LilGirlandOW Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 My MM is sexually exclusive to me, that in a sense is faithful, his deep attachment love is shared by few (family) and his "in-love heart" belongs to me 100%. I know he doesnt desire any other woman intimately what-so-ever on this planet other than me, and that includes his roommate, the BS. Their business partnership has nothing to do with our love story. I stay out of all that stuff, and she like-wise happily stays out of the romantic stuff. We could easily work in a plural M, maybe I should propose, lol. 1
rumbleseat Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 My MM is sexually exclusive to me, that in a sense is faithful, his deep attachment love is shared by few (family) and his "in-love heart" belongs to me 100%. I know he doesnt desire any other woman intimately what-so-ever on this planet other than me, . I have a very strong suspicion his wife says the exact same thing. My dear, there is only one thing with you that he has any "deep attachment" to, and that deep attachment aint' love.
underwater2010 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Depends on what you consider being faithful. In my case it is not just sex, but emotionally, spiritually and keeping our little special things sacred. So that means friendships where deep dark secrets are shared or time taken away from our family are consider infidelity. Let alone screwing someone else. That is why I cannot fathom being the OW. I do not share well. Period end of story. And a MM is just that...married and taken therefore would never be considered faithful to anyone in my book. Be I the wife or his AP. Hope that helps. 2
whichwayisup Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Uh.... no. I'm a former betrayed spouse (former as I am no longer with WS). I was having a conversation with an OW who said that MM was faithful to her, and that notion was interesting to me and voila, this thread. Basically if a MM or MW wants to be 'faithful' to their affair partner, then they should just divorce and build a new life with their OW/OM. It's just so selfish to string along two people meanwhile the person who gets all the benefits of the situation is the WS. AP and BS get to ride the roller coaster and have to put up with so much crap. 4
Steen719 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 This question reminds me of a story a woman told in the divorce support group I attended. Beautiful young wife of an AF pilot and they had 2 young children. He cheated...yada yada yada and left her for the other woman he cheated with. A short few months later, the OW called the wife very indignant that he was now cheating on her. The wife told her well, yes, he cheated on me, so???? the OW thought she was so special...oh well. She and another young, truly beautiful young woman (whose husband, another AF pilot, had called her from airport, told her he would not be back to live at home and visited his 2 young children sporadically until the wife saw his car in a garage in their neighborhood as the garage door was going down - yep, 6 months living w/OW in their own neighborhood and not telling wife or family...anyway, they both made me realize you can be young, beautiful, thin, faithful and kind (not perfect) and still have someone cheat on you. Liberating, it was. The OW calling this woman made it easier for her. I could see why.
Mittens Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 At the end of my marriage, I had a 'other man' And I was 'faithful' to him, I didn't have sex with my husband for the duration of the affair. It wasn't difficult, myself and husband even had separate beds. In fact, we'd had them for awhile before we'd got married...which should have been a huge warning sign, but for some reason, wasn't... I think in the year before I started seeing the other man, I'd had sex with my husband only twice. Being constantly turned down by my husband still ranks as one of the most confidence destroying situations I've ever been in. 3
truthbetold Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) My MM is sexually exclusive to me, that in a sense is faithful, his deep attachment love is shared by few (family) and his "in-love heart" belongs to me 100%. I know he doesnt desire any other woman intimately what-so-ever on this planet other than me, and that includes his roommate, the BS. Their business partnership has nothing to do with our love story. I stay out of all that stuff, and she like-wise happily stays out of the romantic stuff. We could easily work in a plural M, maybe I should propose, lol. Does this seriously help you sleep at night and give you happiness? You really do settle for so little. Especially the "what so ever ON THIS PLANET"(It needs some foot stamps and hands on hips too) and minimizing their marriage in your head, I guess that's what you think works for you, I see major denial no matter what you type. Some love story, I'm pretty sure no one I know would want "that" kind of love as it's not love at all. I really would hope that you would take steps to find out what TRUE love looks like, but sadly with your mindset you NEVER will. I'm glad I saw this post of yours though, shows me not to waste my time anymore as you only want to hear what you believe. Edited August 31, 2013 by truthbetold 1
Sarabi Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Hey y'all! I was wondering... is it possible to be 'faithful' to the OW/M (while being married)? If so, how does that work? If not... why not? I'm interested in hearing your responses! Happy Weekend, btw! Perhaps for some (not all...but who knows) being faithful means not shacking up or taking on another Other whilst seeing an OW/OM...i.e. having only one mister/mistress at a time maybe...
