Bandito Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 it's been nearly 3 weeks since i've spoken with my ex. i have my ups and downs, thinking i could just forget about her and move on, but then i have my days where its hard, and i'm waiting for her call. last time we spoke i asked her if we could give it another try, and she said "I'm not getting back with you because I can't work with you. You're so inconsistent. don't come at me saying things thy you're over it and accepted things and then twist things around saying give it another try." she said we could hang out when she's ready, and build up a friendship first. i have a problem of not giving her space and time. i'm hoping a couple of months of not talking will calm things down, make her miss me, remember the good times. when she says we can't be together because i'm inconsistent, how does she want me to feel? am i suppose to move on and let go, then she will come back???
leafguy Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 She wants you to feel better about yourself so your more consistent. Don't wait on her...go out and make your own destiny, get out with friends, gym, etc. Make yourself feel good about yourself and the rest will fall into place. 1
im_thedude Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 These mixed feelings are totally natural. I've been feeling them too. You don't want to broadcast them to your ex, though... it'll only muddy the waters even more. When my ex broke up with me a month ago, the first thing on my mind was ripping her feelings out of her so I could get an explanation. It did a lot of damage. Probably enough to truly desert the idea of trying again. You can hope a couple of months will be enough time for her to "remember the good old days," but for all you know, you'll be stringing yourself along. Even the line she gave about hanging out when she's ready - don't put any stock into it. Don't contact her and don't think about whether she'll contact you. 1
Author Bandito Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 You can hope a couple of months will be enough time for her to "remember the good old days," but for all you know, you'll be stringing yourself along. Even the line she gave about hanging out when she's ready - don't put any stock into it. Don't contact her and don't think about whether she'll contact you. i know her though, she's the type of person who starts missing someone after a while. if i know her correctly, i'm hoping we're gonna reconcile in the future. but i know i should work on myself.
Misfortune Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Gotta love the exes; they're all wise sages after the relationship is over. They suddenly know all the right ways to make a relationship work and "care" about you so much; "you need to find yourself". None of this wisdom can be used during the relationship though, that would take work and no one wants that. -_-
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