seanmathews3 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 How do you know when you found that one person thats right for you for the rest of your life? The person you can marry and start a family with.. Im in my early 20's and i constantly over think about finding this person. Is it farfetched to have an idea of what you'd like this person to be like? For example, for a long term partner im looking for someone who's successful, ambitious, goofy and have a good relationship with their family and is good with kids. Plus the whole attractive, honest, and good personality traits. Is the person you found to be the "one" everything you're looking for or want them to be? Do they have the same interests or are they sometimes the opposite of you? Am i being too picky as far as what im looking for, maybe causing me to pass one by? Recently broke up with my ex a few months ago due to us relocating, we didn't date for long but there was so much i liked about her, although there were some things i didn't like about her. I constantly think about her being a long term partner and some things about it sound good yet some not so good.. i dunno if im being too picky and letting that person get away.. or if im just settling for "good enough" because im not sure if there is someone out there thats better for me.. I hear from some people that if i really did love her or if she really was the one that i wouldnt be second guessing it, not sure if that's true or not.. Im not sure if what im asking makes sense.. i just dont know how i would know when i found that one person that's right for me?
Jangles524 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 How do you know when you found that one person thats right for you for the rest of your life? The person you can marry and start a family with.. Im in my early 20's and i constantly over think about finding this person. Is it farfetched to have an idea of what you'd like this person to be like? For example, for a long term partner im looking for someone who's successful, ambitious, goofy and have a good relationship with their family and is good with kids. Plus the whole attractive, honest, and good personality traits. Is the person you found to be the "one" everything you're looking for or want them to be? Do they have the same interests or are they sometimes the opposite of you? Am i being too picky as far as what im looking for, maybe causing me to pass one by? Recently broke up with my ex a few months ago due to us relocating, we didn't date for long but there was so much i liked about her, although there were some things i didn't like about her. I constantly think about her being a long term partner and some things about it sound good yet some not so good.. i dunno if im being too picky and letting that person get away.. or if im just settling for "good enough" because im not sure if there is someone out there thats better for me.. I hear from some people that if i really did love her or if she really was the one that i wouldnt be second guessing it, not sure if that's true or not.. Im not sure if what im asking makes sense.. i just dont know how i would know when i found that one person that's right for me? She was cute. Not drop-dead, but I never disliked her looks. We shared the same interests in almost everything. Games, Music, Movies... all of it. We had the same sense of humor. We clicked on every level. The most important part to me? after 6 years of spending every single day with her, I was still happy, and I still wanted to spend every single day with her. To me, "the one" is someone I am happy to be with always. I was gifted that at the age of 18, and lost it at the age of 24. It's quite a surreal feeling. To be a young adult and realize you already found your "one". I felt like I was able to evade all the bull**** of young dating. I felt like I won the lottery. I lost my "one" as I wasn't her "one" anymore. There are 7 billion people on this planet, and I have experienced a blinding passion for only one of them.. to assume there will only be one "One" is asinine.
Philosoraptor Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 It's one of those things that you know when you know. It takes patience and just allowing things to happen naturally, not forcing it. Personally when I was too worried about finding the right person, I attached too much to the wrong people. When you let go of your worry and just trust yourself to make the right decisions, you'll find that it becomes easier to distinguish a good catch from someone who wouldn't be a good fit.
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