Laura x Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 Please could someone help me? I feel so alone and emotionally torn apart. I found out that my fiance was cheating on me 3 months ago. I took him back after over a month of being apart. We started to rebuild our relationship and a week into us starting to build things up again, he found out that the person who he cheated on me with was pregnant. HE DIDNT TELL me till a month later cos he thought that I would have dumped him if he told me nearer the time he found out. He wanted to be with me and left it til we were more stable apparently... He saw this other girl for about 3 weeks and claimed he slept with her only once, but they did mess about and do other stuff....
Merin Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 Ugh! I'm so sorry for you.. how awful! I can understand that you're feeling very emotionally torn up over this... he betrayed you in the worst way and now you've "proof" of that to remind the both of you of this for the rest of your lives. What to do now... That is really all up to you, and what you feel you can live with... I cannot tell you whats right for you, and honestly it would be easy for me to say ditch this guy.. but if in the same circumstance, I don't know that anyone really knows for certian what they would do in your shoes. I would recommend getting into some counseling.. perhaps a therapist could help in finding new perspective. Good Luck
Shuffty Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 I really feel for you, that's such a awful thing to happen, you don't deserve it. I've been cheated on before so i know how that feels, but i can't imagine what you're going through. I think you need to sit down and think about whether you can cope if this woman decides to keep the baby, and if you could handle it if he wanted to be a part of his childs life. It would be like a constant reminder and would make it hard to get over. Basically, do you love him enough to deal with it and forgive him? No one would think any less of you if you couldn't do any of those things, trust me, you'd have to be pretty bloody sure of him. Do you think you can ever trust him again? Even if you do love him still, you know you don't deserve to be cheated on and lied to, don't sell yourself short and stay with him just for the sake of it. It doesn't mean you're relationship has to be over though, if you really don't want to be without him, who's to say you can't give it a go? If you feel like you can't deal with it in the future, then say goodbye. It's up to you to decide whether you're capable of watching him bring up another woman's child, or if you think he'll cheat again.
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