Cali408 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I try not thinking about it, but the thought just keeps on coming back. I try to cheer myself up by telling myself that I'm single, but I never wanted to be single in the first place. I don't know if I'm ever going to find a more prettier girl that loved me more than my ex. Your last sentence is you feeling sorry for yourself. It's not about how pretty she is. It's what's inside that counts.
theonlyjuan Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 If you treated your ex well and tried your best then the next guy has a lot to live up to.
esteem-jam Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Just remember how male penis works. She has sex with some other guy. For 10-15-30 minutes tops. 30 minutes is pretty heavy, youll agree ;p After that, the other guy cant have an erection for lets say 3-6-24-48 hours. Depends on stamina, many factors. But the idea remains. Lets round it down. She can have sex for 20 minutes. Thats how long you will hurt. Then that guy cant have sex, and thats when you are free, not hurting. Do whatever you want.
Author L.D.702 Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 Your last sentence is you feeling sorry for yourself. It's not about how pretty she is. It's what's inside that counts. I know it's what's inside that counts but since being a male I tend to look from the outside in. She was a more beautiful person inside than outside that's the reason why I'm feeling depressed. If she was just cute and wasn't the amazing person she was inside then I wouldn't be feeling this. But just the thought of how pretty she is and that she can have any man she wants is unbearable.
Author L.D.702 Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 Just remember how male penis works. She has sex with some other guy. For 10-15-30 minutes tops. 30 minutes is pretty heavy, youll agree ;p After that, the other guy cant have an erection for lets say 3-6-24-48 hours. Depends on stamina, many factors. But the idea remains. Lets round it down. She can have sex for 20 minutes. Thats how long you will hurt. Then that guy cant have sex, and thats when you are free, not hurting. Do whatever you want. Yes well just the thought of her having sex and wanting more after they're done is really messing with my brain. I know it's going to happen one day, but it just sucks that, it is going to happen.
esteem-jam Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 having sex and wanting more after they're done They want more, but they cant do it - its swollen, they are tired, etc. Thats your time frame, thats your gap - when they dont have sex. When they have sex you are hurting (maybe), when they dont have sex you are not hurting. Not hurting time-wise outweighs the hurting.
Author L.D.702 Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 If you treated your ex well and tried your best then the next guy has a lot to live up to. To tell you the truth I wasn't the best boyfriend ever, I had flaws and so did she. I had anger issues, I wasn't mad all the time it's just that when I did get mad I just went out of control. I never hit her, I would just hit something else. She wasn't the best girl either, but was really close to it in my mind.
Salvatore85 Posted August 30, 2013 Posted August 30, 2013 To tell you the truth I wasn't the best boyfriend ever, I had flaws and so did she. I had anger issues, I wasn't mad all the time it's just that when I did get mad I just went out of control. I never hit her, I would just hit something else. She wasn't the best girl either, but was really close to it in my mind. Stop this crap immediately. Blaming yourself doesn't do you any good whatsoever. This is your time to start healing and beating yourself up over things that most likely had nothing to do with her decisions anyway is not the way to do it. If you've made mistakes then you need to learn from them so you don't make the same mistakes with the next girl and I promise you there will be another one. As far as your ex sleeping with someone else, just don't think about it. I know it's hard, I did the same thing but it got me absolutely no where in my healing process. All my friends are in long-term relationships and it sucks to constantly be the third wheel so I took it upon myself to start working out. I lift, run and do cardio everyday and I'm now in the best shape of my life and it has helped me so much with my emotions about the break up. Find something that takes your mind off of it and attack it. If I can survive it so can you! 1
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Hey L D, One thing I forgot to mention is this: and believe me when I tell you this, one year from now she'll be a total stranger to you. You obviously will not have forgotten her, but the very thought of you having sex with her, holding, kissing etc.. Will feel alien to you, foreign, odd. Trust me.
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