elvega Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I met a girl on OKC, I showed her 4 pics and she says I look different in all of them. We exchange numbers and start texting everyday and the exchanges become very personal and intimate. Our first date ends up at a restaurant. We spend about 1.5 hours there then I ask her to go out for drinks and she says yes. We spend about 2.5 hours at a coffee shop nearby. I hug her goodbye and text her the next day to ask for a second date Her reply is that "I don't think it would work out between us." I ask if there wasn't any physical chemistry and she says "yeah I wasn't feeling it" and that she had a good time but "I just know when someone isnt romantically right for me." So rather than humiliate myself by asking what the real problem was I decided to leave it at that, but I really want to know if she just thought I wasn't good looking in person.
Woop1337 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 She gave you a shot, how? Simply because you guys met up. Most likely you are right, she was not physically attracted to you. Dont sweat the details, why she denied a second date. It's all good bro. On to the next. 2
jacg89 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 I'd say so.. But at least she didn't leave you hanging Move on and find the right person for you! I'm in the same boat. haha Good Luck!!!
CherryT Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 It doesn't mean you're not good looking, you just might not be her type. I don't find men with blonde hair blue eyes all that attractive but I know tones of girls who do. Different strokes for different folks... it's ok! On to the next. 2
Author elvega Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 It doesn't mean you're not good looking, you just might not be her type. I don't find men with blonde hair blue eyes all that attractive but I know tones of girls who do. Different strokes for different folks... it's ok! On to the next. OK. But if she sees like 6 pictures and a video of me singing isn't that enough opportunities to rule me out there? Plus, if you don't like a guys looks and he's not your type, why agree to drinks after dinner?
nescafe1982 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 It's not all about looks. I went out with a guy from OLD once that was very handsome, charming, and nice. He reminded me of my brother. Yeah. That wasn't going to work out. Bottom line: it's hard not to take it personally, but please, OP, don't take it SO personally. It probably isn't you. 1
CherryT Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 OK. But if she sees like 6 pictures and a video of me singing isn't that enough opportunities to rule me out there? Plus, if you don't like a guys looks and he's not your type, why agree to drinks after dinner? You may not have her ideal type looks wise, but thought you were a gentleman and was open to meeting you. Once she met you, she just didn't feel a connection. Why beat yourself up about it? And assume it was because you weren't good looking enough? It's one girl and one date, not much of an emotional or time investment... so don't make it that.
Mark1 Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 It was very nice of her to text you that. Much more mature than not replying or playing games.
tbf Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 Chemistry isn't just about looks and in your sitch, with six pics and a clip, it's very likely not about looks. It's impossible to define chemistry, except that it's part physical attraction which includes body language/facial expressions, part personality, part character and part more than that. It's either there or not upon meet. 2
Mr_Flay Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 It's impossible to define chemistry, except that it's part physical attraction which includes body language/facial expressions, part personality, part character and part more than that. It's either there or not upon meet. I agree. Some even say it's the smell, pheromones or whatever you want to call it. You may be good looking, but the attraction still isn't there. OP, be grateful she didn't blow you off when she saw your pics. That happens far too often in OLD. 1
Author elvega Posted August 29, 2013 Author Posted August 29, 2013 I agree. Some even say it's the smell, pheromones or whatever you want to call it. You may be good looking, but the attraction still isn't there. OP, be grateful she didn't blow you off when she saw your pics. That happens far too often in OLD. Duh! Why do you think I was so destroyed! By my message count I've already been blown off 100 times and this is the 1 that led anywhere. By the way, tbf I like the way "six pics and a clip" rings. I think I'm going to make a rap album about online dating and use that for a title 1
Dzlez Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 This is why you don't go find girls/guys on dating sites. They always have options.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 29, 2013 Posted August 29, 2013 That's why you should meet people ASAP. 1
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