Separation

[Onlyafterdark]

My story im 38 shes 29 2 children age 9-6 marrried 4 years together 13 i met her at 17 we got together and 6 mnths in she fell pregnant one night i got a call she had been took to hospital having a misscariage i was out with friends drinking so i got a taxi and went up with a friend after kissing her and staying for around 20 mins i left (i know it was the wrong thing to do i was a jerk but i didnt want kids then nor was did i have loving feelings to her) anyway we stayed together and eventually had a lovely little boy we moved into a new house which was council owned things where good but i guess i spent lots of time on my pc and out of the blue she sent me packing back to my mums i asked for time to get over her but less than 24 hours and she ripped my heart out she had gone out brought another man back id gone round really early to pick my son up she came to the window and i could swear she had nothing on as she put the curtain round herself anyhow 10 mins later she opened the door i followed her upstairs nobody was there to my relief till i noticed my sons door shut went in and there was a guy in bed i was devastated i left with my son a week later she rang me we began talking and i invited her for a drink we talked she admitted she kissed him realised she was making a mistake told him to sleep in the kids room i took her on her word a week after we was going out on a date i waited at the bottom of the stairs i overheard her say to the babysitter dont tell gary he slept in my bed i took her for a drive and confronted her she denied anything happened so we ended up back together a month later and i guess my continued asking prompted another split it was a saturday id gone out and it was say 2am in the morning i was passing a local pub when i glanced in and saw her sat with the same guy so i decided to wait across the road to be sure sure enough an hour later she came out hand in hand i confronted them the guy became aggressive i had no fight in me he kicked me etc on the ground she walked off with him i was in bits the next day she rang me as though nothing had really happened she said i didnt fight hard enough for her (wtf) a week went by and it was a saturday i walked past the same pub she was sat there with him and her mother i walked in and hit him then left weeks went by and she began talking with me we ended up back together she fell pregnant and 2 years on we married 2 weeks after we married we was friendly with her chief bridesmaid and she always came to our house for drinks toward the end of the evening as we all became drunk the conversation always came about sex we would discuss threesomes etc anyway we all went out around 10 of us her friend seemed to hang around me a lot that night we all got quite merry went home around 5 of us where left we all went to our house sat listening to music my wife and her friend began being silly on the floor everyone else had fell asleep by now my wifes friend said im off to bed and i said i was too i went upstairs and she was already lay in our bed in her pyjamas i said come on get out please i want to goto bed jokingly she said no my wife came in and i said will you ask her to leave please my wide jokingly said no at this point i thought they where testing me so i got into bed i began kissing my wife i really thought she would get out of bed at this point and jokingly i said im taking my wifes pants off but no her friend still lay there next thing i was going south on my wife literally for seconds as i came back up she was kissing her friend i was stunned got out of the bed went to the toilet i sat thinking for a moment then i thought no went into the room and caught her friend springing up from underneath the sheets i punched the wall told her to get the **** out she left me and the wife slept apart for 2 days i began thinking had i had a part to play in it and we sorted things out since that i always had the impression it had turned on and we regular used it as a fantasy whilst engaging into sex my wife has a few issues in her life wether these make any sense to anyone but she was sexually abused as a child left home at 15 she had a bad upbringing with no love her sole reason for our final seperation which is happening right now and im totally destroyed is due to my lack of attention toward her she says shes tried to tell me and i totally agree with her i dont tell her i love her enough i dont hold her hand etc out in public i see what ive been like now and im willing to change how iam i blame it on the things that shes put me through plus ive been a stay at home dad for 4 years and i moan at her when she wants to go out without me and i moan about finances she spends on crap not needed but as she works i guess shes entitled to she asked for space and time to heal so i came to my mums i guess keep txting her every hour of the day has just made it worse she said i keep pushing her further away then yesterday i made a big mistake she left her netbook logged into facebook i had to see if there was sumone else there was a guy i began reading sum messages heres just a few she said to him ur stunningxxxxxx do you have a girlfriend xxxxxxi have a 4 bedroom house you can stayxxxxx i shut the netbook shaking with anger i went to her place of work confronted her she said it was her nephew i threw her netbook at the floor and drove away got home read the start of the messages and nearly died it really was her nephew she hadnt seen since 3 years old now 17 i went to her house to apologise and the day after i apologised for my conduct at her workplace i think that might of been the last straw for her shes stopped our joint account iam very mixed up i was looking after the children whilst she works as i have done everyday since we broke up approx 6 weeks ago ive been at my mums 3 weeks yesterday i lent over to her kissed her forehead then placed my forehead to hers she didnt move away until our son came in then went to the door having a smoke as i left i kissed her cheek twice she said just go gary im really struggling to let go i know the things she needed i can do but she wont give me the chance also what are my rights if anyone knows

[Mr. Lucky]

