jorgon1022 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 So this girl that I am interested in says that she really really likes me. Shes is relocating to the city that I live in and she told me that even though she liked the city, 80 percent of the reason shes moving is because of me. She told me that shes scared to lose me to another girl but yet she says shes not ready for a relationship because she needs to see a therapist. She asks, how can I love you if I cant even love myself? She hasnt told her parents about me but i dont know what to do. Should I wait for her until she gets her stuff together or just move on? Im so confused. My friends tell me she does like me, but I have a gut feeling she doesnt. What do you guys think?
Philosoraptor Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Again, no, you shouldn't wait for her. Continue your life as a single man and if your paths cross one day, and you're both stable, you may find it possible to start dating her. But right now she is clearly confused and you shouldn't put your life on hold for anyone. 1
joe86 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Don't wait, just live you're own life. I just had a breakup caused essentially because things were rushed & she wasn't happy in herself so couldn't be happy with me. Don't risk making that mistake.
serial muse Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I don't know if she's messing with you (the fact that she's up front about needing to see a therapist suggests to me some self-awareness, and that she's not a jerk), but she's VERY young. And so, I would take the news that she's moving largely for you with a grain of salt. From your previous posts, she's only 19; she's just figuring herself out. She'll move to this new town, find a niche for herself, find new friends and a job, and maybe it will help her mature. Maybe not. But in the meantime, if you wait around for her, I foresee a lot of angst and loveshack-posting as she careens back and forth and continues to work out her problems, only this time you're along for the ride. Instead, I think you should take her at her word on this point: She's not ready for a relationship and she doesn't know when she will be. That's enough to know. Just live your life and date other people.
bubbaganoosh Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 What is there to wait for? She's not ready for a relationship so what's the point in staying idle. It can take a while before she gets her head straight. By what you posted she does need help. It would be like grabbing a handful of air waiting for her. All in all she's saying "Hurry up and wait".
Author jorgon1022 Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Thanks for the replies guys. So what should I tell her? Two days ago she asked how long I was willing to wait and I told her I didn't want to put a time frame but if there was a girl out there that caught my interest then I would let her know and she didn't like that at all. She's all like that's not right because I'm moving over there for you and what you just said really hurt me because it shows that you aren't sure about me. I didn't know how to respond to that
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