Date but second guessing if I'm ready

[Jangles524]

My ex of over 6 years broke up with me a month ago.

 

I feel like I am getting past it, and recently started poking around on dating sites, not really looking for anything but seeing what happens.

 

Well, what happened is I started talking to a gal, went on a date, and it actually went surprisingly well. We hit it off, like each other, but now I'm second guessing if I'm ready.

 

I still miss my ex, a lot. I think about it a lot. I want to move on, but I am worried not much time has passed, and that I am subconsciously setting up a rebound, which I do not want. I don't want to hurt anyone or lead anyone on.

 

I am feeling conflicted and starting to think I should let her know, stop contacting her, and give myself more time.

 

What would y'all do?

[TrblinMN]

This is exactly what I went through tonight. I had a great date but in the back of the mind, I didn't want to lead them on or mislead them in any way. I went out to just have fun and get to know her. But it was impossible not to compare her to my ex. Overall, I am glad I went out because I had fun and wanted to keep it light and get that feeling back again to date. Nothing more, nothing less. I hope you too can get back in the dating scene as well even though it is very difficult. But keep in mind, you are not alone and there are others are going through the same things. Good luck!

[D-Lish]

I wouldn't deny yourself the pleasure of the company of a person you connect with. You don't have to jump into a relationship with this girl.

 

I would take her out again and disclose what's going on, how you feel- and be open about your confusion. She may decide she doesn't want to continue further, or she may be open to taking things slowly. Since the two of you connected, I'd give her a face to face explanation if you do decide to stop talking to her.

 

You're rushing full steam ahead worrying about getting involved in another relationship when there is no need to think that far ahead at the moment.

 

I can tell you from my own experience, that people don't come along too often in my life that I want to go on a first date with- let alone a second one. Even if the timing is bad, it might be worth exploring further. I guess what I'm saying is, don't burn the bridge unless you're sure you don't want to keep that pathway open.