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Mr. Lucky

 

Separation

 

My story im 38 shes 29 2 children age 9-6 marrried 4 years together 13 i met her at 17 we got together and 6 mnths in she fell pregnant one night i got a call she had been took to hospital having a misscariage i was out with friends drinking so i got a taxi and went up with a friend after kissing her and staying for around 20 mins i left (i know it was the wrong thing to do i was a jerk but i didnt want kids then nor was did i have loving feelings to her)

 

anyway we stayed together and eventually had a lovely little boy we moved into a new house which was council owned things where good but i guess i spent lots of time on my pc and out of the blue she sent me packing back to my mums i asked for time to get over her but less than 24 hours and she ripped my heart out she had gone out brought another man back id gone round really early to pick my son up she came to the window and i could swear she had nothing on as she put the curtain round herself anyhow 10 mins later she opened the door i followed her upstairs nobody was there to my relief till i noticed my sons door shut went in and there was a guy in bed i was devastated

 

i left with my son a week later she rang me we began talking and i invited her for a drink we talked she admitted she kissed him realised she was making a mistake told him to sleep in the kids room i took her on her word a week after we was going out on a date i waited at the bottom of the stairs i overheard her say to the babysitter dont tell gary he slept in my bed i took her for a drive and confronted her she denied anything happened so we ended up back together a month later and i guess my continued asking prompted another split

 

it was a saturday id gone out and it was say 2am in the morning i was passing a local pub when i glanced in and saw her sat with the same guy so i decided to wait across the road to be sure sure enough an hour later she came out hand in hand i confronted them the guy became aggressive i had no fight in me he kicked me etc on the ground she walked off with him i was in bits the next day she rang me as though nothing had really happened she said i didnt fight hard enough for her (wtf)

 

a week went by and it was a saturday i walked past the same pub she was sat there with him and her mother i walked in and hit him then left weeks went by and she began talking with me we ended up back together she fell pregnant and 2 years on we married

 

2 weeks after we married we was friendly with her chief bridesmaid and she always came to our house for drinks toward the end of the evening as we all became drunk the conversation always came about sex we would discuss threesomes etc anyway we all went out around 10 of us her friend seemed to hang around me a lot that night we all got quite merry went home around 5 of us where left we all went to our house sat listening to music my wife and her friend began being silly on the floor everyone else had fell asleep by now my wifes friend said im off to bed and i said i was too i went upstairs and she was already lay in our bed in her pyjamas i said come on get out please i want to goto bed jokingly she said no my wife came in and i said will you ask her to leave please my wide jokingly said no at this point i thought they where testing me so i got into bed i began kissing my wife i really thought she would get out of bed at this point and jokingly i said im taking my wifes pants off but no her friend still lay there next thing i was going south on my wife literally for seconds as i came back up she was kissing her friend

 

i was stunned got out of the bed went to the toilet i sat thinking for a moment then i thought no went into the room and caught her friend springing up from underneath the sheets i punched the wall told her to get the **** out she left me and the wife slept apart for 2 days i began thinking had i had a part to play in it and we sorted things out since that i always had the impression it had turned on and we regular used it as a fantasy whilst engaging into sex my wife has a few issues in her life wether these make any sense to anyone but she was sexually abused as a child left home at 15 she had a bad upbringing with no love her sole reason for our final seperation which is happening right now and im totally destroyed is due to my lack of attention toward her she says shes tried to tell me and i totally agree with her i dont tell her i love her enough i dont hold her hand etc out in public i see what ive been like now and im willing to change how iam i blame it on the things that shes put me through plus ive been a stay at home dad for 4 years and i moan at her when she wants to go out without me and i moan about finances she spends on crap not needed but as she works i guess shes entitled to she asked for space and time to heal so i came to my mums i guess keep txting her every hour of the day has just made it worse she said i keep pushing her further away

 

then yesterday i made a big mistake she left her netbook logged into facebook i had to see if there was sumone else there was a guy i began reading sum messages heres just a few she said to him ur stunningxxxxxx do you have a girlfriend xxxxxxi have a 4 bedroom house you can stayxxxxx i shut the netbook shaking with anger i went to her place of work confronted her she said it was her nephew i threw her netbook at the floor and drove away got home read the start of the messages and nearly died it really was her nephew she hadnt seen since 3 years old now 17 i went to her house to apologise and the day after i apologised for my conduct at her workplace i think that might of been the last straw for her shes stopped our joint account iam very mixed up i was looking after the children whilst she works as i have done everyday since we broke up approx 6 weeks ago ive been at my mums 3 weeks yesterday i lent over to her kissed her forehead then placed my forehead to hers she didnt move away until our son came in then went to the door having a smoke as i left i kissed her cheek twice she said just go gary im really struggling to let go i know the things she needed i can do but she wont give me the chance also what are my rights if anyone knows