Girlfriend spent every day with me for 4 months then changed in 3 days :( (emotional)

[mcmanus1806]

My girlfriend left me for her ex (unknown and unwanted feelings)

 

So i hang with a group of boys, (im 19) and we are all a friendly happy bunch, never get into trouble

just usually find a park with our cars and chill, and one day a guy brought a girl out, and she was

no interest to me, she was holding hands with the guy i knew, and eventually ended up seeing one of the

other guys in the group, but he ended up sending explicit photos to his ex, so she left him, or so i thought

it took her 3 long attempts to try and talk to me and for me to finnaly add her on fb, and i am the type of

guy thats happy with a friends with benifts friendship, Firstly i asked her to tell nobody we where speaking

as i was actually embarassed to talk to her (she is ginger, full of freckles and doesnt wear barely any makeup

so we where sat in my car, and i sed she could sit on my lap (we where actually planning to have sex, but my car

wasntable to fit us in the driver seat together, so we just spoke, and she showed me the texts of her to her bf

and it looked as if it was over, but unknowily to me, we eventually after that went to her nans house (as she was

kicked out of her mothers) and her nan was in bed, she was sleeping on the sofa, and we had a little foreplay.

now this was fine because nobody know, but she went out clubbing one night, and ended up telling her ex,

which i found out the next day by all my friends bitching and stuff because i made her cheat on him,

which i never would have done had i knew she was still seeing him, so this made me lose pretty much all my

friends, she doesnt know this, as she still really liked to see them all (she preferes to talk to boys)

and i alway sed i didnt want to go out, but i would just for her (her not know the reason i didnt want

to go is because i did not feel welcomed by the boys. but after this, she was out the same day and i (i cant fully

rememebr, but i think i just completely ignored her, and she knew what she had done wrong, she lives about 3 or 4 miles

away from this park, and she walked off crying, ignoring her phone and everyone was phoning her, so everybody was

like, go and find her, so i went and eventually found her, she was crying by a lamp post, and i told her to get in my

car, i sed, look, its done, you should just move on to another group, because by this time they didnt really like her

confusing but the group i am in prefere to bitch behind each others backs.

 

so eventually about 1 or 2 weeks after, i gave her another chance, as she was consistent try to talk to me and say

sorry but we kept it hidden from everybody, and i seen her pretty much every day, and it went on like this, she

liked me so much, i was practically introduced to her whole family, and she was saying how they never like or trust

any of her other boyfriends and how they trust me and i agree they did, and im not being big headed, i was brought up

to be well mannered, trusting and so on, however she has a bit of a ruff family, but she cares about them all so much,

and they show barely any love or care back, she was kicked out her mums house for fighting, because she was spiked

then to live with her nan, who she overheard, didnt actually want her to stay there, so ended up living with her auntie

and uncle, who are country and western singers, she also loves country and western, only music she will listen to.

 

Then she brought her best friend out, who imediatly got attatched to my friend, who just got a brand new VXR, he has

never had a gf and him and her ended up eventually seeing each other, and she had a free house quite often so me and

my friend slept in the same bed, hugging and kissing and stuff, and we always argued, not big, but i always moaned how she

went into these moods and didnt tell anyone what was wrong, and drinking and how she was feeling bad after drinking

 

and i cannot remember the cause of it, but there was another argument, big one, where i sed thats it, leave me alone, and it

took about 1-2 weeks for me to give her another chance, so slowly built up staying together, started having meals

and bowling and movies, i always picked her up from work at the weekends, at like sometimes 1 in the morning :/

we seen each other every day, and eventually she ended up disliking her best friend, they always argued, but stayed

best friends, and eventually she never really wanted to see them, only me and spend as much time with me as she could

 

and i did like her, and i always told her, but i also told her i didnt think it was ever going to work, and that i wanted to

wait till uni in september to see what happens, so she had this festival coming up (country and western, that she went with

most of her family, and i gave her my ipod to use constantly, i she gave it back before going to this festival, and she

left her fb signed in, and i read her messages and the top 5 consisted of a boy wanting to shove his dick in her

another guy showing her his dick and her replyin nice (she never really spoke to these people) then the big one, i was

reading it and i could see the the end of the convo and the top page, i cant beleive we had sex, and my heart dropped

and i read it and i found out, after sleeping with me for 2 weeks straight, at her friends house, at her friends

18th party she got a lift home with a friend, and kissed and ended up shagging him, i know she wanted a kiss

but i dunno weather the shag was i want, obviously was, but i kept going and seen another guy who goesw to the pub

she works in, wanted to meet up with her, and was seeming desperate, and it was obvious what for (she also commented to me

saying he was the best looking guy in the pub, which didnt bother me till reading that message, and then another one

a guy at her festival and she was saying for him to come and join her in the tent

i couldnt sleep all night and found feelings i thought i never had, and i was shouting and screaming at her the next

day on the phone, and eventually i gave in and sed, lets go out, so she was at a festival, and edned up coming home

for her cousins geart surgery, so she stayed with me that night, and had some fun, then i drove up to my dads 1 week

later and on the way, i stayed at her festival in her tent with her for 2 days and everything seemed great, kissing cuddling

holding hands, and then i left, but because of the guy she shagged, i didnt trust her much and we agreed to build it up

