jen4 Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 Hi. I've posted her a few times,but not recently. My ex and I were together for about 5 months. We broke up because I thought he was cheating and a friend told me she sees him flirting a lot and has a girl that has "fallen in love" with him. Well obviously he gave her a reason to feel that way. We broke up and he agreed it was for the best because I'm a mom of 4 and don't have alot of time to see him. He said he was ready for us to be living together already and he told me after we broke up that he loves me and has since about a month after we started dating. Why couldn't he tell me this before???? Well,he made a fast decision to move out of the state and go back to work for a comp. he was with last yr. He left a week ago and has called me 3 times.Telling me he still loves me,asked if I am with anyone,I said I'm talking to a guy from work. He sounded shocked that this was so soon. I am only talking to the guy and am not attracted to him like I am to my ex. well the next day my ex called and told me that he got two emails one from the girl mentioned earlier in this post that was falling in love with him and one from hi s ex from a year ago. well I was upset. he is going to meet up with the girl that is in love with him. she is now going through a divorce and what a coincidence that he now lives an hour away from her. she lived in the same city then moved to canada! I'm thinking this was all planned by them now. I am still hurt thinking he will be with her. she already has feelings for him. well he said he wants to come back here to visit me,but if I am with that guy then he can t be with me. I totally understand but i cant wait around on him. if he is going to be with someone that isn't fair to me or the other woman. I know I' d be crazy to be with him when he comes home but I do still have feelings for him. he says if he comes back here for good it's to marry me!!yikes! that cant happen,but I do wish we could have tried harder to work this out. he says he regrets making the decision to leave so fast. any input would be welcomed,not sure what I'm asking, I guess what would you do? thanks in advance! JEN
katty Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 Its no wonder your emotions are all over the place. Your ex is all over the map. My opinion is for you to go ahead and see other guys b/c it is not fair of your ex to ask you not to when he is obviously meeting these other girls. Be careful b/c it sounds like he is just trying to keep the door open for when he is in your area. Best of luck. Hang in there, everyone here claims it gets better so I am hoping they are right.
bluechocolate Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 ....but i cant wait around on him. and nor should you. He called you back & told you about the emails because the day before you told him you were talking to some guy at work. Who knows what his motives are? These aren't the words of a man who wants to marry you & his actions, well he's not living with you, is he? You dated this guy for less than half a year, he didn't even make it through a spring & summer - consider yourself lucky. You've got 4 children to care for, you need someone a lot more mature than this guy.
Just Visiting Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 You and your children deserve someone who is willing to commit. I can't believe he is telling you not to see others while he is running around. What a selfish shmuck. He is professing words of love and marriage because he knows those words are gold. And that it is the way to hook a woman. That just burns me. Let go of this guy and take the higher road.
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