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apparently have online date today with a guy thats going out with a friend next week

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I'm thinking of canceling, my friend randomly showed me this guys picture and is like do you know him?

 

I'm like oh my gosh I have a date with him tomorrow. She has a date with him next week (and we look completely different and have a pretty big age gap as well).

 

I'm so ready to cancel this date because I"m grossed out.

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If it bothers you then cancel. But until he is in a commitment he is welcome to date around until he feels a connection.

 

Haha back when I had an online account I was getting courted by twins. Both of them messaged me at different times. Even though they were both interesting people, I decided it would be a bad idea to date either of them as I didnt want to cause any family rift.

 

Oh the stories from OLD.

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Why are you grossed out? Like he could have ever known that you two were friends.

 

 

It sounds to me like you let your friends influence your dating a little too much. You were ready to go on a date with this guy, now you think he is " gross " because your friend has a date with him too? Where's the logic?

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I'm so ready to cancel this date because I"m grossed out.

Of course you should cancel. Plenty more where that has come from.

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Why are you grossed out? Like he could have ever known that you two were friends.

 

 

It sounds to me like you let your friends influence your dating a little too much. You were ready to go on a date with this guy, now you think he is " gross " because your friend has a date with him too? Where's the logic?

 

Um this is a good friend. And she is way younger than me and looks like a playboy model. So yeah I'm not trying to date a guy that is looking for arm candy and is just going on a date with me because he is trying to fill up his week.

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Um this is a good friend. And she is way younger than me and looks like a playboy model. So yeah I'm not trying to date a guy that is looking for arm candy and is just going on a date with me because he is trying to fill up his week.

 

 

 

Sounds like you have insecurities about yourself. It wouldn't be fair of him to look at some schmuck you dated in the past then claim you're not worthy. He's just dating around he's free to do so. I'd pass just because I don't want it to cause a rift between me and my friend but sounds like you don't like your friend very much either. Just had a thought that it would probably really suck if this guy turns out to be a great guy, one in a million and treats your friend like a princess and you missed out for being judgemental. Just a thought. Good luck with the next one!

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I would not go out with a guy who had a date planned with my friend either. Honestly I would cancel too. Good luck, there are plenty more out there.

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Sounds like you have insecurities about yourself. It wouldn't be fair of him to look at some schmuck you dated in the past then claim you're not worthy. He's just dating around he's free to do so. I'd pass just because I don't want it to cause a rift between me and my friend but sounds like you don't like your friend very much either. Just had a thought that it would probably really suck if this guy turns out to be a great guy, one in a million and treats your friend like a princess and you missed out for being judgemental. Just a thought. Good luck with the next one!

 

I don't actually, but I have the alternative look going on and she looks like a playboy bunny so you would think a guy would have some sort of type? Seems like hes just having tons of dates with any hot chicks he can find on dating sites and not even reading profiles....and yes I know this is how this works, but I pass on that it just makes me feel awkward

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Mmm I'm with you on this. I'd feel awkward too in that situation. What does your friend say, btw?

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I can understand that it is an awkward situation, but to JUDGE the dude for it is unreasonable.

 

Whether you're alternative or your friend is playboy bunny-esque shouldn't even be relevant. The guy was on OLD, found 2 girls he thought were attractive and asked them onn dates. Why does he need to have a "type"?

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Um this is a good friend. And she is way younger than me and looks like a playboy model. So yeah I'm not trying to date a guy that is looking for arm candy and is just going on a date with me because he is trying to fill up his week.

 

How do you know what his intentions are and why are you comparing yourself to your "playboy" model friend? Sounds like this goes a little deeper than OLD to me.

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Seems like hes just having tons of dates with any hot chicks he can find on dating sites and not even reading profiles....and yes I know this is how this works, but I pass on that it just makes me feel awkward

 

 

And what is wrong with this? You knew this going into OLD, right? Some men are THAT way. Not me, though I see nothing wrong with what he is doing...you simply "found out"...right?

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This seems like it would happen frequently.

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I wouldn't go out with him either, but because I didn't want to interfere with my friendship.

 

 

Not because I was jealous that my friend was better looking than I was.

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starla33 Established Member

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I wouldn't go out with him either, but because I didn't want to interfere with my friendship.

 

 

Not because I was jealous that my friend was better looking than I was.

 

This is WHY I didn't want to go out with him, but technically I met him first. Apparently She on the other hand wanted to go out with him.

 

So much for friendship

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If it doesn't work out between them, you have a clear shot. At least you will be able to pump her for info to help you decide later.

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This is WHY I didn't want to go out with him, but technically I met him first. Apparently She on the other hand wanted to go out with him.

 

So much for friendship

 

Well whoa wait! You left out THAT part! You better believe if my so called friend wanted to date the same guy on purpose I woulda went out with him first! Was this OLD? Because I'm betting she seeked HIM out after finding out you're interested! Don't share with her in the future!

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