Brown-Eyez Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 so I am now actively practicing letting him go each time I start to think about him, I remind myself "what's the point? we are never going to see each other again" and somehow that stops the thinking, i gotta do it alot but at least its a step in the right direction 2
love1336x Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I dig it. I like it. I used to pluck myself with a rubber band, and that helped a lotttt. 1
ellyij Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 These are great ideas, I'm going to find me a rubber band right now!!
candie13 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I think obsessional thinking takes place when you are still very worked up in that thing... and when you still haven't let it go. I was in the middle of it, when I read something about forgiveness. The moment you forgive - not forget, the fact that making that road, even intellectually... that helped me break the circle. And I don't mean forgiving the guy, but forgiving myself as well. I'm not fully there, but this thing triggers strange processes inside. I'm in a much much better place, even if maybe only today.
hopefulfaerie Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 so I am now actively practicing letting him go each time I start to think about him, I remind myself "what's the point? we are never going to see each other again" and somehow that stops the thinking, i gotta do it alot but at least its a step in the right direction I am at the exact same stage. I am at a constant battle with myself to STOP the obsessive thoughts before they " play out " I used to just finish the thoughts of what if and false hope just because it gave me some relief from the pain, even if it's only for a minute or two. Now I am not finishing the thoughts and telling myself IT'S OVER! Stop it already! Oh god does that hurt!!! But I know I must so that I can be that much closer to having this nightmare behind me once and for all!
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