when she got back, and her ex boyfriend, who she shagged at this festival last year was here again this year, and everything

was fine till the last few days at the festival, her phone was comepltely off for 1 whole day (no theres not much chance

to charge her phone because theres no power, but it had been on every day but this one, and it got me anxious, so i was worrying

and found out that she had also been texting another boy, who is also a friend, but at the beach she described him as

a nice body (pretty much ****ing bone) and i seen these texts she sent him, nothing wrong with them, but she sent around 7

or 8 texts without him evern replying kinda like hey, hey, he how was bowling, hey did you win bowling, what you up to,

omg your ex is with another guy in out group (she left him for another guy in the group) and this made me think that she

was desperate for a relationship, (but the texting was before we went out, i only found out about them a few days after

we started seeing, so there where a lot of arguments, and we cooled down, and she got home, and i asked if i could come and

give her some kisses and cuddles, and she sed no she wasnt feeling good, drained (and she just came on her period)

so i thought ok, thats fair enough, so the next day i was like can i come see you, and she sed i couldnt because she was

walking the dogs with her best friend (who she never wanted to see before, so that upset me, putting her friend before me

so she sed i will see you after, but ended up going out with them somewhere, and then on way home had to see her baby

cousin with the heart transplant, so i then sed ok after, and she sed yes, then she sed her aunti is pciking her up

to get her cousin she lives with, she wont be able to see me today, she will see me tomorrow, and this made me so angry as all

i wanted to do was see her, so i got worked up and started argueing and shouting and things, because it was 9 and i asked if i could

come over for 5 and she sed nah, so i got so annoyed, i then sed would you like to come and stay with me and she sed, nah not tonight

this is when i clicked, because she never denies staying with me, and then we started arguing, and i got so worked up

so i raced over to her house in my car, to then find her and the 2 friends guy and girl (who are also very good friends

with me, outside) and i was really angry because i was like, so they can come but i cant, and i knew something was definatly up

but didnt knwo why, and i found out yesterday, that she had started speaking to her ex, who she shagged once, seen once before

because it was a long ditance relationship, and she had completely changed, id never ever have thought she could do this to me

she cared about me so much, and missed me and loved me, and then boom, click of a finger, literally 2 or 3 days with her ex

and she doesnt want to know me.

 

now this is my problem, ive gone into sevear depression and stress, i cannot eat i cannot sleep, i feel physically sick

constantly, so i cannot eat, and when i try, i end up regurgetating, and its only because i cant beleive she done this to me

and that she doesnt care how bad i feel now, i was texting her saying i loved her, i was sorry, i wanted to get back with her

love her forever, to give me a chance, because i gave her many many chances, and she just sed noxxxxx

 

and it killed me, its was 3 days ago it started worrying me, and now, i havent slept for 3 days, havent ate,

 

and i know your supposed to take your mind off things but recently, ive lost my job, my car, i have no money

and she doesnt mind this, all this is because of her ex :/ the falling out, and i have no friends, now the only 3 things

i can think gof ever doing to sort this out is, think about it so much i dont care (which i done previously for girls)

find another girl, who is nice to be friends with and talk properly in person, or hang with mates (which i have none)

 

so im stuck, ive been in my bedroom for the past 3 days, i usually go t the gym with a gym buddy, but i have had

no energy, because lack of sleep, food and depression, i cant break through as i am physically feeling sick so cant eat to

motivate myself and grow and build muscle (i am addicted to the gym)

 

i have never felt this way before about a girl, and my previous girls where 10x better looking, only long ditance ruined them

i felt special when i was with them, i got butterflies holding hand and when kissing, but not with my ex :S

 

and usually you just are supposed to think about a load of things why you dont like them, i have a massive list

 

Ugly, ginger, kicked out of house, bitched behind peoples back, cant save money, spends all money on drink, lost her job

hides things, goes into really strange moods, and more!!!

 

and this doesnt even bother me, all i care about is the feelings that i had, i dont care anything about her, all i care about

is that my feelings where so incredibly strong with her

 

its yucky so you may want to skip this but

 

But she was the first girls i stayed with in bed ( not sex but just sleeping) the first girl i could finish inside, the

first girl that i was with every day, that i went on dates with, that i properly loved... and shewas great, until she just

changed....

 

and i dont know what to do, i felt bad yesterday and i feel worse today, i cannot stop thinking abobut it as i have nothing

to do to take it off my mind, no friends to hang with, looking for a job, went from £4000 car to a £200 car

and seriously feel as if i am in deep depression, feel sick, stressed badly, cannot eat, no energy, no motivatino

 

i dont know weather to go and see a doctor or therepist.

 

I am so down

 

sorry for the long and half pointless storey, but i wanted to get everything in there, i missed something out,

but they dont matter that much, what does is that, she changed so quickly, for someone who isnt that great, i know

she is going to regret it and will come back, she did with her other ex's too, and i will feel better then

because i know she does care about me, but weirdly i just feel bad because she just cared for soo long soo much trying

soo hard every day for me to like her, then within 3 weeks of going out, boom no care at all

 

im shocked, gobbsmacked

[taya135]

Dude you need to get over it. She sound like a horrible person to being with, and your just going though heartbreak. you need to pick yourself up, and get your life back together. Like go make new friends or a new job. You'll get back on your feet eventually, and what every you do don't take her back. She no good for you man.