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Do men actually commit when we don't give any signals?

CarefreeHailey

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I don't know what to think but I already had 2 past ex bfs wanting to go further. Both of them ending up in a break-up. I don't think I even drop hints of wanting more. It seems that they got somewhat attached to me.

 

Too many women are experiencing problems with the guy not committing but with me it seems that they're actually moving on too fast. I don't know what I did wrong?

 

ex bf 1 said I love you already on the 1st move while I wasn't even there. Then right on the 4th month he already wanted to me to move in with him. I broke it off because it seemed too fast for me. After the break up, he tried to still keep me as a friend. However, I found out from others that he got drunk one day and called out my name. I broke off the friendship afterward.

 

ex bf 2 saying ''I love you'' on the 2nd month. Again, I didn't feel the same at the moment but thought it wasn't no big deal. I started to feel that emotion on the 5th month. But then right on the 13th month, he asked me straight out if I saw him more than just a bf then added ''Just wanted to know if you feel the same way''?. I didn't really know what to answer and it kind of freaked me out. I didn't feel that way and he took it as if a train wreck took place. He broke it off and wanted nothing with me anymore. I felt terrible and tried once requesting him as a friend but it got declined. I heard from other, he is currently dating another girl but still has feelings for me that he's trying to get over with.

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Now I'm worried about dating. I don't want to end up in that situation again. I just want a relationship but not one where he is going too fast.

 

Or is it something about me they saw that they can't see in other women? It's like I feel like a magnet towards the men many women are desperately seeking. Yet, I'm not looking for that.

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Philosoraptor Established Member

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Well you've just met a couple of guys who are looking for more than you want to offer right now, nothing wrong with that. Just move at your pace and don't let anyone push you to go faster than you're comfortable.

 

You're likley to cross many people who you aren't compatible with. Just continue to feel things out and if they're good, great. If not, you'll need to end it and find someone you feel comfortable with. You're not doing anything wrong, just the luck of the draw.

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Well you've just met a couple of guys who are looking for more than you want to offer right now, nothing wrong with that. Just move at your pace and don't let anyone push you to go faster than you're comfortable.
Those are the men many women (even my younger sister who is only 23 years old) are looking for. Some of my female friends keep on asking how I did that and I'm like ''Did what''? They are in their mid 20's and want a man who'll commit to them. See what I mean?

 

You want something and you don't get it. You don't want it and it comes to you.

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Asking you to move in? That sounds very impulsive and needy of him. Good thing it ended. Thirteen months was a lot more reasonable.

 

People want what they cant have. Im in a situation in which I am unavailable to men, and they fall all over me.

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