Author Neall Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 I would personally say yes, turn the phone on. Find out what the text say, it will hurt, I wouldn't dare insult you by saying that it wont. This happened to you yesterday, she told you a small little bit and you turned your phone off out of fear and not switched it back on again. You need closure, also she needs it as well. The good 5 years you were together, she still loves you, she even said that (your post). She is not sure she loves you the same was as she used to. Her love has changed! Not gone. The bad She no longer envisions a future with you anymore! Her feelings have changed that she no longer wants to see you exclusively. My Thoughts I, last week, was your girlfriend. I had to end the relationship with my partner. Hardest thing I've had to do in my life to date. I still love the bones of her, I would never wish to do her harm (although I have, I'm not stupid). I met her in person, I explained what I could about how I felt (I've since realised something but its too late to say that to her directly, I've ceased contact to let her heal). I am in no other relationship, have no plans for another relationship, I don't think I'm as bad (as the dumper) that I'll be honest some people on this site make people like me out to be. Let me ask you this. Your (ex) girlfriend has said she no longer loves you enough to be with you. Would you rather she didn't say it at all and stayed with you for another 5, 10 years. Rest of your life without loving you the way you deserve to be loved? That was the choice I had to make with my girl, I thought on it for a while (some may say too long) but I knew I had to do it, it was unfair to keep basically living a lie. Sometimes people have to be cruel to be kind. Don't think for one second I haven't cried as the dumper and I'm pretty damn sure I haven't finished yet either. I've hurt the person I still love and care for in one of the worst ways a partner can hurt their other half, by rejecting them. You need to hear what she has to say, listen to it, learn from it, then start NC. But you need the closure regardless of how difficult it will be. You will grow from it. thanks for everything! The part you said i need closure, well i got it, turned the phone back on and ZERO messages! so yap... NC from now, and yeah time to move on...
Author Neall Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 it really hurts that she told me that she her loved changed now, and that not even a message...
MontyCarlo Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 I know she started out by saying it on the phone which in my, and a lot of peoples, opinions is not a great way to end things. You had said she called 3 times in a row afterwards to call you back before you switched it off again, she likely gave up (who repeatedly calls knowing no-one is going to answer?). Leave your phone on, I'd take a guess that she will call you again, sooner the better really, maybe to suggest meeting up, maybe she will just finish it on the phone. You have not had closure yet, you just know the end result, not the reasons. Once you talk for a bit, you can start the process of healing. I talked with my gf for 2-3 hours, we parted tearfully, but not shouting at each other. 1
Author Neall Posted August 30, 2013 Author Posted August 30, 2013 I know she started out by saying it on the phone which in my, and a lot of peoples, opinions is not a great way to end things. You had said she called 3 times in a row afterwards to call you back before you switched it off again, she likely gave up (who repeatedly calls knowing no-one is going to answer?). Leave your phone on, I'd take a guess that she will call you again, sooner the better really, maybe to suggest meeting up, maybe she will just finish it on the phone. You have not had closure yet, you just know the end result, not the reasons. Once you talk for a bit, you can start the process of healing. I talked with my gf for 2-3 hours, we parted tearfully, but not shouting at each other. well I bet she will leave things like this, i know her, when she has something to say, she leaves a message, whatever the phone is off or on... it is the end, and i must let the person i love the most in my life, be free and happy with somebody else...
Author Neall Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 guys i need your help.. today i started NC, because there were some message traded... i went to the gym, and go out with friends, and i saw her... i got stunned , she was leaving the bar i was going into, i didn't even said a word to her... im in pain right now...
hurts2death Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 she doesnt exist anymore... forget her... and think of it like that, SHE IS THE ONE THA LEFT YOU. understand? SHE not you
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