Viro12 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Hey Guys I was wondering, Is there any possible way to create intimacy, excitement and curiosity if you see someone twice every month? Is it possible to create feelings in the other person with long distances and those restrictions above? More important can you do it if that person is potentially dating someone else.
ThisGal Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 (edited) Hey Guys I was wondering, Is there any possible way to create intimacy, excitement and curiosity if you see someone twice every month? Is it possible to create feelings in the other person with long distances and those restrictions above? More important can you do it if that person is potentially dating someone else. Um, no! Why wold you want anyone that's already involved with someone else!?! I have too much self-love and pride to accept someone who is already in a relationship, what the heck! If you two are in an open relationship and it has already been established from the start then there are no surprises, if it's discreet...well, then you have a problem. But I would advise against that type of 'relationship', I can imagine how unfulfilling it would be. As for creating intimacy, it's possible. With long distance relationships you can get as creative as you want. Write him/her surprise letters and mail it to their home; in this day and age, letters are pretty much nonexistent w/ advanced technology you can easily send an email so a hand-written letter is always a gem and appreciated! You can kiss it w/ lipstick on and leave a lip imprint You can spray it w/ your fav perfume. Intimacy does not have to mean physical. It involves the mind as well. Just get creative and have fun. When you get to see your significant other in person again enjoy yourself. Cook together, watch a DVD or Netflix some stand-up comedians, have deep, personal conversations, get cuddly, hold hands, try to keep it 'innocent' so the relationship isn't based on a sexual one (just my personal opinion), go to the park, mall, introduce him/her to your family, wherever you go and whatever you do will be nice as long as it's spent together it is bound to be memorable. P.S. just as long as it does not involve someone who is already taken. It's not worth it. Edited August 30, 2013 by ThisGal
HeavenOrHell Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 Yes to the first questions, I see my partner every other month and we have. No to the last question, and why would you even want to. Hey Guys I was wondering, Is there any possible way to create intimacy, excitement and curiosity if you see someone twice every month? Is it possible to create feelings in the other person with long distances and those restrictions above? More important can you do it if that person is potentially dating someone else.
justwhoiam Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I was wondering, Is there any possible way to create intimacy, excitement and curiosity if you see someone twice every month? You can create intimacy, but the person you create intimacy with should want you to begin with. If they couldn't give a thing about being intimate with you, you can be romantic and all, but nothing will work. Excitement is best when it's spontaneous and not created or calculated beforehand. You can try to arrange something that will lead to excitement, but you can't really predict someone's reaction. Surely there are ways to arise someone's curiosity, for example by looking interesting. But curiosity is often linked to attraction. If attraction is missing in the first place, again, there's not much you can do. Is it possible to create feelings in the other person with long distances and those restrictions above? No, you don't "create" feelings. Feelings grow by themselves, and usually you can't command other people's feelings, and rarely your own. More important can you do it if that person is potentially dating someone else. Potentially? What does that mean? They are either dating someone or not. If they are dating someone and feelings are not there, or there's no chemistry, yes. If the dating is in its early stages, like first or second date, yes. If the dating is long and boring, with little action, yes. It's bound to end, probably. Maybe just needing something or someone new coming along. In any other case, you might end up as a time filler.
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