Jiminy Cricket Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 so i received a text from my ex saying "who you are should be consistent with or without me.. thanks for hurting my feelings." so the story is i'm friends with a girl who cheated with my ex girlfriend's boyfriend at the time, and my ex gf hates her. i added her on instagram, and my ex found out, and blew up my phone. i don't know why she is trippin, because i have nothing to do with that drama between them. my ex said this...''Just know I know you're true colors and it hurts me more and more I feel for your acts. If you didn't mean anything then this break up would be a breeze for me, but it's not okay? And your actions post break up isn't helping me at all. all I want to do is heal and forgive and learn to accept it all.. But it's hard when you do things like that. You know it as hoping to take this time to really appreciate who you are.. But you don't have my back. Have a long and loving life.. Know that I did really love you. Bye." why should this all matter if she's the one who dumped me? i'm no longer part of her life. she's using this time to appreciate who i really am? doesn't she still have feelings?
Riou Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 so i received a text from my ex saying "who you are should be consistent with or without me.. thanks for hurting my feelings." so the story is i'm friends with a girl who cheated with my ex girlfriend's boyfriend at the time, and my ex gf hates her. i added her on instagram, and my ex found out, and blew up my phone. i don't know why she is trippin, because i have nothing to do with that drama between them. my ex said this...''Just know I know you're true colors and it hurts me more and more I feel for your acts. If you didn't mean anything then this break up would be a breeze for me, but it's not okay? And your actions post break up isn't helping me at all. all I want to do is heal and forgive and learn to accept it all.. But it's hard when you do things like that. You know it as hoping to take this time to really appreciate who you are.. But you don't have my back. Have a long and loving life.. Know that I did really love you. Bye." why should this all matter if she's the one who dumped me? i'm no longer part of her life. she's using this time to appreciate who i really am? doesn't she still have feelings? You are not accountable to her anymore.She may have no feelings,but still doesn't like you to go to her enemy.She's just angry because she hates that girl.Nothing to do with you.
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 You are not accountable to her anymore.She may have no feelings,but still doesn't like you to go to her enemy.She's just angry because she hates that girl.Nothing to do with you. idk about that..she was pretty angry with me. saying i'm not loyal, getting just as mad if i cheated on her.
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 She's jelly! Hehehehe She dumped you so she could find herself or whatever, and expects you to wait around, pining for her. Screw that. If you want to be friends with this girl, fine. Do not dignify your ex's comments with a response. i feel bad in a way, i still love her. but i don't really know her intentions with me. one minute she acts like she's moving on, then she gets jealous and all that.
Simon Phoenix Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 i feel bad in a way, i still love her. but i don't really know her intentions with me. one minute she acts like she's moving on, then she gets jealous and all that. She's trying to get mad at you for justifying dumping you in her mind. Just ignore it and don't feed into it.
Chi townD Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Hell, I would have texted back, " I'm sorry...but...Who is this?" Hee hee, sorry feeling vindictive tonight 4
Trimmer Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 i feel bad in a way, i still love her. but i don't really know her intentions with me. one minute she acts like she's moving on, then she gets jealous and all that. Man, you have one of two alternatives to pursue: 1) Admit that it's over and work on breaking all your emotional ties to her, which will include letting her own her emotions and reactions to whatever happens around her in the world, or 2) Keep wondering what are her "intentions with you" and be strung along by someone who dumped you, but who still expects to exercise (and manipulate) her continued emotional connection to you. Hmm, how's that second one looking at this point? 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 (edited) Dude, let it go. Who cares what she thinks? She doesnt want to be with you, but gets mad when you "move on"....its happened to all of us. She will get mad and upset, but it still doesn't mean she will come back to you in the end. Happened to me too when I told her I had a date, but still doesnt mean she came back to me. In the end, it doesnt matter. Stay NC I'll add to this too.....she is trying to make you the "bad guy" so she feels justified for leaving you. Finding reasons to get mad at you to help her move on faster. She found some random loophole so you can gravel and be like "I'm so sorry I didnt mean to upset you" to which her answer will be "its TOO late now" and then you will feel bad about it. Don't believe it, dont fall for it, and dont do anything. Edited August 30, 2013 by ConfusedHumanBeing
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 Dude, let it go. Who cares what she thinks? She doesnt want to be with you, but gets mad when you "move on"....its happened to all of us. She will get mad and upset, but it still doesn't mean she will come back to you in the end. Happened to me too when I told her I had a date, but still doesnt mean she came back to me. In the end, it doesnt matter. Stay NC I'll add to this too.....she is trying to make you the "bad guy" so she feels justified for leaving you. Finding reasons to get mad at you to help her move on faster. She found some random loophole so you can gravel and be like "I'm so sorry I didnt mean to upset you" to which her answer will be "its TOO late now" and then you will feel bad about it. Don't believe it, dont fall for it, and dont do anything. thats exactly what she said.. "this is why i broke up with you." which is just an excuse. she said she left it open for us to get back together, but 'my actions' pushed her to her boiling points.
Trimmer Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 thats exactly what she said.. "this is why i broke up with you." which is just an excuse. she said she left it open for us to get back together, but 'my actions' pushed her to her boiling points. Oh, F*** that! I don't usually get pissed off at posts, but that one chaps my hide. So she "left it open to getting back together".... by dumping you? WTF? Was dumping you supposed to be some way of taking action to fix problems in the relationship? It sounds awfully manipulative, and a total power play. "I will hold the keys to the castle, and if you prove worthy, I will agree to let you back in." Or more likely, that wasn't ever her intention, but it's clear to her that saying it now is just a very handy way of sticking a knife in your side to hurt and humiliate you. Total power play. She may well have done you a favor by demonstrating clearly why you don't want to re-engage in a relationship with her. Yecch.
Author Jiminy Cricket Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 So she "left it open to getting back together".... by dumping you? WTF? Was dumping you supposed to be some way of taking action to fix problems in the relationship? It sounds awfully manipulative, and a total power play. "I will hold the keys to the castle, and if you prove worthy, I will agree to let you back in." . she always threatened me throughout the relationship by saying "maybe i should break up with you, just to teach you a lesson." she was very abusive, making me break down all the time.
fancy feast Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I would've just sent back "lol" Short and sweet. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 she always threatened me throughout the relationship by saying "maybe i should break up with you, just to teach you a lesson." she was very abusive, making me break down all the time. And you want to get back with this woman why?
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 thats exactly what she said.. "this is why i broke up with you." which is just an excuse. she said she left it open for us to get back together, but 'my actions' pushed her to her boiling points. Lol see? She is trying to make you look like the bad guy in all of this so she feels better about what she did. That is really the long and short of it. You could have cured cancer for her, and she would blame for the reason there IS cancer. Is just a defense mechanism for her. Dont buy into it, dont listen to it...
hotpotato Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Hmm... From the looks of it, many dumpers have big egoes and are very selfish. You are not supposed to even look at another girl. You can only be interested in your ex even though she dumped you. Even though she dumped you, she still wants your validation in some form. Disgusting, isn't it?
bubbaganoosh Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Sounds like she still has control over you. It boils down to this. Your not with her any longer and you don't owe her anything including what you do with your life or who your seeing. Best thing to do is not to respond to her quirky texts. Let her know that she should move on because you have but since you said that you still love her, then now you know why she's sending you these messages. She knows your still not over her. Until you really move on, be prepared for more. Your the only one that can stop it.
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