lovehurts5 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 My boyfriend grabbed his coworkers phone and took funny pics of himself and this other kid as a joke so that when the girl would go through her phone shed find a bunch of random pictures. Well she keeps posting the pictures all over her instagram and Facebook saying how she loves him and how he's her boo and all that nonsense and its really freaking annoying. I just hate when girls are disrespectful. I just feel like if I was single and knew a guy had a girlfriend I'd never do things like that. It's just rude. UGH. Just needed to get that off my chest.
ChristopherRobin Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 First, are you sure that he didn't put the pictures on his phone because he is with her? It's really an odd situation if you ask me. Second, your boyfriend works with this chick, and she is being incredibly inappropriate. Your man should lay down the law that she shouldn't be doing that because she is hurting you, and if she doesn't stop she should be reported to HR. You are his priority. Boundaries need to be set immediately, for the sake of the relationship. 2
Author lovehurts5 Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 Yeah the pictures aren't inappropriate and I can tell they are at their job. It's just really bothering me how she's labeling the pictures. Like have some respect.
The Way I Am Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Your bf should have respect for other people's property. Either he really is dating her and that's why she's putting up the pics, or he's getting pay back for messing with other people's things. 2
veggirl Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Well I'll tell you right now if a guy was posting pics of me with captions of I love you and boo and stuff like that, I'd be telling him to cut it off. Why doesn't your BOYFRIEND show you some respect by doing that? He could also, you know, quit engaging with a girl that has a crush on him. 1
bob the brave Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Wait...but you're a girl, right? Anyway, yes I agree, it is disrespectful if she knows he has a girlfriend. However, the sad truth of the reality is many people don't consider a bf/gf thing a solid enough commitment. They view it like renting a car. So, she may consider him still in play and she may be right. If you love your guy, now is the time to fight for him. You know, you could be nice and polite and friendly about it and just tell her that you're sure she understands that such action on her part is uncomfortable for you and to please leave your bf alone, but a girl who does this may just turn up the heat. So, try a nice warning first, but be prepared to go down if necessary. 1
crederer Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 What does your boyfriend say about it? Her boo? Wtf does that even mean?
ExpatInItaly Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Well, what does your boyfriend say about how she labels the pictures? How long have you been together? It sounds very fishy
nescafe1982 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Yes, it's your BF's responsibility to manage this thing. I think what he did is a little too flirty for comfort: I mean, how old is this man? He set himself up for it and I wonder if they are flirting in other ways. Now, the other woman's actions are inappropriate, but it's really your BF's responsibility to shut that kind of thing down. Tell him to do so, and be prepared to put your foot down. Hard.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 What??? How are the other woman's actions inappropriate ?? This (idiot) took possession of something belonging to a coworker, without authorization, and then proceeded to do whatever he pleased with that coworker's property. He is like the dumb criminals who use a stolen IPAD to access their own Facebook account, and fully incriminate themselves in the process. Once the photos were back in the girl's possession, they were hers to do as she chose with them (provided they weren't illegal porn, or government secrets, etc.). Nobody has even contemplated the strong possibility that the girl's actions are actions of (wholly appropriate) revenge as a means of stinging the culprit right where it counts. What if this were the property of your daughters? Would you really give a **** about what the girlfriend of the culprit thought of the photos and what your daughter did with them??
nescafe1982 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 What??? How are the other woman's actions inappropriate ?? This (idiot) took possession of something belonging to a coworker, without authorization, and then proceeded to do whatever he pleased with that coworker's property. Once the photos were back in the girl's possession, they were hers to do as she chose with them (provided they weren't illegal porn, or government secrets, etc.). Nobody has even contemplated the strong possibility that the girl's actions are actions of (wholly appropriate) revenge as a means of stinging the culprit right where it counts. Was what she did with the photos wrong in the eyes of the law? No, of course not. But does this make them (by definition) an "appropriate" response to an inappropriate gag some guy played on her? No, not really. But do we agree that the boyfriend was an asshat and this whole mess is egg on his face? Absolutely.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Was what she did with the photos wrong in the eyes of the law? No, of course not. But does this make them (by definition) an "appropriate" response to an inappropriate gag some guy played on her? No, not really. But do we agree that the boyfriend was an asshat and this whole mess is egg on his face? Absolutely. No, the only one to cross the boundaries of the law, was the person who took the phone without permission, so we're right back to pointing at the only culprit in all of this! If you go out and rob a bank, and leave the untraceable money in my yard, you don't get to have a problem with whatever I choose to do with said money. And you know what they say about possession and the law.
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