Slaught Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 If I flirt with a girl, it's 'cause I'm attracted and want her to be attracted back. And even if I wouldn't act on it anyway and I'm flirting just for fun, there's a part deep down that is tempted and is hoping something happens. It isn't a game of getting a girl into liking me just for an ego boost. Are girls any different?
tbf Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Depends on the girl. Girls aren't identical, same as guys aren't identical. Many people flirt to be friendly. 1
madjac74 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 (edited) I usually flirt because i think I might brighten someone's day not necessarily because I am attracted to them. I should add when I make someone smile, it makes me feel good so i guess that is an ego boost. But I'm a man so maybe my response doesn't help Edited August 30, 2013 by madjac74
the_entertainer1 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I usually only consciously flirt with people who I find attractive, but some of them, I don't necessarily want a relationship with. Those ones, it's for an ego-boost, and usually people I can't have (for whatever reason).
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I am a natural flirt. I don't even mean to, but I do. With everyone too. 1
Phoe Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I personally am not a flirter. I don't find it fun. I'm naturally friendly, but in a platonic and polite way. Not flirtatious. It just comes off wrong when I do it, lol. 2
MrCastle Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 If I flirt with someone who is taken, or they're a stranger (the middle aged woman in line at the grocery store, the sweet old lady ringing up my stuff at the department store, etc) -- I do it to be friendly. If I know you personally and you are single, I do it because I want to get in your pants. 1
StanMusial Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Many times girls will flirt with you because they want something. Besides your wiener, that is. 1
Leigh 87 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I only flirt if I am interested and think they might be interested in me too.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I flirt with men that I don't find repulsive or creepy but I may not be that interested.
veggirl Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 I don't see what's so hard about being nice, friendly without being flirtacious. I am def not a flirt, I would feel awkward and honestly kinda bad if I was flirting with a guy and getting him all happy about the attention when I really have no interest in him whatsoever. I'm friendly and talk to people all of the time. I don't flirt with them though.
Divasu Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 There is definitely a difference between flirting and being friendly. But distinguishing between the two can be difficult for some to interpret. If a person flirts with everyone and it crosses the line of friendliness, I'd conclude that the person is doing it for reasons that have very little to do with the person he/she is flirting with... 1
carhill Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Girls often flirt for ego boosts? I don't get it... Women flirt for their own reasons which vary by woman. With some, it's to make their partner jealous and keep the drama alive in their relationship; with others, they like how they feel when giving/getting attention from another human in the sexual sense. With others, it's simply innocent 'fun' with no other motives than scratching the itch of the moment. Tip: Learn how to flirt without investing anything in it, rather focus on what you can gain from it. Care less. Good luck.
crederer Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I've been told I'm a natural flirt. I don't even try to but a lot of times I'm having what I think is a casual conversation and my female friends will be like "stop flirting with my friend/sister/cousin/mother/aunt" or a girl will be like "I have a boyfriend". And these are situations where I honestly wasn't even trying to pick up.
Trimmer Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 If I flirt with a girl, it's 'cause I'm attracted and want her to be attracted back. And even if I wouldn't act on it anyway and I'm flirting just for fun, there's a part deep down that is tempted and is hoping something happens. It isn't a game of getting a girl into liking me just for an ego boost. Are girls any different? I would argue that there isn't really that much difference between the vague ideas of "having fun" and "ego boost." Isn't it gratifying (fun, perhaps?) to have your ego boosted? Isn't one way of validating yourself and boosting your ego to interact with someone to have a little fun and have them wiling to reflect it back? Either way, sometimes people flirt for self-gratifying reasons when they don't really "mean it." Within that group, I think it's a pretty fuzzy line to try to separate having fun from boosting ego... (I feel like I'm a pretty natural flirt, too. I don't usually "mean it" - as in intending ot pursue someone - but I find both that it's fun and it boosts my ego!)
SpiralOut Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I flirt by accident and usually don't realize I'm doing it.
Babolat Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I personally am not a flirter. I don't find it fun. I'm naturally friendly, but in a platonic and polite way. Not flirtatious. It just comes off wrong when I do it, lol. I am not flirting, maybe, but where do I meet woman like you in my town!?
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