Brokenheart25 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Just briefly about the break up: I dated her for about 9 months. I loved her with all my heart. She bumped into her ex 2 months into our relationship, then her behavior changed. I thought she would change but she never did. So about 2 months ago she broke up with me. She said she no longer loves me and that she always loved her ex boyfriend the most. So I suspect that she has gone back to him. 43 Days NC and she contacts me today: "Sorry to disturb you, but did I leave a black dress in your car? I can't find it anywhere. Thanks." This text is very strange, as she never left any clothes behind, nor did we ever live together. It is also very cold. She did not ask me about how I am, or anything about me. This made me so angry, that after all that I did for her in the 9 months we were together she did not even have the courtesy to ask me how I am doing. NC has helped me heal and get over her. But I don't know why she messaged me that. Is she playing games? I am positive that she clearly knows that she never left anything in my car, if she did, i would have told her the minute I found it. I am not going to reply back, but the message has me thinking hard about the purpose. Why did she send it.. Any advice? Thanks
Misfortune Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 She sent it to ask about her dress. If you don't have it, no point replying. She could be fishing but no1 knows except her so it's better to accept that there's no hidden purpose to it. Some people just don't care once they found a new source of happiness; that's life.
Dolphono Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 You have the power now. Reply back and she has the power. Games people play. Stay strong, you'll be hearing from her again.
Author Brokenheart25 Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Yes that is true. I do have the power. She probably did just text me to find out about the dress and nothing else. Only she knows. But I just find it weird. I do not have her dress, so I wont reply.
Sparkle304 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 She's playing games = manipulation. Ignore her (which may be easier said than done - I understand).
Nicoleiia Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 She's trying to test the waters. Don't fall for it. Dumpers do this ALL the time for an ego stroke.
Soat Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Idk, maybe You guys are over thinking this. Just reply nope, nothing here. If she then tries to engage just ignore after it
barky2 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 This is quite simple. If you have it = give me a address and I'll mail it out Don't have it = ignore. Don't over think, it'll drive you nuts. Barky
Author Brokenheart25 Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Yes I think I am over thinking. I do not have her dress so I wont reply back to her. But I just feel bad for ignoring that text. There is no way on Earth I will reply to her unless she tells me that she made a mistake and wants to try again. Until I read those specific words, I will not reply.
barky2 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 You feel bad? How did you feel when the breakup happened? Still feel bad for ignoring her? Didn't think so. No reply needed. If she texts you again, do not reply unless you post here asking for advice first Barky 1
Author Brokenheart25 Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 You're right. I felt like **** for ages after the break up. Its been about a week since I have been feeling much better. I will just ignore her. What she put me through will be nothing compared to a ignored text. Thanks.
barky2 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Stay strong bro Montana. Now your learning Barky
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