Mark1 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I was just thinking about the type of girls that are attracted to me, and the more I think about it, the more I see that its hot cougars in their 40s. (I am 24). Don't get me wrong, I like cougar's do, but why do they like me? I'll be in line at the store, or the post office, and they will start chatting with me. Or other places out and about in public, THEY start the conversation. Another example - I am on OKCupid, and about 75% of the replies I get are from cougars. Any thoughts? 1
BeholdtheMan Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 How the fu** would we know if the only information you give us is your age? Maybe you should try to figure out why you can't attract more women of similar age to you, not that being mobbed by cougars in heat is a bad thing 2
skydiveaddict Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Any thoughts? Maybe they find you attractive. 1
MrCastle Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I'm 25 and I get the same thing. I do alright with girls my age. Lot of bs to deal with though. I hit it off with cougars or slightly older women in general better than I do women my own age. I don't question it because I love older women. I just let it happen.
208ba Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Have you ever had the run ariround on the dating sites where you are told its free and then you have to pay to view messages and then when you join you also join other sites linked and all you are looking for is a com,panion
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Had the same experience in my twenties...before that I thought only old men could act like pervs and grope/fondle very boldly with that mildly creepy yet lustful look in their eyes. I now know what a 15 year old girl feels like that has a "mature body" around a group of older men at the pool who've had one too many glasses of wine.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I'm 25 and I get the same thing. I do alright with girls my age. Lot of bs to deal with though. I hit it off with cougars or slightly older women in general better than I do women my own age. I don't question it because I love older women. I just let it happen. I can't imagine why any woman would like you 1
Joaquin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Because they see u as an easy target - knocking off these 40+ year old women is not something most 20 year old guys (or 30s for that matter) aspire to. Guys that go that way tend to lack options. Cougars get off on young fellas, age is their only criteria.
RedRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) Strangely missing from this thread... "Age is just a number" ... and "It doesn't matter as long as you are compatible" ... and "How do you know they want you just for sex?" But to answer your question... I get quite a lot of much younger guys hitting on me. IRL and when I did OLD. I used to kindly shoosh them away like "awww, how cute"... but decided recently to stop doing that... If guys can have an open dating pool, why can't women?? It's not like the guys my own age and older are commitment oriented either... at least the younger guys are less likely to pass out in a heap on the couch (or in bed) going... "I'm SOOO tired!" oh, and another thing... it is quite possible, OP, that you look much older than 24. A couple of guys who were interested in me easily passed for mid or even late-30's due to a receding hairline. I was shocked to find out they were in their mid to late 20's. TBH, I regret shooshing them away now. They were really sweet and sincere... Edited August 31, 2013 by RedRobin 4
RedRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 ... There is a much younger guy I used to work with who I see occasionally out and about who asked me to go rock climbing or X-country skiing sometime. He knows I like those things... I originally turned him down (that was a year ago)... I saw him in the grocery store parking lot last week, and decided to follow up. We now have plans to go rock-climbing next week. ... another guy... the head of the running group I'm a member of (also much younger than me)... asked my name when I wandered over to the playground that was near the trail run we had just done. He and his buddies had gone over there to mess around on the jungle gym, etc. Looked like fun, so I went!! Guess what? I was the only girl there. Of any age. *shrug* 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 RR, I make it no secret that I love younger guys - for many reasons I used to think that they are less likely to commit but I am not even sure that's true. I have met many "older men train wrecks" that think they are doing you a favour for dating you instead of a 20-something. I am open to all ages though 1
thefooloftheyear Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 OK...Somebody has to say it, so, I might as well be the one... NO self respecting 40 something is going to want to have a legitimate relationship with a 24 year old kid. This goes for men and women alike More than likely, these aren't cougars, but toothless feral cats, that are broke, waitressing at the local Denny's(no disrespect to them-btw). and that have been kicked to the curb by good looking, successful men in their peer group. Their options are limited. So rather then settle for a fat, lazy, old man-they think they can boost their ego by trying their hand at a younger guy..Because lets face it, a guy(even a good looking one with options).will cave at the advances of a woman-even if shes 60. So lets put this into perspective. And RR..You let me down.....I figured a dynamic woman like you that has so much going for you would have absoloutely no problem getting the "cream of the crop" of successful, wealthy, handsome men in your peer group, and wouldnt waste your time with little boys..And a news flash for some that might not be aware, just because a guy is in his 40's(or older) doenst mean hes got a limp dick, a soft body, or needs to sleep 15 hours a day... TFY
