Necris Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 (edited) I used to be neighbors with this girl who is Indian. At the time though we never really talked as I rarely have anything to do with my neighbors but recently I have moved further away from the campus and now I'm now sharing a class with her. When I saw her there she seemed to act shy initially she seemed to try to say something but then she turns away showing a shy smile. She then asks me if I'm still staying at my previous location I tell her that i've found somewhere different to stay at and ask her if she's doing alright, class starts and we don't speak much after that. Next day I see her and wave at her as she is coming in and she sits next to me acting shy and speaking to me in her soft voice as usual and we have a friendly conversation about our majors and school. After class she suggests we get together sometime to be study partners and I agree with her. She also has asked me on a different day if there are any fun places to go around campus. Though one thing that concerns me is that I notice she is wearing a ring of some sort on her finger (not a diamond ring though) but this may mean she is in a relationship. So I'm wondering are these signs of interest or just friendliness I'm pretty oblivious to these things I often have trouble thinking in the rare cases a woman is acting very friendly with me that means she is attracted to me, and 10 times out of 10 this isn't the case. Edited August 29, 2013 by Necris
Philosoraptor Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 She seems interested. She asked you to study and for fun places to go around campus... take the hint and take her to some fun places. 3
Jangles524 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I used to be neighbors with this girl who is Indian. At the time though we never really talked as I rarely have anything to do with my neighbors but recently I have moved further away from the campus and now I'm now sharing a class with her. When I saw her there she seemed to act shy initially she seemed to try to say something but then she turns away showing a shy smile. She then asks me if I'm still staying at my previous location I tell her that i've found somewhere different to stay at and ask her if she's doing alright, class starts and we don't speak much after that. Next day I see her and wave at her as she is coming in and she sits next to me acting shy and speaking to me in her soft voice as usual and we have a friendly conversation about our majors and school. After class she suggests we get together sometime to be study partners and I agree with her. She also has asked me on a different day if there are any fun places to go around campus. Though one thing that concerns me is that I notice she is wearing a ring of some sort on her finger (not a diamond ring though) but this may mean she is in a relationship. So I'm wondering are these signs of interest or just friendliness I'm pretty oblivious to these things I often have trouble thinking in the rare cases a woman is acting very friendly with me that means she is attracted to me, and 10 times out of 10 this isn't the case. is it possible there is any type of cultural barriers present? Often times the way one culture socializes can come off as something completely different to another. Just wanting to rule that out for you.
Author Necris Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 is it possible there is any type of cultural barriers present? Often times the way one culture socializes can come off as something completely different to another. Just wanting to rule that out for you. I don't know, maybe. I'm Black she's Indian is all I know, and I know she has indian friends. I don't really know her well though. Though I'm not going to keep my hopes high 100% of the time when a girl seems really friendly with me she isn't interested.
Author Necris Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 She seems interested. She asked you to study and for fun places to go around campus... take the hint and take her to some fun places. So you do believe she's interested and not just being friendly?
Philosoraptor Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 So you do believe she's interested and not just being friendly? I'd say so. What matters is what you want here. If you think you'd like to date her, ask her out. If not, then it really doesn't matter what her intentions are.
mortensorchid Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I guess the only way to find out is to ask her out or attempt to kiss her and see what happens. If nothing else you will have an answer.
Author Necris Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 I guess the only way to find out is to ask her out or attempt to kiss her and see what happens. If nothing else you will have an answer. I guess I can see where this is going and ask her out later. The whole kissing thing sounds like a bit much:lmao: do people really just kiss somebody to test to see if they are interested or not:confused:?
Onward_Upward Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I guess I can see where this is going and ask her out later. The whole kissing thing sounds like a bit much:lmao: do people really just kiss somebody to test to see if they are interested or not:confused:? NO! And certainly NOT with an Indian girl... What you have written does indicate that she "likes" you. But my advice is not to rush things... Sure, study with her, and "take her to fun places", etc... But do not rush anything physical UNLESS she initiates it. I say this because Indian women are usually fairly conservative. And if they're not, their parents certainly are. Be yourself around her, speak with her and just be kind... Give her your attention consistently, and see if she wants to take things further. Mark my words, if you try to rush her sexually, she will run. Especially at this early stage. The other thing to consider is her religious background... I doubt if she's Muslim, but if she is then you'll need to tread very carefully. Please note though, if her family does practice some kind of religion they WILL have expectations of her, when it comes to choosing a partner. Again, be yourself, and just relax and enjoy the time she offers you
Author Necris Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 (edited) NO! And certainly NOT with an Indian girl... What you have written does indicate that she "likes" you. But my advice is not to rush things... Sure, study with her, and "take her to fun places", etc... But do not rush anything physical UNLESS she initiates it. I say this because Indian women are usually fairly conservative. And if they're not, their parents certainly are. Be yourself around her, speak with her and just be kind... Give her your attention consistently, and see if she wants to take things further. Mark my words, if you try to rush her sexually, she will run. Especially at this early stage. The other thing to consider is her religious background... I doubt if she's Muslim, but if she is then you'll need to tread very carefully. Please note though, if her family does practice some kind of religion they WILL have expectations of her, when it comes to choosing a partner. Again, be yourself, and just relax and enjoy the time she offers you Oh I've never been the type to rush things, hell I'm a virgin myself and never even kissed a girl in my life. Also I'm not looking for sex anyway Edited August 30, 2013 by Necris
Author Necris Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 I'll just see if we can hang out sometime and see what she thinks about that I guess.
Author Necris Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 From what I can tell so far the answer is unfortunately a no, she was just being friendly and needed some help on a homework problem.
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