MissingHerBad Posted November 14, 2004 Posted November 14, 2004 Well....Its taken a toll for the worst. Tonight after the club (which I didnt want to work at) I was incredibly volitile. On my way home I started to get really upset. I had had a few drinks for the first time in a while and the emotions almost became unbarable. When I got home I immediatly got on the phone and started calling whoever I could except for the ex. Finally I got a hold of an old girlfriend who had recently gone thru the same thing. The emotion was envoked by a result that I had feared. I had sent her a bday card but it hasnt arrived yet because of the previous weeks holiday. I texted messaged her Happy Bday and then her name. NO REPLY WHATSOEVER!! Is she mad because I didnt send her flowers or come to her crawling on my knees or is she just through. Just through...I dunno she was msn the other day telling me how much the memories were really starting to hurt and be missed. It has been a month and a half now. THIS GIRL IS VERY COMPLICATING!!. I M GIVING YOU THE KEYS ISSUES IN HOPE THAT SOMEONE WILL HAVE SOME THOUGHTS ON THE ENTIRETY OF THE ISSUE. The morning of the day she broke up with me I received a nice text message saying GOODMORNING! . By 7 PM it was over. That night she went out with some "friends". Fair enough...but why, why the text message if you knew what was coming. The first week showed like it might pull through in my favour becuase she was upset and we were talking. But it didnt she kinda blew it off a little. This girl would have done anything and everything for me however when we broke up she said that it was because I was never there emotionally, cause Im a DJ, cause she crys every night. I have now made some mojor changes in my lifestyle ( all within a cray month), I know that given a chance I could fix things. But this is all driving me absolutely crazy. Does anyone have insight into what is going on...I feel like on one hand it is over...but on the other I think both of us still have feelings which I would suppose is normal. Its just that it was weird how we kinda came together. It as like a movie and we have so many things in common. But maybe alas she wants none. How does someone love someone so much, go out for dinner, have sex, etc in the last week and then all of a suddenj...DONE. Am I being played as a fool? Was she fed a line by someone? I am trying really hard to cope and take everyones advice but there are some very strong feelings here and I just want to be able to move on in what ever direction takes me away from this pain. If anyone has anymore questions on the situation please ask me and I will answer. I WILL DO ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING TO SOLVE!(Desperate Man)
neptoon Posted November 15, 2004 Posted November 15, 2004 What transpired between the morning and 7 PM on the day you two broke up? What did she say? What did she say her reason was for breaking up?
Author MissingHerBad Posted November 15, 2004 Author Posted November 15, 2004 Well...What did transpire? I dont know. She was @ work all day. The weird thing is that she went out that night to with a bunch of friends. I cant help but wonder if she got cooped by another guy but I dont think she is like that and I think she has been greiving herself. Go figure.
kisslaboca Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 One time when my ex broke up with me he sent me 3 really sweet, romantic, sexy messages. We kept at that all afternoon from around 3pm to 6pm he was in class I was at work. He finished class around 8pm, got home around 9 and dumped me out of the blue. I was dumbfounded (spel?) mental processes are complicated. Why did your gf and my bf sent those nice messages that said nothing at all about what was coming? Who knows. They may have been struggling with things inside them, but eventually what really counts is that they made up their minds to break up, and that to them its all makes sense. It seems out of the blue to us, but they have given it some thought before. Just let it be, and even though you can't help but try to analize so much why she sent that Good morning message.. At the end of the day it doesn't seem to have a lot of importance, and doesn't change what happened. If you were to ask her, she probably wouldn't think it very significant now, like one thing had nothing to do with the other. I just wanted to share this with you cause I went through the same. They are not hung up at all in the nitty gritty details. We in turn analize every single word or action as if it was some sort of equation that doesn't add up right as we look at the final result. But believe me its not like that, there are no rules here and only thing that stands is that she wanted out. Breakups are hard to deal with, but keep reading this forum. You will find a lot of good advice here. Best oif luck to you, just hang in there.
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