Calcmag Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 OK...Somebody has to say it, so, I might as well be the one... NO self respecting 40 something is going to want to have a legitimate relationship with a 24 year old kid. This goes for men and women alike More than likely, these aren't cougars, but toothless feral cats, that are broke, waitressing at the local Denny's(no disrespect to them-btw). and that have been kicked to the curb by good looking, successful men in their peer group. Their options are limited. So rather then settle for a fat, lazy, old man-they think they can boost their ego by trying their hand at a younger guy..Because lets face it, a guy(even a good looking one with options).will cave at the advances of a woman-even if shes 60. So lets put this into perspective. TFY Or maybe they are self respecting women who are actually not looking for a legitimate relationship, but just want some no strings sex with an attractive guy with a young hot body? I'm a woman in this age group, and if I was into casual sex these days, and that was all I was looking for, I'd certainly give a few younger hot guys a run! Older guys have much more to offer in the context of a relationship, but like us older women, most of them no longer have the gorgeous physique that they had at 25.... 1
thefooloftheyear Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) Or maybe they are self respecting women who are actually not looking for a legitimate relationship, but just want some no strings sex with an attractive guy with a young hot body? I'm a woman in this age group, and if I was into casual sex these days, and that was all I was looking for, I'd certainly give a few younger hot guys a run! Older guys have much more to offer in the context of a relationship, but like us older women, most of them no longer have the gorgeous physique that they had at 25.... I clarified my post by saying "legitimate relationship"...I get your point. But if the OP is saying 75% of the responses he was getting was from older women, its a safe bet that not all of them are looking for a "pump and dump" deal, no? Oh, and I am glad you clarified "most"..as far as physique goes...When I was 25 I would have killed to have the physique I have now at 47...And I was in very good shape, then as well.. TFY Edited August 31, 2013 by thefooloftheyear
RedRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 RR, I make it no secret that I love younger guys - for many reasons I used to think that they are less likely to commit but I am not even sure that's true. I have met many "older men train wrecks" that think they are doing you a favour for dating you instead of a 20-something. I am open to all ages though I know, right?? WTF is what I thought when that attitude came out... Boot meet *ss...
RedRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 OK...Somebody has to say it, so, I might as well be the one... NO self respecting 40 something is going to want to have a legitimate relationship with a 24 year old kid. This goes for men and women alike More than likely, these aren't cougars, but toothless feral cats, that are broke, waitressing at the local Denny's(no disrespect to them-btw). and that have been kicked to the curb by good looking, successful men in their peer group. Their options are limited. So rather then settle for a fat, lazy, old man-they think they can boost their ego by trying their hand at a younger guy..Because lets face it, a guy(even a good looking one with options).will cave at the advances of a woman-even if shes 60. So lets put this into perspective. And RR..You let me down.....I figured a dynamic woman like you that has so much going for you would have absoloutely no problem getting the "cream of the crop" of successful, wealthy, handsome men in your peer group, and wouldnt waste your time with little boys..And a news flash for some that might not be aware, just because a guy is in his 40's(or older) doenst mean hes got a limp dick, a soft body, or needs to sleep 15 hours a day... TFY Oh no... TFY. "Successful, wealthy, handsome" single men in my peer group aren't usually terribly nice, down to earth or even commitment minded... on top of that... I gotta deal with (possible) d*ck problems??? Kid juggling? oh, and being reminded I can be easily replaced by a doe-eyed 20 something?? Ppsshhh.... Recall my criteria... empathy and gratitude being two of them... and if they aren't going to delay gratification (the third)... Then he'd better be able to back it up.. 3
xxoo Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I was just thinking about the type of girls that are attracted to me, and the more I think about it, the more I see that its hot cougars in their 40s. (I am 24). Don't get me wrong, I like cougar's do, but why do they like me? I'll be in line at the store, or the post office, and they will start chatting with me. Or other places out and about in public, THEY start the conversation. Another example - I am on OKCupid, and about 75% of the replies I get are from cougars. Any thoughts? Because you are young. It's more difficult to find a desirable partner your own age, isn't it? Same is true for them.
