kaylan Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 So this passed Saturday I had a late night out with a buddy of mine. I was hanging out in Manhattan, and staying with my brother in the Bronx (this is all NYC). So its like 6am and I get to my station and meet this girl. And she was super chill. A smart girl from the midwest whos in NYC for grad school. She had a late night, but was on her way home, and then right back out for work that morning....dunno how she could do that will little sleep. She was actually on her way home from some event upstate thats near where I live. Anyways the conversation was good, and I thought she was cute, but I never went for it and asked for her number (nervousness on my part and a little insecurity) What sucks was for a few days I remembered the name of the place she mentioned she worked at, and I thought to call and leave my number. Yeah, I figured thats pretty forward, but when would I ever see this chick again to be able to ask for her number, right? But now Ive forgotten the name of the place some Im SOL basically. I know itll never really happen in a city of 8 million people...especially a city Im not currently living in and only visit once or twice a month (hopefully more once I start working closer to the city in October), but has anyone ever met someone, and then run into them again in the future? Im not talking about on a college campus, at the gym, or working at the same office building...since I wouldnt ask this if that was the case. Im not getting any hopes up. Im pretty sure Ill never see this chick again. I guess its just something Id thought to ask the LS crowd. If anything I know I should pull the trigger from now on.
Onward_Upward Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Im not getting any hopes up. Im pretty sure Ill never see this chick again. I guess its just something Id thought to ask the LS crowd. If anything I know I should pull the trigger from now on. Yup... Next time, get her number! Now, it is most definitely possible that you may see her again, at some time. People report such things fairly regularly... "co-incidences" and the like. My former wife and I had a similar experience to yours, only it was based in Cyberspace (not in "real" life): She was 18, and looking for "love" on one of the many Internet Dating Sites. I happened to sign up, and she initiated contact with me. We got along well, and found that we could really relate to each other; we had a lot in common... But after a month or so, of sending semi-flirtatious emails back and forth, she chose to break contact (she said at the time she'd already been in contact with another guy, and that she wanted to continue with him "exclusively")... I accepted her at her word, thinking, "That's it... she's gone." As far as I was concerned, that was the end of it. I deleted my account completely, and moved on with my life. Flash forward 3 years: I sign up to completely different dating site, hoping to find "love" (or just someone to mesh with), once again... A very nice girl started sending me emails, and at about the third email, I realized it was the same girl who had written to me earlier! Oddly though, I found out later on that she hadn't recognized me at all (from the earlier correspondence)... it was just that she'd found my profile "appealing". Some would call it "destiny", whilst others just write it off as one of the many "co-incidences" of life... It doesn't really matter, I guess. Anyway, long story short: We were married within one year... And we had ten wonderful years together, and a number of children as well So, that's my story... I'm telling it to you Kaylan, so you know that it IS possible to "stumble" on someone again, even though you were never expecting it I wish you all the best, my friend. --- P.S Regarding her breaking it off the first time, I found out later on that in truth, her parents had declared her "too young" for marriage... And at only 18 years of age, she had been too embarrassed to tell me
Mrlonelyone Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 So this passed Saturday I had a late night out with a buddy of mine. I was hanging out in Manhattan, and staying with my brother in the Bronx (this is all NYC). So its like 6am and I get to my station and meet this girl. And she was super chill. A smart girl from the midwest whos in NYC for grad school. She had a late night, but was on her way home, and then right back out for work that morning....dunno how she could do that will little sleep. She was actually on her way home from some event upstate thats near where I live. Anyways the conversation was good, and I thought she was cute, but I never went for it and asked for her number (nervousness on my part and a little insecurity) What sucks was for a few days I remembered the name of the place she mentioned she worked at, and I thought to call and leave my number. Yeah, I figured thats pretty forward, but when would I ever see this chick again to be able to ask for her number, right? But now Ive forgotten the name of the place some Im SOL basically. I know itll never really happen in a city of 8 million people...especially a city Im not currently living in and only visit once or twice a month (hopefully