littlejaz Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Hopefully, some of you have read my other post "Was I too hasty?". Anyway I filed for divorce in March of 2012, and am still waiting. Our trial date is set for Nov 18, 2013, so guess we will have it out in court if we cannot negotiate a settlement before then. His first settlement proposal was ridiculous. In it he got all the assets and I got all the debt, including what was spent on a roof and siding on his separate property and paying off his premarital debt. He did not mention our retirement money. I guess he thinks it is all his since it was from his job. But we were married when he got that job and when he lost it. So it is half mine. He also thought he should get 100% of the stocks that my mother had given us. Now just so you know, he made more money than I did but I paid most of the bills. He has had my settlement proposal since April 1, 2013 which splits things close to 50-50, which ends up with him owing me a good sum of money. Keep in mind that since I filed he has spent out entire retirement account. He spent more than half of it buying coins. He is a coin collector and now claims that he has given all the coins to his mother because her husband died and left her in debt. Of course, he didn't mention that she owns 3 pieces of property, 2 lakefront, worth over $660,000. And if she is in so much debt that she needs my money, why is it that he has lived with her for over a year and she has been feeding him and he has paid her all of $500, but she hasn't needed to sell any of those coins. (This all came out in his deposition.) Anyway, the day that he met with his attorney, June 20, to discuss my settlement offer, ended with his attorney signing a motion to withdraw from the case. I figure it is because my husband was being unreasonable. I am sure he told his attorney no, no, no. And probably said that he would just as soon go to court and my guess is that his attorney does not want to represent him in court because all my husband's lies will come out and he will look like a fool. By the time my attorney gets through with him on the stand, the judge is going to have a hard time believing him when he states his name. It is truly that bad and we have proof, it is not a he said, she said. (Drugs will do that to you.) There was a hearing on Aug 23 about the motion to withdraw which kind of confused my attorney because he said as long as the opposing attorney signs off on it there is not usually a hearing. I just found out that my husband is the one objecting to it, so since there was a stand-in judge that day the hearing was postponed until Sep 4. What I am wondering is if I should go to that hearing? There is a good chance that my husband will have to say in open court why he objects and I really want to know, but will I just antagonize the situation and/or do I care if I do? PS :eek:Who argues with their attorney to the point that they want to withdraw and then goes before a judge to object to him withdrawing? Would you really want to keep an attorney on that basis? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
cozycottagelg Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I have absolutely no legal background or experience. But I'd go, to stay informed, if nothing else.
Author littlejaz Posted September 6, 2013 Author Posted September 6, 2013 Well, I went to the hearing on Wed and the motion was granted so now my STBXH does not have an attorney. His ex-attorney told my attorney that he was dumber than a rock and refused to follow direction. So now I guess I have to wait until our trial date in Nov and pray that the judge does not give him a continuance when he whines that he does not have an attorney. Truth is he has known this was going to happen since June 20, so he will have had 5 months to get a new attorney. And he cannot just not show up for the hearing because he has 3 counts of contempt against him, so if he doesn't show, they will issue a warrant for his arrest. I just wish he would man up and deal with this like an adult instead of throwing temper tantrums like a 2 year old. It is just very hard to believe that this soap opera is actually my life. Dealing with him and this divorce is like walking into the Twilight Zone.
2sure Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Well, if it's of any consolation at all... When my ex husbands efforts to conceal assets was revealed in court...I was awarded more than I asked for.
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