2sure Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I'm in the cougar age range as are most of my friends. Now, I'm not into it, it isn't my thing but some of them definitely are. Curious if I was missing something, I tried it on...just not for me at all. So, I asked three of them what's the attraction? Looks mostly. Body. Next? They said It's nice because they don't have to Have conversations, don't have to listen. The less opinions and ideas he has, the better. Basically, good looking and not jaded or wanting to ....speak. 1
RedRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 What I find attractive about the two men I mentioned are: - That they seem to enjoy the things I do and seem fun. - Neither have kids... that isn't a deal breaker for me... but have had my fill of men who treat their kids like pets or replacement activity partners. Example: One guy I dated couldn't say no to every friggin pizza party held by his daughter's soccer team even in the off-season and when we'd made other plans in advance. - They are self-sufficient, educated, and respectful. I honestly have no idea what their life goals are... but I won't be ruling out younger men who pursue me based strictly on age anymore. If they just want a quick hookup or a guy version of a 'gold-digger', I'll deal with them the same way I'd deal with their older counterparts.
thefooloftheyear Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 What I find attractive about the two men I mentioned are: - That they seem to enjoy the things I do and seem fun. - Neither have kids... that isn't a deal breaker for me... but have had my fill of men who treat their kids like pets or replacement activity partners. Example: One guy I dated couldn't say no to every friggin pizza party held by his daughter's soccer team even in the off-season and when we'd made other plans in advance. - They are self-sufficient, educated, and respectful. I honestly have no idea what their life goals are... but I won't be ruling out younger men who pursue me based strictly on age anymore. If they just want a quick hookup or a guy version of a 'gold-digger', I'll deal with them the same way I'd deal with their older counterparts. With all due respect...If you are ever fortunate enough to have a child of your own, you will be downright embarrassed you made a comment like this.. TFY
RedRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 With all due respect...If you are ever fortunate enough to have a child of your own, you will be downright embarrassed you made a comment like this.. TFY No I won't. my parents didn't coddle and cart us around to every little do-dad event. Then again, they weren't divorced. They both saw us every day. I get that. OTOH, People with a different philosophy just need to be upfront if they date and have kids that anyone they meet will have absolutely zero priority in their life unless it involves sexy-time and the occasional outing. *shrug* Which is the same thing as a FWB. I could care less if they were trying to make me a FWB because of their kid(s), work, or any other obligation. ... but back to the topic... a guy without kids (usually younger) might be in a better position to build a life with someone (if he is so inclined). He is also likely not land-locked by the kid(s). Of course, I could go for the retired guy, but that brings up issues I mentioned prior. So, these are other reasons why younger men appeal to me. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 No I won't. my parents didn't coddle and cart us around to every little do-dad event. Then again, they weren't divorced. They both saw us every day. I get that. OTOH, People with a different philosophy just need to be upfront if they date and have kids that anyone they meet will have absolutely zero priority in their life unless it involves sexy-time and the occasional outing. *shrug* Which is the same thing as a FWB. I could care less if they were trying to make me a FWB because of their kid(s), work, or any other obligation. ... but back to the topic... a guy without kids (usually younger) might be in a better position to build a life with someone (if he is so inclined). He is also likely not land-locked by the kid(s). Of course, I could go for the retired guy, but that brings up issues I mentioned prior. So, these are other reasons why younger men appeal to me. Well...I wish you well, RR ...From the sound of it, a 24 year old will be just what you need....Just make sure to have them back at their parents basement by no later than 11:30.. TFY
sillyanswer Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Another example - I am on OKCupid, and about 75% of the replies I get are from cougars. Any thoughts? In the case of OKC, they're replying because you wrote to them first... so I'm assuming you're not complaining about this. File under "first world problems" and enjoy it. 2
Skyraider829 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 There's nothing wrong with that, in fact you should take it as a compliment. When I was in school at just fifteen, thanks to my goatee, a teacher's assistant - probably 35 or so, began to send me some flirts whilst no one else was around. When I was fourteen, some chick from a Starbucks whom was invited over for Thanksgiving one evening without me knowing, apparently was asking my mother if I was single. She was in my "age group", although it would've been illegal given that she was nineteen and I was officially underage. I certainly didn't act like it though. When I was seventeen, I was in Petco with my mom and whilst she's browsing around for dog food, some woman, again in probably the 30-34 range (very attractive too) was staring me down HARD and if it wasn't for my mother being there, I would have done something in return. But I did maintain the eye contact. It could be because you have some distinguished class about you, are more of a gentleman-type, are more knowledgeable, etc.
Calcmag Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I clarified my post by saying "legitimate relationship"...I get your point. But if the OP is saying 75% of the responses he was getting was from older women, its a safe bet that not all of them are looking for a "pump and dump" deal, no? Oh, and I am glad you clarified "most"..as far as physique goes...When I was 25 I would have killed to have the physique I have now at 47...And I was in very good shape, then as well.. TFY I clarified "most" for a reason, and that's because the hottest body I've ever had belonged to a 46 y/o male. He'd taken great care of himself ever since his late teens and oh boy, it showed!
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