more once I start working closer to the city in October), but has anyone ever met someone, and then run into them again in the future? Im not talking about on a college campus, at the gym, or working at the same office building...since I wouldnt ask this if that was the case. Im not getting any hopes up. Im pretty sure Ill never see this chick again. I guess its just something Id thought to ask the LS crowd. If anything I know I should pull the trigger from now on. Take this for what it's worth. If you read the threads I post I wrote of a girl named M. I first met M on the quad in passing we didn't exchange numbers at the time. I wondered if I would ever see her again. Then a year or two latter she changed majors into my department. Then...read my threads to see what happened. To make it even more remarkable. M's parents both worked at a hospital where one of my parents worked over 20 years before M and I met. They moved to a totally different city, and we ended up together for a while. How about that. So stranger things than you meeting that woman again can and do happen. Don't hold your breath. However don't give up on that romantic rediscovery either. They do happen. So what if my story hasn't ended with a happily ever after, that does not mean it or others can't. Stranger things happen. I am looking for a story I read from a romance advice columnist, a woman, about how she dated all the wrong guys in college. Not because she didn't find the right guys attractive but because deep down she did not feel she deserved them. Then 16 years latter met one of those guys she didn't even make a move towards and married him after a chance meeting on the subway. TL;DR. Don't hold your breath on meeting that woman again. However it can happen. It might not be in a week or a year but it can happen. It has happened to me once and to others as well. Don't hold your breath. Live your life. Meet other people. If it's meant to happen it's meant to happen. 1
yessy21 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 it was a missed connection. Don't be scared of getting her number next time. How about you go to the station where she was left off? Do you remember her name? If you really really really want to see her again.... I would make a couple of flyers with a number to a prepaid phone. describing her and so on. leave it in every station. until she figures it out.
Lansing Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Use it as motivation to get a girls number or ask for it next time. The thing is, maybe it wouldn't even have gone anywhere if you did ask for her number but you wouldn't have the regret. I met a girl waiting in line for a film. I was meet up with my ex-gf and her friend otherwise I would have just sat with this girl and chatted with her more. I regretted that the time was so short but she seemed cool. I should have probably just sat with her. Well, on the way out, I run into her again and I start chatting with her. It was hard for me to guage if she was just super friendly or perhaps there was some interest. I decided to eject and not ask her number but after I was like "arg, I had a second chance". I went to a park, hung out for an hour then walked back towards the theatre and she was walking on the sidewalk towards me!! I said "hey" but she didn't look up/over to me (she was looking around at shop windows/etc) and at this point I was like "blah, maybe she is ignoring me" so I walked past. Well, when I got home I decided to google her based on what she told me (where she was from, her schooling, her just getting into my city, etc) and I came across her graduation announcement from her school with a picture of her. I googled her name and came across her linked in. I debated if I should or not but I decided to send her a message on Linked In (you have to sent a request to join her network type thing). Well, she never responded and in retrospect it might have been creepy but after sending it I felt a sense of relief that at least I tried
crederer Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I get a ton of numbers, it's the follow up after the first meet where I get the cold feet. 1
Author kaylan Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 it was a missed connection. Don't be scared of getting her number next time. How about you go to the station where she was left off? Do you remember her name? If you really really really want to see her again.... I would make a couple of flyers with a number to a prepaid phone. describing her and so on. leave it in every station. until she figures it out. Should I really do all that? Wont that come off desperate and stalker-ish? Itd be easy enough to do since she lives in the same neighborhood as my dad and got off the same stop. But still....
gaius Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Not in a city as big as New York, but I did run into my first crush again randomly in public after I had lost a ton of weight and actually looked sexy. Getting hit on by her was horrifying. If rejection doesn't bother you much sure, call and leave your number. It's a low odds of success endeavor. But then running into her again is probably even lower odds.
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