lovesucks76 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I just wanted to say a sincere "thanks" to everyone who helped me deal with my break up for the past 4 weeks. You have no idea how much you helped me and look forward to paying back one day! Yesterday I deleted every trace of my GF, including pictures, emails, texts, etc. She has tormented me for the past week with silly breadcrumbs. It has been very hard I won't lie. I I've had enough of it and now started to delete texts without even reading it. I was sad when I finally deleted the last photo but this is survival now! I also will block her via my mobile provider. I'm so done!! No more tears, no more ifs/buts/ NOTHING!!! ! DONE! DONE DONE!!!I have never played a good victim before so why should I start now? NO WAY! I also have some pride still left in me and plan to exercise it now. Advice for the new people here: Listen to the "old timers" who have gone through the same things you are currently experiencing! They really know better and they're smarter than YOU right now. Please don't go NC because you want them back in your life. Not healthy and actually it will make things worse in the long run. The single worst thing you can do is hold on to HOPE. Hope is hopeless. Live in the present. Hope will only set you back. Step back from your situation and take a good look from an outsiders perspective....it will open your eyes about the TRUTH and also why you shouldn't hold on to HOPE. Live in the truth people and don't idolize OR make excuses for your ex....it is, what it is. They're flawed just like you and I. Please don't waste your time trying to decipher every email/text/call you receive from them like you're translating the bible. It's a waste of time. They are not currently with you because they CHOSE not to be with you. Hard truth but nonetheless THE TRUTH. If it's meant to be 1 year or 10 years from now, then it will be, otherwise please MOVE ON and learn from this and let yourself grow from this so it won't scar you for life. There are literally billions of people in this world. I guarantee you there are lots of great people that are even better than your ex and they're waiting for someone like YOU. Not like your ex wanted you to be but just like YOU are today! BELIEVE IT BECAUSE IT'S TRUE! You won't meet them if you stay where you are SO get moving and rebuild yourself to be even better/hotter than you were before. Get out there and live! Common on! You deserve it! AS I say this, I figured out I also need to move on. As much as I love LS I currently need to erase any thoughts, ideas, reminders about my ex so I'm taking a short break from this place. Maybe just a few days or maybe a couple weeks, not sure yet. I have a bunch of things lined up for this weekend and will do my best not to WASTE a single minute thinking about my ex or writing about her anymore. I need to heal and I need to forget....so here I go in a new journey.... not sure where I will end up but excited to try new things and meet new friends!! Wish me luck and thanks again for ALL your help. You're ALL great people! Remember, you're here because you actually have a HEART!! 7
joe86 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 That was a great read, thanks. These kinds of places are what make the Internet so wonderful People don't change, but we can learn & develop. I'm only a week & a bit post BU, but feel I'm able to skip some of the anger I've felt during this in the past & this time I just feel let down & disappointed. I think, kind of like how you said, it also helps to be able to accept that all reasons for things happening are valid, to one person or the other and things can't be undone.
barky2 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Good luck on your journey Check back in from time to time Barky
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I like the line about listening to old timers haha. That is so true here. If all new users would follow that, the world would be a better place. Good luck to you man. Anytime you need help, you know where to find it! 1
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