tuxedo cat Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Let's say you're seeing someone and he will only let you stay overnight at his place once a month because he has two other roommates and lives in a small three-bedroom apartment with no common area. Does this seem legit? He has his own room and when I've stayed over in the past I've been in and out fast. He's also told me that his roommates have never expressed a problem with his having a guest over but he just feels that it would be an imposition.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Sounds like an excuse...or like the guy is really anal.
208ba Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 hi does he stay at yours all night or does he leave before morning 3
veggirl Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 His apartment doesn't have a living room? so everyone just hangs out in their individual rooms? Do his roommates never have guests? sounds shady. have you met these roommates? 1
Leigh 87 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 if a guy really wants to see you, to get to know you better or to be with you in a relationship, he would NOT say to you what this guy is saying^^^^ ..He has his own room. That would not stop ANY guy who was into a girl, from seeing her. Read: NO guy who is truly interested in you, would let having room mates stop him from seeing you or having you over. If the noise was an issue, he would have you over just to cuddle you in bed. If he was that perturbed about you guys making too much noise. I have never heard of a guy who was really interested in a girl, not having her over when he has his OWN room. It is weird. The only instance of a guy NOT having a girl over, when he seriously likes her, is when they are actually embarrassed about their living arrangement.
white Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I've had it from one woman. Her housemates were involved and she was sick to death of having to listen to them **** and whatever else. For some reason though that translated into her not wanting to give them the satisfaction of even meeting her boyfriend. Like she wanted to always be the put-upon housemate. She'd always come round mine instead. Which was annoying at the time because I didn't really have room for her in my tiny flat. Sometimes when I'd drop her off they'd come rushing out to say hello and ask me to come in, but one look at her and you'd know that wasn't the thing to do. Bit weird really. In hindsight I suspect there was some details of her past she didn't want her housemates revealing to me. Maybe relationships, maybe mental stability, who knows.
Leigh 87 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 If I really like a guy, I would happily have him over even if I had to share a room or if I slept on the couch of a place. Nothing would stop me from cuddling a guy I loved or was falling in love with. I would want my friends to meet the person I was crazy about.
scorpiogirl Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I have to disagree. I don't really share with anyone if I can help it, but sometimes my job has required me to share a place. I like my place to be mine, and I wouldn't want flatmates to have boyfriends or girlfriends over in my space all the time, getting comfortable there, so I wouldn't have a boyfriend over either as a reciprocal courtesy. Partners can often cause disruptions in the way the household is run. He could be making excuses but he could just be respecting their space. Only he knows what the deal is.
HappyLove Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 As long as you've actually met the roommates and he has no problem staying over your house then I could believe that he's just being respectful of his roommates. Maybe that's even an agreement in their arrangement. But if he's rushing you out making sure you don't meet them or their friends or girlfriends then he's probably up to something.
StanMusial Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Date someone that can afford better living arrangements. 2
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