HopingAgain Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 My MM is sexually exclusive to me, that in a sense is faithful, his deep attachment love is shared by few (family) and his "in-love heart" belongs to me 100%. I know he doesnt desire any other woman intimately what-so-ever on this planet other than me, and that includes his roommate, the BS. Their business partnership has nothing to do with our love story. I stay out of all that stuff, and she like-wise happily stays out of the romantic stuff. We could easily work in a plural M, maybe I should propose, lol. I hear that willful ignorance is blissful. You certainly seem happy! 1
Furious Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 It's an oxymoron to have the word "faithful" and "other woman" in the same sentence. 4
2sure Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Absolutely false. Although I will say, I never felt like the OW. I always felt like I was 'THE' woman. He loves me. Was exclusive with me, is still. Our relationship became the primary relationship the second we began dating. But isn't your relationship a long distance Skyping relationship? Did your MM divorce last month and you and all your kids moved to his country? Well, good for you. I have to admit , I thought it was all wishful thinking.
cocorico Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Hey y'all! I was wondering... is it possible to be 'faithful' to the OW/M (while being married)? If so, how does that work? If not... why not? I'm interested in hearing your responses! Happy Weekend, btw! To me, "being faithful" doesn't just mean "having none before me", it means "having none beside me", and in that sense he was faithful - sexually, emotionally, financially and socially - to me even while he still had a vestigial M. On official documentation, they shared an address, but that's pretty much all. They were hardly ever there synchronously, and when they were, they were not in the same room. He spent much more time with me - even when we were LDR - than with her. We communicated constantly via many media. They communicated via terse instructions on the fridge, if at all. We shared hopes, dreams, plans.... She didn't even know about important milestones in his life. We shared friends, and a professional circle. She "knew" them only by their pictures on book covers. We spent money on each other. Their finances were completely separate. Etc. It is a mindset. If you are loyal, faithful and true, no one else exists for you, even if they do happen to have a key to your house. 1
EsmerKiss77 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Hey y'all! I was wondering... is it possible to be 'faithful' to the OW/M (while being married)? If so, how does that work? If not... why not? I'm interested in hearing your responses! Happy Weekend, btw! I think in this situation being faithful would mean not being with another OW/M... the spouse is already part of the picture so i dont think thats much of a deterrent in the whole faithful aspect. I have a friend who once she found out her MM had another OW beside her and she felt so betrayed. I guess i would too in that sense. But i dont know.
dichotomy Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 If I were going to be a WS I would have to be " faithful" to my OM. The thought of having sex with two men during the same time frame is....not something I could do. Nor would I expect my true love (OM) to deal with my letting another man ( in this case the man I married and the father of my children) enter me. I would have to do this. I cannot be affectionate with two men at the same time. I hate to say this - its obscene - and not like me - but I will since its been on my mind... and what the heck - its kind of furthering the quote above. and since this is not the OW/OM section.... Unless your (as one poster said) into threesomes/bisexual - I don't get an OM or OW being okay (feeling loved and faithful by AP) when they are putting their lips where someone else (AP's BS) might have been with their genitals or mouth or fluids - a day earlier or - even possibly the same day. Gross, Gross, Gross.:sick: 2
truthbetold Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I think perhaps it's a good idea not to post to Lil anymore, as you are being completely rude. I don't see OW telling BS's that their marriages are a farce, which some DO think. SO perhaps you could work on being a little more kind in future. Excuse me? I have seen PLENTY of OW doing exactly that. I don't think Lil needs a guardian either. Did you happen to miss the fact that Lil is posting on the infidelity side with rather erroneous boasting? If she would have posted those fantasies on the OW side, I would have never bothered to respond but she didn't. She had a quieter, gentler side to her over there. I thought she could be reached, I was mistaken based on her true colors over here. You seem familiar though, If you're so happy together with your man, I don't see why you feel the need to champion someone or take things personally it wasn't about YOU. 1
Journee Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 I hate to say this - its obscene - and not like me - but I will since its been on my mind... and what the heck - its kind of furthering the quote above. and since this is not the OW/OM section.... Unless your (as one poster said) into threesomes/bisexual - I don't get an OM or OW being okay (feeling loved and faithful by AP) when they are putting their lips where someone else (AP's BS) might have been with their genitals or mouth or fluids - a day earlier or - even possibly the same day. Gross, Gross, Gross.:sick: I always cringe when I see posters say that their AP still has sex with their spouse and it doesn't bother them. I guess the MP should hold up that end of the M but to hell with much else. I have read AP's say that for the MP to NOT to fulfill the sexual/ physical needs of the BS would be cruel....ummm what? Some folks might enjoy knowing their partner is having sex with another but I would venture to say the majority would have no part in it. It's disgusting. It really shows the lack of human understanding it takes to even think that. That a person deserves pity ( for the lack of a better term) sex from their spouse. Who do these people think they are? Just passing out sentences to BSs based on what? Speculation? The WS's word? I as a person may not be perfect or lovable all of the time but who deserves this? Does the AP deserve to be lied to in this aspect as well? It baffles me. AP's have no clue what the BS's sexual history is aside from MP. It's so risky. Why do we humans do this to ourselves? Life doesn't have to be so complicated.
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