mcsugar Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 We've been dating for 3 months now. We got in a fight 2 weeks ago and he stormed out of my apartment. The week before, he said he has to move to another state for work in 6 months. He doesn't want to be unfair for me but he loves me and wants me to move with him. Of course, I was ecstatic. However, after the fight, I called him up again trying to talk, it just turned into another fight. We hung up and agreed to talk again when we both calm down because we love each other and want to try again. The next day, his grandpa died, his dad tried to kill himself over it, and his mom is back in the hospital since she's terminally ill. He didn't want to talk to me. He said we are over and he has to go save himself and his family. He loves me but this is the best for both of us because we'll only continue to get hurt. He doesn't want me to be there for him, he said he wants to deal with this alone. He was angry and kept screaming that we are over and doesn't want me to call him anymore. He can't deal with relationship right now. I am left torn. We were planning a life together just a week before. And now he won't stop pushing me away. The most upsetting part is I want to be there for him, yet, he keeps screaming that it is over, that it hurts him too, but he needs to do this and be alone. I understand his loss and want to be there for him, but it's not an option. I am just heartbroken and don't think it's fair for me, or for him. It's been 2 weeks. I haven't heard a single word from him. I don't know if I should send him a text wishing him well and share my condolences or should I just move on. This all happened so quickly that I am blindsided, since we were even talking about marriage the week before. So what am I to do? When to give up or when to keep trying? Your thoughts are appreciated.
Phoe Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Let him be. He said in no uncertain terms that he wants to be left alone. 1
Cali408 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 2 weeks of no contact, keep it up. keep running as fast as you can. Screaming and yelling is a form of abuse.
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