of weeks. Now at different places, she under stress because of terrible work conditions, I away due to financial, we communicated only on phone. She started insulting me, telling me I wasn’t there for her (And maybe I wasn’t) in the end we broke up in a quite ugly way on the phone. I was devastated. And month later in September I was to go to Spain… I wrote to her on several occasions but without response. Just before the trip she wanted to see me I told her that I don’t want to…

 

I left for Spain really broken up. She would haunt me night and day in my thoughts. I wrote to her a few times that I’m still in love with her, the last time she wrote me back, she said she has “warm feelings” towards me but she doesn’t love me. This was six months after our separation. I never bothered writing her again although for 7 or 8 months I was really obsessed by her…

 

In the faculty I met a polish girl who wanted to do hitchhiking in Spain. I knew her almost from the beginning of my stay in Madrid, we spoke on a few occasions but she want the type of person I would usually hang out with. Still we spoke that both want to hitchhike and maybe we should do it together. In May this trip became reality. Of course after the first trip, me being charming, with a sense of humor and all, a romance started and for a first time after a year I felt better. We started going out I hanged out with her friends, and started looking a lot brighter. The previous months of my stay were like the dark ages.

 

Still I couldn’t say that I am in love with this polish girl. Although generally I was having great time with her there, there was something missing or something wrong. Or something in her character that repels me… After the studies ended we hitchhiked to Portugal, and there on few occasions a sensed that I’m hitting a wall. After this trip I was to hitchhike to my country. Because of this or the things that happened in Portugal, I decided to break with girl. She is a student as well she has to finish her studies in her country. After what I was through I didn’t want another relationship with a physical distance.

 

After broke up and got back to my country the polish girl came to visit me. We had a month of hitchhiking in my country and other things as well. It was nice but still I can’t see myself with this girl. She doesn’t want to break up and after this visit of hers I feel her a bit closer but still something lacks. Now she is in Poland.

And the inevitable happened. My ex called me a few days ago if I would like to meet. I reluctantly agreed. We had a walk and a chat. We told ourselves for the first time our own views for our separation.

 

I thought that I would mad at her for dumping me but just seeing her smile put another one on my face. And although I saw something in her face. I told her that I will not contact her any more only on her birthday or Christmas. On parting she kissed me… not on the cheek…and returned for another. I felt really confused but responded. The next day she called me the times. On the third she proposed to get back together.

My head is going to burst…

 

I don’t see myself with the polish girl, and I have my doubts about my Ex.

Tried asking friends, almost all are against going back to the Ex, I should continue with the polish. Still I have my doubts and I don’t want to hurt the polish girl, had been left because of her Erasmus exchange, although her Ex has been a jerk.

 

I think I have something for the Ex and I’m not sure about both. I’m in my last year and this means a lot of trouble for me, because a bit emotional and tend to overthink the things.

Get back with the ex and then dump her.

Talk to the polish chick and keep her as friend and see if feelings develop.

On a side note, you might want to stop hitchhiking around like a homeless man and get an actual vehicle or safe transportation.