The worst kind of relationship - doomed from the start, or is it??

[ambrose]

Hi people

I recently broke up with my g/f not because we wanted to but because we had to for the sake of her 4yr old son who missed his daddy very much.

 

I hooked up with my ex after she left the UK and left her husband because he had cheated on her, and the final straw was when her father in law started to crack onto her. When I met her, I was 100% certain she would get a divorce. We went out for 10months and in my eyes she was the one and I know she loves me just as much.

 

The problems began when her son would wake up crying because he missed his dad. It got worse and worse as his dad would ring him every night. Eventually she couldnt take it anymore, and for the sake of his happiness she went back to the UK. She sold her car, put her stuff into storage and left. She didnt want to go, she didnt want to leave me.

 

Now she is over there, I cant text her, or phone her. I can only email her. She is still married and living with him again and her inlaws but she misses me very much yet she feels very guilty about it because she truly believes in her wedding vows. The thing is her marriage only came about because she fell pregnant.

 

I told her I would wait for her. Because she has left him many many times. Everyone says she will be back.

 

Am I a fool for getting involved? am I an even bigger fool for saying I would wait for her? I dont want to wait...i want her now!!! The thing is she preparing to send her son to school over there. I am actually going to the UK in a few weeks to be with my family with the hope that maybe I can see her, but I dont want to spoil her sons happiness this xmas by showing up on her door step, so i dont even know if i can see her. Her husband has 'some' idea of our relationship, but now that she is back he doesnt want to know. She has photos of me there and he finds them all hell will break loose. She still cries over me even though she is with him now.

 

Im so hurt, so very sad and I miss her like crazy, and it doesnt help when she says she is missing me and still thinks that one day we can be together again.

 

What do i do!!?!?!?I have the usual symptons of being heart broken...cant sleep,eat, or do anything because i constantly think of her. Its tearing me apart inside. You guys know how it is, we have all been there. Its been less than a week since she has gone, and I get insanely jealous that she is with him now.

[bluechocolate]

The fact is she's married & living with her husband & the father of her child. That is where she is choosing to be and it would seem that she makes that choice often -

 

Because she has left him many many times.

 

So even if she does come back it is very likely that she will end up returning to her husband once more.

 

Am I a fool for getting involved? am I an even bigger fool for saying I would wait for her?

 

yes and yes

 

Sorry, but I'm of the opinion that this relationship is indeed doomed.