Need - Live In Boyfriend Loves Me But Is Leaving Me to Move Out Of State.

[wildBlue]

My boyfriend (21yrs old) and I (20 years old) have been living together for about 9 months. Before moving in together we dated on and off for a year and a half. (Mostly on- we only broke up once fore a few months, it wasn't a every-other-week breaking up situation.)

 

Less than a week ago we found out his grandfathers' (who lives out of state) health has began to deteriorate and hes been given a year or less to live. My boyfriend has spoken little to me about this relative, to my understanding the grandfather moved from TX to FL after retiring, so while my bf was school age. He grandfather, understandably, wants to spend time with his grandson before he passes. He has offered to pay all fees related to my bf breaking the lease (which I'm not on) as well as to pay off his car and all living expenses for the first six months my bf is in FL. Being vulnerable and in debt, my boyfriend has basically decided to take the offer.

 

My bf says that he loves me and doesn't want to hurt me- but says he feels like he has to make this move. He agrees that this is selfish of his grandfather and said he may consider moving back here after the 6 months. To make matters worse, this is all happening in the next two weeks.

I'm devastated and cannot afford to keep this apt (not to mention I'm not on the lease). I just lost my job at the beginning of the month and do not have the means to move into another place, nor do I have anywhere to go or put my stuff on such short notice. As if losing my lover/bestfriend isn't devastating enough- I'm getting put out of my home that I've been paying my share of. I feel like I have no say in any of this.

 

I feel like my boyfriend is making this decision for the wrong reasons based on what he has said. I feel like he is going about this situation the wrong way. He should have broken up with me and then done whatever he wanted. Or if he cares about our relationship (like he continues to say he does) then he would plan for us to make this move together, in a reasonable amount of time.

I'm so hurt and confused and am not thinking clearly. I'm devastated and would appreciate any feedback or advice. Am I being cold-hearted? Am I being reasonable? Is he? Has anyone been in a similar situation?