saltyfishhead666 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 So today I joined POF. I'm not anywhere close to moving on, I don't want love right now or to replace him with a new relationship. I've made myself clear on my profile so as not to lead anyone on or use anyone as a rebound. It would be unfair and not in my character. I just need some company. The night's get lonely, It used to be us talking on a night time after work and catching up after our days. Now there is nothingness. I'm not sure if this is a positive step or not. Could I grab some input? I'm feeling a little guilty... I'm so silly
hurts2death Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 what is POF? i feel i need the same company although to any i attach to my self i feel empty again .. noone will replace them...lets face the truth... lets love our slefs....lets be true. lets be realistic... and love will find us again for sure... i hope i said sth here...So today I joined POF. I'm not anywhere close to moving on, I don't want love right now or to replace him with a new relationship. I've made myself clear on my profile so as not to lead anyone on or use anyone as a rebound. It would be unfair and not in my character. I just need some company. The night's get lonely, It used to be us talking on a night time after work and catching up after our days. Now there is nothingness. I'm not sure if this is a positive step or not. Could I grab some input? I'm feeling a little guilty... I'm so silly
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 POF is plenty of fish. It's typically a dating site however there are options for friendship, no strings as well as casual dating. I tend to agree, life doesn't stop because they are gone, the world doesn't stop because we're sad. I think everyone gets lonesome broken hearted or not. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I understand Plenty Of Fish to be pretty much a hook-up site. So if that's what ya want, I'm sure you will have no problem as it is mostly men and fake women or flaky women, so yeah...
hurts2death Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 i just saw pof is a dating site... so i suggest stay out cause it will hurt you in the end,, we need to solder our souls first with our selfs... through this we wont need pof . trust me on this love will come after us
HappyLove Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 If your not ready to date it just sounds like you have a lot if extra time. You need to join some type of class or gym, something along those lines. You need to get busy doing things you like. I'd hate for you to get your hopes up with one of the flakes on that site and get even more down. A dating site is probably the last thing you need right now. 1
hopefulfaerie Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I understand Plenty Of Fish to be pretty much a hook-up site. So if that's what ya want, I'm sure you will have no problem as it is mostly men and fake women or flaky women, so yeah... I joined POF a few weeks back. I don't consider myself a flake Haven't gone on any dates and I don't have to untilI feel that 'spark' But I have met a few nice people, just not enough to make me want to go on any dates yet. Anyway, I don't think it's a sleazy place or anything. I'm sure there are some flakey women and jerk men but there are nice people too
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 I'm busy through out the day and attend the gym in the early evening however I have children so I have to be at home. I can't really go running around joining clubs as I have them to consider x 1
joe86 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I was on there before my ex & I signed back in a few days after she left. If nothing else the attention might help confidence! I was just on there before I came here actually!
hopefulfaerie Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I was on there before my ex & I signed back in a few days after she left. If nothing else the attention might help confidence! I was just on there before I came here actually! I agree. I don't know if it's good or bad, Healthy or not, Too soon, too late. . . You get the point. But yeah, it is a little bit of an ego boost, especially when someone hotter than my x 'hits on me' ha ha! In your face "x's name here" Like I said I'm not taking it too seriously at this point but you never know. May make a few friends. I recently moved from a big city to a small town in a new state. (Was a dream of mine to do so and don't regret it one bit) but the pickens are slim here. LOL!!!
joe86 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Yeah that's my only problem with it! There's few hot chicks on there round here!
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Yeah that's my only problem with it! There's few hot chicks on there round here! I don't think I've ever heard a man complain about that 1
iouaname Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Honestly, it might do more harm than good at this point. I don't know the situation, exactly, but if you're fresh out of a relationship, trying to move on before you're really ready to do that kind of thing might set you back and cause you to think even more about your ex. I know when I tried to date too soon after my breakup, I compared all of the men I went out with to my ex and felt depressed every time because none of them compared to him (or at least to the idea of him). 1
joe86 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I don't think I've ever heard a man complain about that I have standards Honestly, it might do more harm than good at this point. I don't know the situation, exactly, but if you're fresh out of a relationship, trying to move on before you're really ready to do that kind of thing might set you back and cause you to think even more about your ex. I know when I tried to date too soon after my breakup, I compared all of the men I went out with to my ex and felt depressed every time because none of them compared to him (or at least to the idea of him). Totally depends on how and why you use it. I use it knowing there's a slim chance of anything coming from it because girls don't message guys, and I'm not in a place where I'm going to get in touch with anyone!
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 As I said last night. I opened it for companionship. Talking online, maybe hanging out (as friends) I clearly stipulated in my profile I wasn't after dating as I had just come out of a relationship and it wasn't time. I quickly realised they didn't play a blind bit of notice to my profile other than age, location and pictures. The profile is now hidden waiting to be deleted as apparently I have to have it 24 hours first x
LostOne1 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 You want my advice.. I did the same after my BU and went on POF. Let me tell you I found MANY people in the same position as me. Girls that had come out of a relationship and didn't want to commit. So take it from me.. DO NOT join POF after a BU. If your lonely HANG with FRIENDS/FAMILY. Dating is NOT right after a BU. I've been BU since 1 year ago and 5 days. I'm still single, but being lonely doesn't matter. I set me own personal goals I want to achieve now and make myself better. All that matters to me is me now and I don't NEED a girlfriend to make me whole or feel better about myself. I love myself for once and this BU experience has taught me I am an amazing guy!
joe86 Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 As I said last night. I opened it for companionship. Talking online, maybe hanging out (as friends) I clearly stipulated in my profile I wasn't after dating as I had just come out of a relationship and it wasn't time. I quickly realised they didn't play a blind bit of notice to my profile other than age, location and pictures. The profile is now hidden waiting to be deleted as apparently I have to have it 24 hours first x I thought it was like that for girls on there, which I suppose is why it has a bit of a reputation. And maybe why I don't have much luck on there!
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