Fridaymorning Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 (edited) A couple of weeks after the break up my ex got off with a girl at a party. I was upset but i tried to get over it. Last night we were at the same party as well as the girl he got with at the previous party. I distanced myself from him because i didnt want it to ruin the night, anyway i ended up getting very drunk and hooking up with this boy who id been speaking to. My ex (who was probably the drunkest one there) saw this and sat alone crying about it. I didnt realise until one of my friends brought me up to him telling me that i needed to talk to him. He was then telling me how sorry he was and how he didnt do anything to purposely hurt me and that he didnt want us to end up like this. I tried to explain to him that i didnt kiss this other boy because i wanted to hurt him but simply because i wanted to and im single and getting over the break up. We sat for about half an hour while he was crying and talking to me about how he was so sorry etc and how he just wants to be a good person. He kept repeating 'how could you do this to me' 'why would you want to hurt me like this' Which i thought was very hypocritical considering he did the same thing? He was hugging me really tight and not letting me go. He also gave me his jacket because he was cold. The next thing i knew he snapped and didnt want to be near me. He phoned his friend who he talked to for a while so i just left him too it and returned to the party. Not so long after he came up to me and made me dance with him, he was singing to me and kissing me, just like we were together again. We moved away from everyone where we could be alone, we were kissing and dancing and tickling eachother and i knew it would turn out bad but in those moments all my feelings returned stronger than ever. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex, although not for long as i realised what a bad idea it was. once i said no he got up and left me by myself. When i went back to the party i saw him with the girl he got off with. I was distraught and humiliated. I dont remember much after that but i know we argued, he told me he likes this girl and that he was completely over me. He spent the rest of the night with this girl and slept in the same tent as her. I thought this was all so disrespectful. The morning after he completely ignored me. I tried to talk to him about what happened but he kept saying 'theres nothing to talk about' anyway when i got home he messaged me telling me he was sorry and that it shouldnt of happened. He told me he meant everything he said to me, he told me he was over me and still is. I dont know what to think. What am i dealing with here? is he over me? i dont understand. Its all messed up and i have no idea what to do, it has been around 2 months since the break up and we were together for 3 years. Is this girl a rebound? Edited August 30, 2013 by Fridaymorning
Zahara Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 All this drama while under the influence. Means absolutely nothing. And the guy is telling you to move on. He can't be any clearer when he says he is over you. Don't try to analyse that. Find your self-respect and NC.
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